Resources for a Second Wedding? Magazines, etc?
LOVE the Knot, but... does anyone know of any other resources out there for second time brides?
I went through the bookstore this weekend and there was an entire wedding section. And every book and magazine seemed targeted toward first weddings.
I'm sure some of you can relate - this time around will be smaller, more intimate - less about the details and more about the commitment. Meaning - I am not having a dress, or a cake, or groomsmen. It's depressing - all it does is make me second guess my decision to forego all of that pomp and fluff this time around... it's marketing.
Is there a magazine out there that I might find useful? Or not 
?
Secondly, what are some of you doing to make sure your moment is magical if, like us, you are choosing to do something super small and intimate?
Thanks,
Gonnaberachelk
Re: Resources for a Second Wedding? Magazines, etc?
Some of us are doing all out stuff, some smaller and scaled down. I'm sure you will get a lot of input here, everyone is very helpful.
This is my first marriage, but my fiance's 3rd. So while it's not a subsequent wedding for me, I'm much more mature than the first time brides and feel very welcome here.
As for your plans, I'd talk to your fiance and see what he envisions. I've read on some posts, imagine it's the day after your wedding, what would you like to be talking about? Who was there? What happened? What things did you "re-do" that you did the first time you were married, but it felt better this time around? Is there a place that's special to both of you where you'd like to celebrate the ceremony and/or reception? Doesn't have to be fancy, but meaningful.
Good luck. I'm sure the inspiration will come to you.
As for ways we made our intimate (a dozen guests) ceremony meaningful, you might want to check out this post I did about our wedding planning. Suffice it to say that everything from having my ex-husband give the blessing over bread to coming up with a custom ketubah (Jewish wedding contract) was very much "us."
Our wedding bio page (including vendor reviews) and items for sale
I find the following books very helpful, for reality checks, if not out-right advice:
The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams: Planning Together for Less Stress and More Joy
Simple Stunning Weddings: Designing and Creating Your Perfect Celebration
The Wedding Guide for the Grownup Bride: Getting Married When You're Old Enough to Know What You're Doing
by Shelly Christiansen
I also love to go to stylemepretty.com. I find inspiration while browsing through their Real Weddings section. In fact, I found both my wedding canopy and cake topper (and we weren't even considering a cake topper) while looking at the site.
Best of luck!
[QUOTE]LOVE the Knot, but... does anyone know of any other resources out there for second time brides? I went through the bookstore this weekend and there was an entire wedding section. And every book and magazine seemed targeted toward first weddings. I'm sure some of you can relate - this time around will be smaller, more intimate - less about the details and more about the commitment. Meaning -<strong><font color="#ff0000"> I am not having a dress</font></strong>, or a cake, or groomsmen. It's depressing - all it does is make me second guess my decision to forego all of that pomp and fluff this time around... it's marketing. Is there a magazine out there that I might find useful? Or not :( ? Secondly, what are some of you doing to make sure your moment is magical if, like us, you are choosing to do something super small and intimate? Thanks, Gonnaberachelk
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Wait a minute!! <strong>Are ya planning on being naked??</strong> Or have you decided to wear pants? Either is a valid option, although you might be arrested for going au naturel. LOL!
I'm not wearing a bridal gown (nor did I for my first wedding), but certainly plan to make it a dressy affair (for me). Take a look at the post re: wedding gowns for brides over 50 (down there somewhere) and see if you find inspiration.
Good luck!
GonnaBeRachelK - no where does it say that you have to give up the things you would like for your celebration of love. If you want a dress, get a dress, if you want attendants have them - have the wedding you want. If you want an intimate ceremony with a party afterward go for it.
I agree though that there are a lot of resources that assume all brides are first timers and young. Which isn't the best assumption to make in this day and age.
We decided to do a destination wedding. This helps us alleviate the temptation to start inviting lots and lots of people. It is just us and immediate family. And since we are getting married the first day of our cruise we will have a whole week to celebrate with our families!
Like dresses, veils, family, invites, etc.
That's the beauty of second weddings though! You can do things any way you wish! There's no need to go by "tradition" or anything else unless you choose to. Our wedding theme is going to be "A Whole New World" because for us it is a whole new world... And my fiance treats me like a princess..so why not be one for a day?!
And that's how it should be done!
You can keep it as low key or as fancy as you want! Ours is going to be a small, back yard wedding. So casual, informal... but whatever makes us happy is what we'll do!