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July 2012 Weddings
XP- How many guests for your bachelorette party and bridal shower?
So my BM got ahold of me yesterday because she was ordering stuff on Oriental Trading for her son's birthday party and was going to get some stuff for my bachelorette party just to combine the order. She asked me how many people would probably be there. I said 15-20. Is that too many? Too few? Also, it got me thinking about the bridal shower guest list and I used the handy-dandy tool on TK and I have like 50ish that would probably be invited to the shower. I have a guest list of 223 so my BM(different) said that wasn't too bad for as many guests as there are, but my cousin said that was a really high number for a shower.
When my BM asked about a shower and b-party, I made it clear that I didn't want anything fancy or expensive, so pizza or something cheap would be fine. So I don't know if the cost thing is a problem, but what does everyone think?
Also, not totally unrelated, did you guys put your foot down on some things for your b-party? Like no strippers is a big one, but my BM mentioned a tiara for me and I just said I don't want penises on it. She called me a prude! I just would want to have it in my house and not feel like I have to hide it from my 9yo future step daughter. Was I out of line?
When my BM asked about a shower and b-party, I made it clear that I didn't want anything fancy or expensive, so pizza or something cheap would be fine. So I don't know if the cost thing is a problem, but what does everyone think?
Also, not totally unrelated, did you guys put your foot down on some things for your b-party? Like no strippers is a big one, but my BM mentioned a tiara for me and I just said I don't want penises on it. She called me a prude! I just would want to have it in my house and not feel like I have to hide it from my 9yo future step daughter. Was I out of line?
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Re: XP- How many guests for your bachelorette party and bridal shower?
As for Bachelorette party, that number really depends on what you want. If you feel those 15-20 people are your nearest and dearest then go for it. I don't know if it's the same way in your circle, but your BM shouldn't really have to worry about the cost for things for your Bach (unless she wants to provide favors for everyone withour charging but then i'm sure your other BMS could chip in if they wanted to) because usually everyone who's going chips in for bach party (except the bride). That's the way it is where I'm from anyways...And I'm having about 6-9 people at my bachelorette.
And definitely put your foot down about whatever you don't want to do or don't feel comfortable about. There's no reason you should be forced to wear penises on a tiara if you don't want to!
It depends what you do for the bachelorette, but I would tend to not want to do a big group for that if you plan to do bar/club hopping, just b/c it gets hard to keep the group together when your ready to bounce to the next stop.
as for the b-party, we aren't having b-parties since we live so far away from everyone...however, if we had one, we'd probably have around 15-20 people...maybe more at the bars/club...but those wouldn't need anything, just the bridal party would need the 'fun' stuff to say this is who we are...
I'm going to have 4 showers
#1: Hosted by my aunt & BMs 4 hours away, in the town I grew up in
#2: Hosted by FMIL's friends/my co-workers here
#3: Hosted by my best friend (MOH)'s mom- she wants a mother/daughter shower (we all grew up together and it's just going to be a fun get together) This one will be 4 hours away
#4: Combined showers with FI's cousin- this will be FI's family only
I have no idea what the guest list will look like for each shower. I don't think each of them will be huge, we are NOT inviting same guest to more than one shower, except for my mom. I want my mommy by my side
I also Love all of the obnoxious Bachelorette stuff so I am all for wearing it, but I would NEVER make anywhere where it if they are uncomfortable! The more tacky the better hahah
I think your numbers are totally fine. We're inviting 225 people to the wedding. The shower is about 50ish people, but many are OOT and will not come. For the bachelorette party, it's 10-12 of us. It's destination (Vegas) so I didn't think everyone that my MOH invited would be able to come anyway (she invited 25).
Edited to add: For the bach party, my friends attending the bach party are only paying for one night's activities - one fancy dinner/dancing. The rest of it I'm covering (including plane ticket, drinks, etc.).
i also think your numbers are totally appropriate - don't worry about them at all. my shower will be around 60ish on the invite list, and i am planning to have between 15-20 invited to the bachelorette party (although lots of my close girlfriends are far away, so we will probably be between 10-15 in actual attendance).
[QUOTE]<strong>totally agree with the others. penis decorations, cakes, etc. are hilarious, and your bachelorette party is the one time it is appropriate and acceptable to be so hilarious. i don't want any strippers either. it is fine to put your foot down if you really want your bachelorette party to be G-rated - but c'mon, have some fun with your girls!</strong> i also think your numbers are totally appropriate - don't worry about them at all. my shower will be around 60ish on the invite list, and i am planning to have between 15-20 invited to the bachelorette party (although lots of my close girlfriends are far away, so we will probably be between 10-15 in actual attendance).
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]
I'm totally fine with it and I'm not a prude. My sister had one and it was great, but as I said, I don't want it to be something I have to hide from my step-daughter. Penis necklaces and rings are great, because I can hide stick those in my beside drawer and not worry about it. Also, my mom IS a prude and I mentioned that BM was ordering stuff and she said, "Really? Do we have no class?" She doesn't think much of BM anyway, but she definitely has a stick up her butt sometimes. My bach party is my BMs and a couple of GMs SO's. My moms and his. A couple cousins, a couple aunts, and a couple friends. I don't think a lot of them will come, but that's the invite list.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: XP- How many guests for your bachelorette party and bridal shower? : I'm totally fine with it and I'm not a prude. My sister had one and it was great, but as I said, I don't want it to be something I have to hide from my step-daughter. Penis necklaces and rings are great, because I can hide stick those in my beside drawer and not worry about it. Also, my mom IS a prude and I mentioned that BM was ordering stuff and she said, "Really? Do we have no class?" She doesn't think much of BM anyway, but she definitely has a stick up her butt sometimes. My bach party is my BMs and a couple of GMs SO's. My moms and his. A couple cousins, a couple aunts, and a couple friends. I don't think a lot of them will come, but that's the invite list.
Posted by mandctaft[/QUOTE]
totally understand about mothers and penis decorations not mixing. perhaps while your mom and his mom are around, you guys could do dinner/punch/present opening/etc., and then the moms could leave and you guys could do the more inappropriate stuff (like penis decorations and naughty games) then? that is how it has operated at some of the parties i have been to where moms were invited :)
However, if the 9-yr-old isn't coming, then why not just get rid of the stuff afterwards? Like, throw it out or give it away to someone who just HAS to have a penis tiara in their accessories drawer? Your future stepdaughter won't find it in your place if you get rid of it! Most of the stuff is disposable anyway, right? I mean, I am NOT keeping a penis tiara. Even though I think it would be hysterical to give to my fiance because he would not find it funny at all . . .