Do you know 350 people?

nda_roxybabe · March 2010

All these posts will all the 350+ weddings and 100+showers have got me thinking...

How many would you want to invite to your wedding if money and space weren't a problem?
How many people will/ did you invite?

T and I talked that we will probably invite about 75 people to our wedding. I don't even know 200 people that I would want at my wedding. Maybe I'm just a friendless loser.

JessAndTrav · March 2010

We had about 276 people invited, though we knew some of those people wouldn't come. We ended up having about 190-210ish come, and that was plenty.

If money weren't an object, I probably would have had a DW somewhere and just paid for everyone to come.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

if space and money weren't a problem, I'd still invite less than 150. I'm at 115 right now with probably 90 or less attending. That was exactly what we wanted.

To be honest, I *probably* know that many people because my dad has a ridiculous extended family (40+ first cousins) so if I invited my dad's entire family that alone could be almost 200 people. I haven't seen any of them in 6 years, though. I certainly don't have that many friends. In fact, my side of the guest list is about 1/3 and FI's is about 2/3 of who we are inviting. Our best friends from high school, college, grad school and now. Plus immediate family, aunts, uncles, and cousins.

cac847 · March 2010

To get 350 people I'd have to invite everyone I've ever met. We're looking at around 120 including guests for everyone, and half of that is family.

ExpatPumpkin · March 2010

Unfortunately, yes. When my BIL got married, there were 500 guests. That is exactly what we did NOT want, hence the DW

luckyme502 · March 2010

I wonder about that too. Especially when I watch platinum weddings and those people invite 600 people. Do we know 350+ people, yes. Would we ever invite that many people to our wedding, even if money was no object, no. We have always wanted a smaller wedding.

nda_roxybabe · March 2010

I suck. Seriously, I don't think I even know 200 people.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

You have to think that with 500+ people, it is probably a lot of their parents' business associates, plus ones for everybody, members of their church, etc, etc.

mags0607 · March 2010

We are at 300 right now, and honestly Fi and I would love if everyone showed up, although we know that is not possible. I come from a huge family, my dad is one of 9, and I have 16 first cousins, most of whom I see all the time. Fi's family is more spread out across the country, but tries to get together every few years, and our wedding will be one of those times.

I can honestly say Fi or I personally know every single person we invited, and have been close to them at some point in our lives. If we didn;t have such a huge family, our guest list would probably be less than half of what it is now.

I will not be having a 100 person shower though, that's too big for a shower IMO.

sarabear23 · March 2010

We invited 210, and have 91 coming. 90% were OOT, and a lot are friends of my FI. Then again, he considers everyone he has talked to in the last 10 years his close friend. haha
Im really happy with the number we have coming tho.

MandaBelle1211 · March 2010

We both have big, close families and ended up having to draw the line at our parent's uncles and aunts. We really would've liked to invite their cousins as well, but the budget just wouldn't allow it.

We are inviting 240 as it is. With unlimited funds we easily could've had 350 (not saying I would necessarily want that many, however.)

JessAndTrav · March 2010

DH and I only know that many people because once you get all of our family together, it gets to be quite the crowd, and as I said in a different post, we met at our church as kids and grew up together. Since we still go there, the entire church was supportive of our relationship and decision to get married.

They were ecstatic that we prioritized our lives before we ran down the aisle, as many people in our church have done before.

So once you get the family, the church crowd and start adding in friends, the number got high for us really fast.

When MIL first sent me people that she'd consider inviting, I added it with my list and it was over 400. I almost fainted.

/novel

agk0125 · March 2010

I think the really large guestlists happen when there are huge families on both sides.

FI and I could have easily invited 150 people, but budget restricted us and we only invited 68 people. Personally, I always envisioned my wedding small so I'm very happy with our decisions. FI on the other hand wanted it to be HUGE. Don't ask me why, because he's a hermit. Once I showed him the how much it would all cost though he started to see it my way.

In an IDEAL world we would probably have invited 120 or so. Everything else about the wedding (casual, rustic, and remote) would stay the same though.

aprovencher21 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_350-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4e74943f-22de-41d3-8442-b3c6a23b3405Post:e93afed9-8b88-43af-b420-0ab056b29372">Re: Do you know 350 people?</a>:
[QUOTE]I wonder about that too. Especially when I watch platinum weddings and those people invite 600 people. Do we know 350+ people, yes. Would we ever invite that many people to our wedding, even if money was no object, no. We have always wanted a smaller wedding.
Posted by luckyme502[/QUOTE]

Love that show!! Though some of the things they spend their money on boogles the mind. But to each their own! Also of the 350+ weddings are cultural weddings where I can see things easily getting that big. I probably know 350+ people if I included business associates, all of my parents business friends, my huge extended Italian family.....like my third cousin's twice removed, etc. I would be overwhelmed with that many people and I wouldn't ever want that many at my wedding. We're having 150-160 people........that's even more than I originally wanted.

agk0125 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_350-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4e74943f-22de-41d3-8442-b3c6a23b3405Post:30237581-10fa-4f2c-9d52-8838b74f93f7">Re: Do you know 350 people?</a>:
[QUOTE]I suck. Seriously, I don't think I even know 200 people.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

Well if it makes you feel any better my list for my shower is a whopping 15 people INCLUDING myself and my mom. I feel like the mayor of loser-ville.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

nda_roxybabe · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_350-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4e74943f-22de-41d3-8442-b3c6a23b3405Post:8c1cb9d1-20df-41f5-b240-6f49a1b61a46">Re: Do you know 350 people?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you know 350 people? : Well if it makes you feel any better my list for my shower is a whopping 15 people INCLUDING myself and my mom. I feel like the mayor of loser-ville.
Posted by agk0125[/QUOTE]
When/ if/ whatever I have a shower I would only have T's mom and sister. Unless everyone was already in town for the wedding then it would be...30 people?

agk0125 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_350-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4e74943f-22de-41d3-8442-b3c6a23b3405Post:947f9f5c-ffc3-4b56-b418-f60a3df942be">Re: Do you know 350 people?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you know 350 people? : When/ if/ whatever I have a shower I would only have T's mom and sister. Unless everyone was already in town for the wedding then it would be...30 people?
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

30 people? You're super popular!

Koopa17 · March 2010

Not in the least! We invited every person we and our parents wanted to, and our list was only like 175, with only about 110 at the wedding. My shower was also small. Neither of us have big families and I'm not quite the social butterfly

nda_roxybabe · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_350-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4e74943f-22de-41d3-8442-b3c6a23b3405Post:7143d6eb-2062-4cda-8e9a-58ada87679d3">Re: Do you know 350 people?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you know 350 people? : 30 people? You're super popular!
Posted by agk0125[/QUOTE]
Super popular with grandma, aunts and cousin. Haha oh well, I have good friends and good family even if theres not a lot of them.

Koopa17 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_350-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4e74943f-22de-41d3-8442-b3c6a23b3405Post:b1d1c392-556b-406a-9ca9-419e321a3a95">Re: Do you know 350 people?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you know 350 people? : Super popular with grandma, aunts and cousin. Haha oh well, I have good friends and good family even if theres not a lot of them.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

Haha, that's how mine was! Oh well, just think of the fact that you will have more time to enjoy yourself at the wedding and won't be having to greet 300+ people. 110 was hard enough!

nda_roxybabe · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_350-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4e74943f-22de-41d3-8442-b3c6a23b3405Post:1010009b-cef8-487d-ab9f-0062189c9ced">Re: Do you know 350 people?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you know 350 people? : Haha, that's how mine was! Oh well, just think of the fact that you will have more time to enjoy yourself at the wedding and won't be having to greet 300+ people. 110 was hard enough!
Posted by Koopa17[/QUOTE]
And won't have to pay for all those people.

Koopa17 · March 2010

Ha, also a big plus!

I love your profile pic. Does Quincy pout if you put a shirt or anything on him? Bowser lays around with his ears back and tries to avoid moving.

branz7 · March 2010

I def know this many people...lots of extended family, plus I'm an actor so with each production you make 20-50 new friends or acquaintances...multiply this by like five times a year...yeah that's a lot.

BUT would I ever want that many people there even if money was no object? Nah.

If money wasn't an issue, I would add maybe ten more names to my list, and enjoy the fact that I didn't have to stress about how to keep costs down!

I'd still be reasonable, but I wouldn't be losing sleep...like I seem to be right now! haha

Platinum weddings...grrr for making us feel inadequate...

luckyme502 · March 2010

See platinum weddings never makes me feel inadequate. I just like watching the show. Sometimes I think they are great weddings, sometimes I think they are awful. It always amuses me how they all want to be unique, but they end up looking so similar, especially the decor.

branz7 · March 2010

You are certainly right about them all wanting to be different...but then all looking the same! I always notice that too.

future-mrs · March 2010

With my parents' list, his parents' list and our list we were a little up over 300 but that was including co-workers etc. (which was un-necessary IMO) We didn't know a lot of those people so we started making cuts once the list was compiled. We're now down to 200-ish people which I'm far more happy with, which happens to be mostly family from both sides and some friends scattered about.

danieliza1127 · March 2010

We invited 160 people and that was all we had to invite. That wasn't leaving anyone out. I can't imagine 350 people! I assume that people with weddings that big are inviting church members, parents' friends and co-workers, old teachers, high school friend, etc. Basically, people they don't know well or aren't close to but somehow feel obligated to invite.

nhelene · March 2010

My A list is about 105, my B list is maybe an extra 15 people. I'm friends with a few people at work, but I wouldn't want to invite all of them to my wedding, so I'm inviting none. That probably wouldn't change with a bigger budget.

SarahPLiz · March 2010

I have 600+ FB friends, but no way would they all be invited (unless they could promise a good gift.. HA!). If money was not an object, we'd probably end up with 150-200, because then I could include 1st cousins on my mom's side, and good friends from triathlon and boot camp. I'd be hard pressed to find 350 people to invite, much less 100 for a shower. Im not even getting a shower.. there are only 8 in-town guests..

samurai21 · March 2010

if money were not object I'd have a DW and only invite close family and friends. But, my parents are paying for the wedding so our list is a staggering, to me, 276 people right now. A lot of it is FI's late father was one of 10 children, and all of his siblings, spouses, kids, etc. plan on coming. That part of the family alone is about 50 people on the list.

Edit: But, FI and I know every person on the guets list. We met in High School and grew up in a fairly small/close community, so we're close friends with a lot of people.

FutureMrsTR · March 2010

As of now we're invited 107 and expecting about 90. If money were no object we'd probably end up around 150. We just don't know that many people really well and only want close friends and family there.

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