My mother has slowly chipped away at our relationship for years and I have finally gotten fedup with it all and cut her out of my life. I thought with my wedding coming up in the fall I would be sad but frankly, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. Now I don't have to worry about her harassing my other relatives or causing a scene. My concern is that those who don't know the history between us (my fiance's family and friends) will judge me or misunderstand why she is not present at the wedding.
I don't want to make a huge deal by communicating it to everyone "Hey, my crazy mom isn't coming!" but I also don't want to hear "where is your mother?" all night. Any suggestions?