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Already married-- wedding doubts?

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This is for those of us Oct. Knotties who have already gotten married-- those of you yet to come, don't read here! You have enough to worry about. ;)

So obviously I'm not talking about marriage doubts. I love my husband, and am so glad we'll spend the rest of our lives together.

What I have doubts about is the wedding. There's obviously no going back, and I know what matters is we got married, and I'm fine with that. But we planned for so long and spent so much money on it and now that it's over, I have all this free time to worry, "Did people have fun? Will the pictures be okay? Why didn't I lose another five pounds? Were the lights okay? Was it too cold?"

Is anyone else going through these pointless circles of self- or wedding-doubt, or are you all non-crazy people who aren't torturing yourself? ;)
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  • schnugglebugschnugglebug
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    NOt torturing myself... it WAS cold... people left during the ceremony to get jackets... then it started to rain during our outdoor ceremony.. then HAIL and we had to run inside to finish it lol (of course after the sun came back out again LOL)

    all in all it was HILARIOUS (after the fact)... people seemed to have fun.. and honestly all that matters is I DID enjoy it, I had fun, I ended up married to the love of my life... and I could not have asked for more

    ok maybe I could have asked that the bubble machine worked (but it go clogged with water) lol or that when we walked down the aisle as husband and wife if the music we had chosen would have played (but the music was outside with the DJ scrambling for cover and to save his equipment... but nope it's alright...

    I am a very happily married woman :D
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  • photochick2013photochick2013
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    I don't think it's only you. When the family drama flairs up I wish that we just went to Vegas and used the money to pay off my student loans instead of having a big wedding. But you can't change what has happened (or is about to happen) Just know you had a great time and you're happy!
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  • tamrahelmertamrahelmer
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    Definitely not only you. A lot of our guests left early, and I was so completely sad about that. Now that the wedding is over I wish I wouldnt have spent as much money, or stressed as much. Literally the first words out of my husband after getting in the car after the reception was " I can't wait for you to be able to not be stressed out anymore."

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  • bkhokie27bkhokie27
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    In my case, everything went by sooo fast.  Planning for 2 months straight and then getting married.  Then we only had 1.5 hours of real wedding time (ceremony followed by reception--no dancing, garter/bouquet toss, long speeches) and we were gone for awhile to do pictures.  It's over and done with.  I just hope my guests had a good time and don't feel like we were ignoring them.
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  • magpie721magpie721
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    I agree with bkhokie--I think what disappointed me most is that it all went by so quickly!  I have obsessed over a few of the (insignificant) mistakes and oversights: I forgot the necklace and bracelet I was going to wear; our slideshow wasn't maximized on the screen, so it was a bit difficult to see; my husband and I didn't make it to every table to say hello to all of our guests; the lights weren't dimmed for dancing until the third or fourth song in our playlist...

    I just keep trying to remind myself that, overall, it was a success and that many of our guests commented on how much fun they had.  So much went perfectly--and it really was a great day spent with everyone I love (my new husband, especially!).  I would just remind yourself that everyone was there to celebrate you and your husband.  All they'll remember is the fun and joyousness of the day, I'm sure. :)
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  • xxjen015xxjen015
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    I was fairly laid back throughout it all, so I don't really have any. I think it turned out perfectly. I wish I had had more time to dance, and that we had put a light on our cake tables....but overall, it couldn't have been any better. I would, however, take a day or two after the wedding to rest before the honeymoon!!
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  • SteveAndSara2005SteveAndSara2005
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    I thought I was the only one!! I keep asking myself if I were a guest would our wedding be fun?! It took so long to walk around to the tables so the DJ didn't open the dance floor and There was only dancing for like an hour.. which I was soooo upset over because I love to get down with my girlfriends!! I'm so sad its over :(   
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  • udream05udream05
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    Me too!! I keep trying to focus on this good things about the weekend..but it wasn't as perfect as it should have been and I'm so frustrated.  DH's friend was supposed to marry us turned into a complete mess and now I just wish a whole lot of bad karma on him. And it stressed FI out completely all weekend which sucked too.  And then my dj wasn't that great and I wasn't all that impressed with our expensive photographer that day either... really hoping out photographs come out well because she seemed to be MIA quite a bit..hoping she was just taking pictures and while I was enjoying myself.  And people weren't dancing as much as I would have hoped so I still hope they had fun!
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