It seems to be a not-so-uncommon thing at least here in South Florida for the bridal shower hostess to ask attendees to contribute to the bridal shower, for example to give $20 to attend, which goes towards the shower, and if any money is left over it goes to the bachelorette party. I was wondering if anyone else has seen this?
I'm particularly curious because my MOH has her own small business and became pregnant and has to save up for maternity leave since she doesn't get paid for maternity leave. She will be 7 months pregnant at my wedding. I feel guilty now given her situation that she already has to travel to Boston and pay all the expenses that go along with that. So I do not expect her to pay for the shower. My 2 other bridesmaids that are here in Florida also don't have a lot of expendable income, and neither does my mom, who is already contributing a lot for the wedding. I don't have many relatives and have not had any other offers of hosting a shower.
Anyway, I don't really care if I have a shower or not, but MOH has mentioned to me that she would like to plan one. So this idea of asking attendees to contribute crossed my mind to help her out with the cost, yet at the same time, I think some people would consider it tacky, rude. Thoughts?