I always knew that if my finance had sisters, they would automatically be in my wedding party, and i always knew my two cousins whom i am very close too would be in my wedding party, but i never really had a maid of honor. I basically chose one by default. The girl (a very close cousin of mine) i wanted to be my maid of honor, lived 8 hours away and has 2 small children - one of whom is my flower girl, so i never asked her to be a bridesmaid because of those two reason. i didnt want to impose the expense or headache on her, i never asked. When all along she was the only person i wanted. Now, she is incredilbly hurt and upset that i never asked which in turn is making me feel very hurt that i never asked her. That i automatically assumed she wouldnt want to be involved. When we talked about it, she said that it would never have been an imposition and she would be incredibly honored and always figured she would be involved. Now i feel that if i were to ask her she would think it would be out of pity....what do i do?!?!?!?? HELP!