The "Are you ready/old enough/etc. for marriage" Question

Re: The "Are you ready/old enough/etc. for marriage" Question

• Shia member

  

  December 2011

  I will be 25 and my fiance will be 26 during our wedding and so far no one has told us we are too young to get married. We are having a two year engagement and we are both graduating from college this week but we have another year before our wedding. I believe our families would have been worried if we got married while we were still in school. 

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• Jaridds68

  

  December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_readyold-enoughetc-marriage-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a9ffaf17-6a8e-4477-9982-4667f068b264Post:101e92ab-c81b-4298-af8d-9b06027efe99">Re: The "Are you ready/old enough/etc. for marriage" Question</a>:
  [QUOTE]...I think it has a lot to do with life experience and I don't think all life experience is made equal... 
  Posted by number55[/QUOTE]
  
  I agree, I think that the travel thing is relevant though if it's been a defining life experience for somebody. And I don't think it necessarily means going abroad - if I had stayed in CT I can't imagine how limited my world view would be. I know some may not agree, but personally I've found that I've matured as I've broadened my horizons. And as other PP's have said before, I think maturity is a key aspect of being ready for marriage.

  

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• jemmini6 member

  

  December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_readyold-enoughetc-marriage-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a9ffaf17-6a8e-4477-9982-4667f068b264Post:b7703bf0-4af2-4b1d-9ab1-87c0f043614d">Re: The "Are you ready/old enough/etc. for marriage" Question</a>:
  [QUOTE]<strong>I think it's more complicated than "maturity" or "independence." </strong> When my fiance and I started dating we were both technically mature and independent -- we'd each lived on our own, had at least some post-secondary education, done our share of traveling and experiencing life on our own, etc.  But even after we'd been dating a couple of years and had lived together for a while, we were still in no way ready to be married.  You have to get to a point where you're not just inserting your future spouse into your own particular future life plans or expecting them to fit into your life without you having to change very many things.  It wasn't until we finally started willingly making changes to accommodate each other and amending our separate goals for the future to really include each other that we realized we were ready to be married. 
  Posted by jayetheartist[/QUOTE]
  
  I agree.  You can be mature and independent without being ready for marriage.  But the point I think most people were trying to make is that you can't be ready for marriage without being mature and independent. 

  
  

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