How many details should be done by now?
Sorry for being a PW today but I’ve been wanting to ask about this for a while now cuz I’m going crazy worrying about it.
I know a lot of you have lots of checks done, but how much is really planned out and set in stone?? My biggest concern is the venue lady. Our venue does catering, table settings and centerpieces, most décor, DJ, tents.. just about everything. Cake, hors d'oeuvres, more décor, chapel decorations and lots of other things, she can do but at an extra cost. Ok no big. But I’ve been trying so hard with this lady to start planning things out and so far all we’ve got is ¾ of the table setting and centerpieces planned. I’ve seen her pics online and you can see all the different things she can do, and I KNOW they aren’t things that can be planned in 2 weeks. I want to get ahead cuz I already know how bad FI and I are at procrastinating. But every time I want to find out about all our options for décor, logistics and start planning… I don’t get very far with her. I want to map out things like where and how the escort card table will be setup, what other décor options do we have for the reception room, how can we hang the poms and lights from the tent ceiling, what do I need to buy, what do I need to start DIYing, who will be in charge of the day and how will they do it… and other things that aren’t coming to mind. Do most of you have big and little details mapped out with your venue? When does most of this start? I’m sooo scared I’ll be running around like a psycho the last 2 months if I can’t get this worked out now. Am I just crazy?! Lol
Re: How many details should be done by now?
I honestly don't have anything planned out with them. As per my contract the planning comes later when I meet the venue's wedding coordinator. And from what I've read the wedding coordinator tells everyone what to do.
As far as DIYing, I want to make the card box and I'm going to need to wrap my favors or something and figure out what I want to do with the table numbers, all of this has to wait until june . If you think that your venue lady requires you to DIY something but you don't know what you should really get on that (finding out what you need to DIY)! And I think you should also have what you expect from this lady finalized and in writing. That way you know what it's going to cost and you have no surprises.
The only DIY I'm attempting are favors (cake pops!).
I do have a few things nailed down that I felt were most important: Church, venue, photographer, DJ, florist (the who, not the flowers!), all attire including rings.
The other details such as invitations, gifts, favors, limos, my jewlery/accessories, hair/makeup are next and I feel the easier parts.
The BIG thing now is our honeymoon plans! HOPEFULLY that will be set in the next week or two.
I'm really not going over the top like a lot of my friends/relatives have. I have a set budget and so far I am under it (yay! more for HM in Maui!!!). So, that really helped. I also keep in mind how I barely remember small details about the weddings I attended, so I don't feel the need to micro-manage. I feel that would just set me up to be disappointed and have more things fail. This way, I can control what I can, and I know things will come together! My venue provides a coordinator who will be there on the wedding day. That has given me a lot of confidence, to turn such control over to her, thta I feel I can sit back and enjoy the day.
But what do I know? I've never planned a wedding before!