My family is pretty big. My dad is one of 12, and all his bothers and sisters have at least two kids each (some of them even have kids). My mom is only one of two (my uncle has two girls, and they all live in Alaska, we live in Michigan), but I have a bunch of great-aunts and second cousins (some are married and have children) that are fairly close on her side.
My FI has a smaller family. Only two of his cousins have children (five children total). One of his cousin's kids is his god-daughter, and she has an older sister.
We want a kid-free wedding. Basically, 21+. Mainly because of budget, but also because I have seen and heard horror stories of children at weddings (including cakes nearly being knocked over and such). BUT! I do want my cousins from Alaska there since not only are they my only first cousins on my mom's side, but I rarely get to see them. They will be 12 and 15 when the wedding comes around. I'd also like to include my FI's god-daughter because, well.....she's his god-daughter, and I don't want her sister to be left out. They will be about the same age as my cousins from Alaska as well.
Here's my problem....I don't want the other three children on his side to feel left out, especially because his family is so small compared to mine. But at the same time, I don't want anyone in my family (or any of our friends with children, for that matter) to be upset if they find out children from his side are invited, but not theirs.
My FI and I still need to discuss this, but I was curious if anyone else on here has run into a similar problem, and what they did. We just REALLY don't have it in our budget, and we're doing our best to get what we both want, without hurting anyones feelings.
