confused about groom's attire!

Re: confused about groom's attire!

• KrissLS member

  

  February 2010

  my dress is a slightly formal -very much a "church wedding" dress" as opposed to the more casual beachy dresses I was considering. I havent decided on bridesmaids dresses yet (this is what is really driving me crazy!) I will figure that out first. Thank you for your help!
  
  jeanna-ya he's picking my dress. really he has no desire to think about what he's wearign and he's already stated its all the same to him. i don't think that's all that unusual.

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• jeanna85 member

  

  February 2010

  hmmm sarcasm? lol

  

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• SpookyKiwi member

  

  February 2010

  Technically for a morning wedding, he would wear a morning suit/cutaway, but nowadays people choose whatever they are comfortable with.  Like many others said, choose something that goes with the formality of your ceremony and dress.  I personally went with my fiance to see different options and we chose something together.

  
  

  Also, most tux rental stores also have suits to rent and there are many options beyond the traditional-looking tux.  Usually there is a big book of their offerings that you can look through for ideas.

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• swim1011

  

  February 2010

  My FI and I just picked out the tuxes over the weekend.  Our wedding is pretty laid back, an outdoor ceremony.  We picked striped tuxes- they look more like suits than tuxes, and they're formal enough for a wedding, but laid back enough to fit in with our style.  Obviously, I'm not saying stripes are your thing, but they're pretty subtle- we found them at Men's Wearhouse, the Calvin Klein shadow striped tuxes.  PIB.  And FWIW, we were also very much considering suits.

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• MOBinFL2008

  

  February 2010

  Men's daytime formal wear is the cutaway coat with striped trousers.  For semi-formal, everything is the same except the wear a stroller instead of a cutaway.  Most guys would probably be more comfortable wearing the stroller since it is the same length as a regular tuxedo jacket whereas the cutaway is more like formal tails.
  
  That being said, I'm not sure if many rental places even carry strollers anymore.  I know MW does have a cutaway on its website.

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• mbcdefg member

  

  February 2010

  I would just print out some photos of your gown and the BM dresses, give them to him, and have him go to a formalwear shop or a place that sells nice suits (Syms, Nordstrom, Joseph A. Banks, a department store with a good menswear department, etc.) and have him ask for some help if he needs it. Sometimes these places have 2-for-1 sales, so maybe he can go in with a groomsman and they can each pay half.

  
  

  If he wants to rent a suit, I would ask your local board for suggestions on a place that does this in your area.
  
  For what it's worth, my FI decided on his attire with really no input from me. So it's not every guy that has his fiancee pick out his clothes. The only thing I suggested was a colored tie under a black vest, and he happened to like the idea so he went with it.

  

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• altroxle member

  

  February 2010

  For a morning wedding, suits should be fine. It's you day, right!? If it is at a seaside venue casual should be fine. You could even do something different like seersucker bow ties or something like that. Check out Luminaclothing.com or Collaredgreens.com, I really like their stuff!

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• sjnsjnsjn

  

  February 2010

  I love that they're basing their fashion advice on what people wore in the '70s!?  Will the reception be all polyester!? hahaha.  In all seriousness, though, I would be totally surprised to attend a morning ceremony & afternoon seaside reception and see the groom in a tux.  Formal attire like that screams nighttime and indoor. 

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• burnsbaby member

  

  February 2010

  If your fiance wants to wear a tux, let him wear a tux. He'll probably take of the jacket for the seaside reception anyway. It's his one day too and if he's never going to wear a suit again why bother keeping it in your closet? (and before anyone asks- no, I'm not keeping my dress. I'm doing a trash the dress session with my photographer.) My FI really wanted to at least wear a suit because he never gets dressed up and he knew his mom would really want to see him in one. Plus, he wanted to to respect the day. (we're doing a beachy wedding and his groomsmen are wearing white button downs with dark tan suit pants and we were debating on whether or not he should too or go with the full suit.) So, he'll be wearing a suit even though I was unsure about it. Really, if you get the tux without those tails it looks basically like a suit anyway.. But it should be you and your groom who decide, not other family members (even though their opinion is important, you don't have to go with it)

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• Ckirwin

  

  February 2010

  it's all about the style and formality of your event, like people have been saying. if your dress is a formal gown, then a formal suit would be very appropriate and sufficient. we're having a formal church wedding but the guys will be wearing very nice suits, not traditional tuxes. i agree that a tux might seem a little too formal for a beach side reception, but depending upon everyone else's attire and the formality of your reception then it could totally work. don't stress too much, it's your day and you can do whatever you want!
  
  EDIT: my FI has asked for my help in picking out his suit cuz he doesn't have the best fashion sense and wanted my opinion. it's not about me picking it for him, but more for me to be there to help him, which i think is pretty normal...

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• ceh91780 member

  

  February 2010

  We are having an evening wedding but aren't into the tux look.  We looked high and low to rent suits, but didn't find many nice options.  We ended up buying suits for the men from Men's Wearhouse.  They always have sales.  Check them out.

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• sonya_hoff member

  

  February 2010

  according to an etiquette guide i was just browsing though, tuxes aren't supposed to be worn until after 7 PM...if you are worried about formal guidelines.
  
   If you are in a church style formal gown, than i think he should at least be in a suit (Men's Warehouse or most other formal wear shops rent them, or you could try an upscale secondhand store).
  
  But it's his wedding too...just like this is your one chance to wear your formal gown, maybe this is his one excuse to wear a tux! 
  

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• tommyandy member

  

  February 2010

  Can you borrow a suit that will fit him?  Also, check the clearance racks right now for summer weight suits if you have to buy one.  Go for a classic style & color so it won't look to awkward if he doesn't wear it again for 3 years.  Pay the little bit extra to have it tailored to fit.  Your wedding pictures will look tons better.

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• tommyandy member

  

  February 2010

  However, if he really wants to wear a black tux in August....

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• kaburns1214 member

  

  February 2010

  "But my whole family is convinced that groom's always wear tuxedos and so is my fiancee!"
  
  I'm getting married at 11 a.m. too and my mother (who got married in the late 70s) thinks the same thing.  I've explained 12 times that daytime formal wear for men is a morning coat and since our wedding is not that formal, my FL and the BP will be wearing suits.
  
  We're looking to buy the suits.  Nice suits from JCrew in light colors are not much more expensive than renting.

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