wanted to know if anyone else is having this problem/rant kind of wedding related

Hilraythebride · February 2012

So my FI and I moved from Philly to Virginia at the end of October, I didn't start really looking for jobs until about December. I figured that I wouldn't hear back until sometime in January due to the holidays.

I am more than qualified for a lot of the positions as I used to manage a 5 star restaurant in center city Philadelphia. Any time I apply for a position somewhere they always ask on the application if I will be needing any time off within the next 6 months and if so how long.

My FI and I are going on a 2 week honeymoon and the wedding is OOT. Therefor I will need at least 3 weeks off in the month of June which starts to be their busy season at the hotels.

I feel so bumed out because these have all been online applications and anytime I go somewhere to apply they refer me to their website which I feel counts me out before someone even looks at my app!!

Luckily, my FI found something and so we still have money coming in. Also the wedding planning is not affected by our incomes because the FILs have been so generous and are paying for everything.

It just really bums me out some days because I know I would do an awesome job if they could just give me a chance. Also because I don't know anyone down here and going to work would be a great opportunity to meet people. I am starting to get really stir crazy here.

We are also living with their parents which isn't as bad as I thought they have been really good to me and us its just that we haven't been able to unpack anything or really get to start our lives. We are waiting for our apartment to be finished. Hoping to move in at the beginning of March.

Sorry for the rant and thanks for reading, I could use some advice/words of encourangement!!

Zimsgirl · February 2012

That's really unfair to do that to you with you being so qualified for the jobs. I'm sorry you're dealing with this

daria24 · February 2012

Can you visit these places in person and give them your resume instead? Can you leave that question blank? I would probably leave the question blank and then deal with it after i got the job offer. I mean the worst that can happen is they refuse to give you the time off and you have to quit. But at least you will have gotten a few paychecks. Unless its a union type of job and it can get you in trouble with the union.

gregamywedding · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Can you visit these places in person and give them your resume instead? Can you leave that question blank? I would probably leave the question blank and then deal with it after i got the job offer. I mean the worst that can happen is they refuse to give you the time off and you have to quit. But at least you will have gotten a few paychecks. Unless its a union type of job and it can get you in trouble with the union.
Posted by daria24[/QUOTE]

This.

chelseakopperud · February 2012

I disagree with PPs.... I think you have to be up front about needing 3 weeks off in June- since that is their busy time. I can't take 3 weeks off in an entire year, so asking for that much time in one month is really asking a lot, especially from a place you arent even employed at yet. I think its ok to leave it off your initial application, but if offered the job, you should inform them about the time you need off. That way they have met you and know how amazing you are for the job and then they can make the decision.

kelsey+brandon · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_wanted-anyone-else-having-this-problemrant-kind-of-wedding-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:5dd16418-3227-4032-8d57-15e1719e3628Post:2f53c9b5-6e3d-40dc-a1a6-35fbd2f7f9dd">Re: wanted to know if anyone else is having this problem/rant kind of wedding related</a>:
[QUOTE]Can you visit these places in person and give them your resume instead? Can you leave that question blank? I would probably leave the question blank and then deal with it after i got the job offer. I mean the worst that can happen is they refuse to give you the time off and you have to quit. But at least you will have gotten a few paychecks. Unless its a union type of job and it can get you in trouble with the union.
Posted by daria24[/QUOTE]

<div>This is a good idea. Or mention it once you have an actual interview.</div><div>
</div><div>Maybe you can get something just to have something to do and some extra income coming in for the next 4-5 months. I would be going crazy if all I had to do all day was sit at home and think about wedding planning.</div>

Hilraythebride · February 2012

I have visited the places in person and they refer me to their website. I give them my resume but they always say that they only accept them online with the submission of the entire application.

You can't leave the question blank because I have tried before and you need to fill it out to move onto the next step. Sometimes there is a place to explain, sometimes there is not.

But with todays technologies I feel like there may be some sort of algorithm that they set up to exclude anyone who needs more than a certain amount of time off.

I really don't feel right about being dishonest either because its just not my nature and if it is somewhere I really want to work I don't want them to think I am being deceitful then I can't get another job with them ever.

Thanks for the advice ladies!! Everything has been moving really slow with the jobs even though I have broken down and have applied to some jobs just for something to do.

Luckily though we don't need to save the money for our wedding and we don't have a lot of expenses right now, or else I would feel so badly!

mbishop7 · February 2012

Well, I sort of am!!

Both my FI and I are graduating from college in May and will need to start looking for jobs in our fields. We are wanting to move two hours away to Fayetteville, Arkansas where there are tons more jobs and it's where I'm from. It's where we want to start our lives. We kind of feel like our scheduling is just.. off. We have to move, get new jobs, and get married and go on a honeymoon all in like two months! Finding jobs so we have income is hard enough... we have to figure out what to do about housing and money while finishing up wedding planning!

Hilraythebride · February 2012

Yea its really hard when you go in and you already need three weeks off. In my previous job I was given one week off a year but that was always a push and really hard to get I wanted.

The whole reason we moved from Philly was for me to get out of the restaurant management scene and I am just not worlling to break down and get back into it. I am pretty sure I could get into it really easy because of my experience but I just don't want to become comfortable then never leave like before!!

Best of luck to you!!

ncd5015 · February 2012

Would you consider going to a temp agency for some short term work and then apply for a full time job after your honeymoon?

casey_romaine · February 2012

I feel your pain! I'm currently out of work as well and also am looking for work in the restaurant industry. . . It's almost always diffucult to get time off in that industry even when you already have a job, let alone trying to apply for one! My best friend also gets married two months before us and I'm her MOH, so I not only need 2 1/2 weeks off for our wedding, but also a day for her bridal shower, a weekend for her bachelorette and like 4 days for her wedding, plus a day off for my bridal shower (actually two, since my mom is throwing me one as well as my step mom) and a weekend for my bachelorette. it's a total of like 24 days. . . I know it's a lot, but I've already commited myself to doing all of this, so I can't NOT have the time off, but I would REALLY like to work!! I've been out of work since the end of august. It was nice at first, I could get lots of DIY projects done for the wedding, spend time planning, but I have been SO BORED for the last three months, I'm going a little out of my mind!! Good luck with your job search, I'm sure you'll find somewhere that will value your experience enough to let that shine and won't mind giving you time off for your wedding (and darn it, they should understand that it's not like you're going to need that much time off ALL THE TIME!! this is your wedding, darn it!! it's important!!)

sjhansen28 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_wanted-anyone-else-having-this-problemrant-kind-of-wedding-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:5dd16418-3227-4032-8d57-15e1719e3628Post:7695c4ed-aad3-4d6e-937e-0350743438e4">Re: wanted to know if anyone else is having this problem/rant kind of wedding related</a>:
[QUOTE]Would you consider going to a temp agency for some short term work and then apply for a full time job after your honeymoon?
Posted by ncd5015[/QUOTE]

This is what I am doing. But FI is going back for his Master's in the fall, so I will be living with him in a different city and so applying for full time jobs wasn't really in the cards for me. However, temp agencies are usually really flexible and understanding that you'll be looking for full time employment as well, so this might be an option for you. It's not ideal, but at least it's income! At least, that's what I tell myself :)

Hilraythebride · February 2012

Casey too bad your not in va we. could hang!!!

lindseyann410 · February 2012

Would it be possible to postpone or shorten your honeymoon? Do you really need the whole week of your wedding off? I know it would suck, but securing a job is probably more important. I may be looking to switch careers, and if I do, then that's exactly what we would have to do unfortunately.

Hilraythebride · February 2012

I don't think I am going to take the whole week of the wedding off but the wedding is out of state and my bachelorette party is planned for Thursday before our Sunday wedding so therefore I would at least need from Wednesday on off as I need the day for travel.

About the honeymoon thing honestly I know this may be selfish but I am not willing to shorten it as we have already paid for some of the things and the hotel. We are going to Santorini and the flights are the most expensive part so therefore we are going for two weeks because the hotel is rather inexpensive. I just can't see paying about 3,000 for the flights total and then only staying a week.

I am also wiling to accept if this is going to disqualify me from a job though cause my FI was able to get one and they had no problem being very accomidating around our schedule for Pre-Cana, and having one Friday off in March, and on Friday off in April (so we can have time to go up North for the menu tasting, ring purchasing, and shower, tux fitting etc...). I know there have to be jobs out there that are accomadating I just need to find one. They also had no problem giving us as much time we need off in June for the wedding.

I have been applying to jobs today as like every day so hopefully there will be some success!!

I know I may sound selfish but this is a once in a lifetime thing as all of you know and these plans have been in the works for a long time.

daria24 · February 2012

I don't think you're selfish, I'm taking a month off (unpaid-I'm basically leaving a project early for the wedding and will find a new one when I get back). I recognize that this is the one time in my life that I will give myself permission to have this much time off. I would definitely look into temp work, seasonal, retail, etc. The pay might not be great but at least it's flexible. Even Starbucks (depending on the store) would you give you the time off (unpaid, but they 'hold' your position for you.)

Hilraythebride · February 2012

Thanks Daria, I applied to some retail positions today that I think would be fun!! I also really want to meet people down here since we moved!! Hopefully I will hear something back!

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