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kristasande
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Torn between two dresses
I did what I told myself I'd NEVER do...I bought a wedding dress somewhat impulsively, and now am having second thoughts.
I found my dress very early in my search at a sample sale; it's a dress from a big-name designer covered in sparkles that I got for a huge discount. It's not what I'd necessarily thought I would go for, but I'd struck out at other salons and was pretty excited to find something that was beautiful, a lot of fun, possibly has a bit of a "wow" factor and would otherwise be way out of my price range. (I also figured that it's in great condition, so if I changed my mind, I should be able to sell it for something, but otherwise I'd just made my life a whole lot easier!)
Shortly thereafter I went to another appointment that I'd put down a deposit for (probably a bad idea in retrospect!), and loved the first dress I tried on. It's more of what I'd originally envisioned - lace, a train, etc. - the color is unusual and I think flattering, and it's a slightly better fit for my venue. I don't know that any of these things should individually be dealbreakers though, as it's my one shot to ever wear something like this. I also started to fret about my arms not getting in shape for the strapless one (although I still have 7 months to work on them), and whether I should wear something more mature-looking. Friends are very helpful but split down the middle, and I can't decide. I have the chance to buy the second dress at a discount for a short window of time and am trying to make a final decision ASAP.
I'd be grateful for any objective feedback on what looks better (minus the veil on the first, which doesn't work). Either of them would need alterations to shorten the skirt and fix the bodice, of course. Thanks!
I found my dress very early in my search at a sample sale; it's a dress from a big-name designer covered in sparkles that I got for a huge discount. It's not what I'd necessarily thought I would go for, but I'd struck out at other salons and was pretty excited to find something that was beautiful, a lot of fun, possibly has a bit of a "wow" factor and would otherwise be way out of my price range. (I also figured that it's in great condition, so if I changed my mind, I should be able to sell it for something, but otherwise I'd just made my life a whole lot easier!)
Shortly thereafter I went to another appointment that I'd put down a deposit for (probably a bad idea in retrospect!), and loved the first dress I tried on. It's more of what I'd originally envisioned - lace, a train, etc. - the color is unusual and I think flattering, and it's a slightly better fit for my venue. I don't know that any of these things should individually be dealbreakers though, as it's my one shot to ever wear something like this. I also started to fret about my arms not getting in shape for the strapless one (although I still have 7 months to work on them), and whether I should wear something more mature-looking. Friends are very helpful but split down the middle, and I can't decide. I have the chance to buy the second dress at a discount for a short window of time and am trying to make a final decision ASAP.
I'd be grateful for any objective feedback on what looks better (minus the veil on the first, which doesn't work). Either of them would need alterations to shorten the skirt and fix the bodice, of course. Thanks!
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Re: Torn between two dresses
I think the first one is much more flattering on you and I think it's a bit more of a show-stopper than the lace one (and normally I LOVE lace dresses). But they are both gorgeous dresses so I don't think you can make a wrong choice.
The second i don't like as much maybe if the color wasn't so stark white, also the top doesn't seem to flatter as much. However the skirt and sleeves are so lovely.
Honestly I think either one you choose you will rock! The cut/type of dress they both are is veryflattering on you.
A few comments:
- I'll be getting married in a church, then reception will be at an inn that's elegant (but not over the top or anything)
- I'd thought about a bolero for the first one to be a bit more modest in church, but was having trouble finding something that matched. I've been thinking about using some of the extra material from the bottom to give me a small sleeve, otherwise I'll stick with a long veil
- The neckline of the second dress isn't hitting me quite right, but that would hopefully be fixed with alterations; it's supposed to look like: http://www.kleinfeldbridal.com/show-bridal-gown.cfm?item_id=15576
- If I go with the second one, I'd accentuate with a belt (nothing too big, in order to still get a little bling)
- Color scheme for bridesmaids will be antique rose or something close, with blush and cranberry/wine accents
You look great in both dresses, but I love the first one. I'm partial to a little sparkle, and especially on a dress so delicate otherwise, it's just the right amount of wow factor to give it some oomph while keeping it from being bling-ed out over the top.
I do not like the second one at all. I think the lace thing is really weird but the main problem for me is where the waist hits. It cuts you off and makes you look like you have no torso. Coming from a girl with a short torso... don't do that to yourself!
I don't honestly love the first one but it flatters your body much more.
It seems to me that the lace is a part of the dress, not a shrug that can be removed.
I love lace and the first looks is nothing that I would pick for myself (my Fi would KILL me if I showed up with glitter on my dress... well, maybe not kill me, but I do think he'd send me home to change). It's hard for me to tell from the first one if it's beading or if it really is more of a glitter. If glitter, does it come off when you rub it or move? I wore a glitter dress once and I will never do it again. It came off on everything and everyone and I still have glitter in my car and that was three years ago.
Still, I think that the shape of the first one is much more flattering on your body and you do not need to be insecure and cover your arms. They look great.
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