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AdeleDazeem
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Tuesday poll of fun and good times
I know it's been asked before, but I'm asking again out of sheer curiousity.
If you live with your fiance/husband, how often are you having sex? Every couple is different and have different needs (and all that jazz), but I'm honestly just curious. Life is busy, we both have careers and an apartment to maintain, so sometimes sleep is a nice option, but I've beaten myself up for two years over our frequency of sex (which I don't think is bad at all!).
My fiance says I'm a nutball for worrying about it, but now I wonder how others are doing.
If you live with your fiance/husband, how often are you having sex? Every couple is different and have different needs (and all that jazz), but I'm honestly just curious. Life is busy, we both have careers and an apartment to maintain, so sometimes sleep is a nice option, but I've beaten myself up for two years over our frequency of sex (which I don't think is bad at all!).
My fiance says I'm a nutball for worrying about it, but now I wonder how others are doing.
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Re: Tuesday poll of fun and good times
If you live with your fiance/husband, how often are you having sex? Every couple is different and have different needs (and all that jazz), but I'm honestly just curious. Life is busy, we both have careers and an apartment to maintain, so sometimes sleep is a nice option, but I've beaten myself up for two years over our frequency of sex (which I don't think is bad at all!).
My fiance says I'm a nutball for worrying about it, but now I wonder how others are doing.
It depends on what's going on for us. Stress, jobs, traveling. Some weeks we have nothing going on, others we're super slammed and barely have time to eat or sleep. But I think we're normal.
But, like right now, he's got two weeks in a row at home. So it's been a little rabbity lately. Before he traveled, it was probably once or twice a week.
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With our living situation as it is right now, and with my girls, my answer is every single spare second when we are alone. That may change when we live together, but God I hope not!
We dont do it as much as he would like sometimes, but I remind him we have to work.
ETA: every sentence sounded dirty as I typed it out. So maybe I need some.
Joy- I agree with you sometimes I feel guilty, like we dont do it enough.
[QUOTE]I miss the rabbit days, but this girl needs sleep. Ever seen the episode of 30 Rock where Liz says "Sex? On a weeknight ?!" Yeah, that's me.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
Ugh! This!
I prefer quality over quantity. FI likes loooong sex and we just don't do it as often. He would rather us be like rabbits, but there are just not enough hours in the day.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday poll of fun and good times : Ugh! This! I prefer quality over quantity. FI likes loooong sex and we just don't do it as often. He would rather us be like rabbits, but there are just not enough hours in the day.
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]
I'm not a fan of marathon sex either. Get in, do your business, and go about your day. My best friend goes on and on about how she loves guys who last at least an hour and all I can think is how bored I'd be. A freakin hour? I could be watching TV or folding laundry or sleeping.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday poll of fun and good times : I'm not a fan of marathon sex either. Get in, do your business, and go about your day. My best friend goes on and on about how she loves guys who last at least an hour and all I can think is how bored I'd be. A freakin hour? I could be watching TV or folding laundry or sleeping.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
Hehe......this reminds me of a time we were just kind of starting and I suddenly remembered I hadnt paid a bill that was due. Talk about mood breaker. I cant get him to understand most womens minds dont turn off as easy.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday poll of fun and good times : I'm not a fan of marathon sex either. Get in, do your business, and go about your day. My best friend goes on and on about how she loves guys who last at least an hour and all I can think is how bored I'd be. A freakin hour? I could be watching TV or folding laundry or sleeping.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
<div>This is so me!</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday poll of fun and good times : Hehe......this reminds me of a time we were just kind of starting and I suddenly remembered I hadnt paid a bill that was due. Talk about mood breaker. I cant get him to understand most womens minds dont turn off as easy.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
That's me, I get distracted so easily or some random, non-sexy thing pops into my head, or I get super paranoid about myself. Poor H has his work cut out for him.
That's exactly why I'm not crazy about marathon sex. I just can't stay *in the moment* that long. After awhile, I'll be thinking about other things. Stupid, mundane things. And that's not sexy.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday poll of fun and good times : That's me, I get distracted so easily or some random, non-sexy thing pops into my head, or I get super paranoid about myself. Poor H has his work cut out for him.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
You're so funny.
My DH wants to analyze our sex life all the time, he is extremely anal (no pun intended). I'm all for talking about what works for the other person, but he drives me crazy with his questions sometimes.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday poll of fun and good times : You're so funny. My DH wants to analyze our sex life all the time, he is extremely anal (no pun intended). I'm all for talking about what works for the other person, but he drives me crazy with his questions sometimes.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
Analyze? My H is just happy he's getting some. He doesn't really talk about it other than when he wants it. he's pretty easy to please. But he was worried that we;d fall into the "once you're married, all the sex stops" trap because all his friends were teasing him about it. So, he did request that I not turn into the ice queen.
We are stuck at 1-2 x a week because of schedules and, well, me. It's unfortunate because the more we have it, the better it is. That became apallingly clear two weeks ago when we were just rabbits and it was aaaawesome. We're equal opportunity with the day (weekday vs. weekend) so I feel like I just need to fit it in more.
I do feel guilty that it isn't more often, but there are so many things in life to feel guilty about (diet, exercise, sex quality/quantity/duration, money) that I just aim for the best I can.
EDIT: I love that no one voted for me to mind my own business
we've lived together for 3 years and we have sex usually right at 5 times a week.
Thank god we're planning an overnight trip soon.
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Sara, that stinks. Can't you buy your MIL a spa day or something? Good to know you're having an overnight, and soon!
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I've also started locking the animals out of the room when we're feeling romantic. I just can't stay in the moment when the dog is snoring beside the bed and the cat is trying to paw at my hair. They are worse than children!
I was reading a Nest thread where people said they never went more than 3 days without having sex. That's just unbelievable to me. We go 1 week a month without, and other than that it's just random.
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[QUOTE]I miss the rabbit days, but this girl needs sleep. Ever seen the episode of 30 Rock where Liz says "Sex? On a weeknight ?!" Yeah, that's me.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I laughed pretty hard when I saw that episode. In an embarassing way.
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