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Traditional and Own

I am pretty religious and love traditional vowels. My FH isn't religious and prefers writing our own vowels. As a compromise I have suggested doing both. I have seen a friend and her husband do this at their wedding. We will married by my pastor. i am going to ask him his opinion too. What do you think?

Re: Traditional and Own

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    [QUOTE]I am pretty religious and love traditional vowels. My FH isn't religious and prefers writing our own vowels. As a compromise I have suggested doing both. I have seen a friend and her husband do this at their wedding. We will married by my pastor. i am going to ask him his opinion too. What do you think?
    Posted by eelsbury08[/QUOTE]

    VOWS. The word you are looking for is vows. Not vowels.

    H and I used preset vows that our reverend gave us, but then tweaked them to our liking. They weren't total custom (as in, we didn't sit down and write them completely out), but we were able to reword them to fit our vision of our wedding. Sometimes I think personalized vows can get awkward, lengthy, and at times, inappropriate... but that all depends on the bride and groom.
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    [QUOTE]I am pretty religious and love traditional vowels. My FH isn't religious and prefers writing our own vowels. As a compromise I have suggested doing both. I have seen a friend and her husband do this at their wedding. We will married by my pastor. i am going to ask him his opinion too. What do you think?
    Posted by eelsbury08[/QUOTE]
    What do you mean by both? You'll recite traditionally religious vows and he'll recite ones he wrote himself?
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  • Vows.  Yikes.  Vowels are something else entirely.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Traditional and Own : What do you mean by both? You'll recite traditionally religious vows and he'll recite ones he wrote himself?
    Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

    <div>This is my question also.  If this is what OP is thinking of, I see no reason for it to be a problem. The thing to remember here is this:  your vows are personal and your solemn promise to your spouse.  You each need to say the promise you mean to say.  If they are worded differently, that is nobody's business but yours.  I think  you guys could work together to put something together that fits each of you.  I think that would be a beautiful ceremony, actually.</div>
  • cwaggoner07cwaggoner07 member
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    edited October 2012
    We did a combination of personal and traditional, and it was PERFECT. We each wrote 3-4 sentences of our own vows, and then went straight into 'I, cwaggoner, take you, mr cwaggoner... in sickness and in health....' and finished them off traditionally. We had the entire thing written down so we wouldn't have to repeat the officiant.

    ETA: I think our vows are somewhat spliced in this video if you want to see how it went down: http://vimeo.com/47632067
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    [QUOTE]I like traditional vowels too. A and O are my favorites.  I couldn't help myself.
    Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

    <div>LMAO</div>
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    [QUOTE]I like traditional vowels too. A and O are my favorites.  I couldn't help myself.
    Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

    I just choked on my Chipotle tortilla chip... hilarious.
  • We did the traditional statement of intent but wrote our own vows.  However, we wrote the vows together so we both said the same thing and both knew what they said ahead of time.
  • edited October 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_traditional-and-own?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:7a0fda1b-b084-4661-9ba2-d2b00c72a6d8Post:1f8fe427-7bbf-4f0b-870d-094169d62995">Re: Traditional and Own</a>:
    [QUOTE]I like traditional vowels too. A and O are my favorites.  I couldn't help myself.
    Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

    />_>

    <_<

    I'm a non-traditionalist.  I favor Y

    Sorry I couldn't help it either!
    Don't make me mobilize OffensiveKitten

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  • We did both :)   First we both repeated the traditional vows with the minister, then we each spoke the personal words we wrote for each other.  It was beautiful!
    84image 73image 11image Wedding date: June 11, 2011 :)
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