FI and I are having a small wedding with immediate family and close friends in March. I am concerned that FI's extended family might want to throw a shower b/c this is his first wedding... and the ladies in his family can be a little pushy and may not understand that (IMO, and I believe this is the typical rule...) people invited to a shower must be invited to the wedding itself.
The problems associated with a shower are numerous:
1) The last shower I attended associated with FI's family was 40 people - ladies only. The guest list for our wedding isn't even 80 people... and having to invite everyone that attends the shower and their SIs would break the budget immeasureably.
2) We haven't registered and didn't plan on it. A shower begets a registry... right? We don't really need anything for our home.
3) I had three showers for my last wedding... and they just aren't my thing then, either.
I'm not 100% sure someone will offer to throw me a shower... but I have a feeling of dread.
Do I nip it in the bud and tell FMIL the dilemma so she can attempt diversion tactics on her family? Or do I wait until it comes up...?