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How to respond to people who aren't invited to the wedding?

Ok, I really have no idea how to respond to several rather awkward conversations that have come up with people who I am not inviting to the wedding.  The most recent were the following two:

"Even though I didn't make the wedding invite list, I'd still like to hang out with you."

and

"I'm guessing I didn't get an invite because I'm an out of town person.  We're still good, I'm not taking it personally."

I have told these people, politely I hope, that I would have loved to invite them, but due to large families on both sides, and budgetary restrictions, I was unable to invite them. 

These are people that I think are very nice, but are not people I'm terribly close with, and honestly, not people I considered inviting in the first place. 

Is there a better way for me to handle this?  I don't wan to hurt anyone's feelings, but I really can't invite every person I've ever known to the wedding.

Help!
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Re: How to respond to people who aren't invited to the wedding?

  • I only ran into this problem with one guest.  She was my mom's cousin and asked me straight out if Ron would be invited.  Ron was her gay guy friend of several years.

    I told her that it was up to M&E as it was their wedding, not mine.

    Turns out that Ron had hit on E (groom) the summer prior to the wedding so no invite there!
  • I have had this quite a bit. I've said something similiar to what you're saying as well. I definitely understand the frustration though. I feel bad every time someone asks me if they will be invited.

    Good Luck!
  • I have had this problem non stop since our engagement 2 years ago. Our guest list was up over 300 at one point b/c we kept adding people on and now we've gotten it down, but people like my moms cousins are asking their parents if their invited, then this old friend of my parents mention something. My mom and I swear we could sell tickets for $100 per person and people would buy them just to be able to say they were at my wedding... I don't get it. We had to create guidelines and made everyone aware that it is only Bride and Grooms first cousins and you can only bring a guest if you are married to, living with or engaged to that person. And Bride and grooms aunts and uncles along with the parents aunts and uncles. There are a few and i mean few select friends that have managed to avoid the chopping block. You;ll know if your invited if you get an invitation.
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