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I'm reopening an old question...... I'm getting married next May, this is our 2nd marriage but our first wedding. We each went to the JP the first time around. This time we want to share the splendor of a wedding with family and close friends without children. What do you do when your child says he or she will not attend if no kids are invited?I'm going to stand my ground and say "No Children Allowed"; just want some feedback of others that may be facing this or a similar situation.
Are you seriously saying your own grandchildren are not invited?
If someone tells you thay are not coming unless you invite someone else & you really want to stand your ground, you smile politely & tell them you you will miss them.
To address a previous post....it is not rude and an insult not to invite someone's children to your wedding. Most close friends and family know well in advance what your wedding date is even prior to invites going out. They have plenty of time to make child care arrangements. Family weddings that include children can be quite lovely, but it does change the dynamic and the cost. My fiance and I are both over 40 and it is a second marriage for each of us. We wanted to try to keep the wedding a bit smaller and intimate. My fiance has two children (11 and 12) that are standing up with us. I have a ten year old nephew and he has a niece who is 6 who are coming. Other than those close family members, children are not invited meaning my adult cousins' children and our friends' children are not invited. We addressed the invitation to just the adults AND our wedding invitation stated "adult reception to immediately follow." Whether that follows ettiquiette or not, I don't think it is rude. I have received no complaints and 99 percent of our guests accepted our invitation. Many times you will find that your guests look forward to an adult night out without their children. I am comfortable with how we handled the situation including the wording on the invitation. No one knows your friends and family better than you. You can determine what works for you in your unique situation. We did what worked for ours.