In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:91ee1130-b656-44d0-b02d-15401cd1efa4">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]well what would you call them. Their a regular old guest. Yes that is what they are. I was trying to make you see the difference of a bridesmaid and a regular guest. But I guess they are just the same to all of you. ... <strong>How many times do I have to say that I did nothing of the sorts of a Bridezilla. </strong> I just said how I was feeling at the moment in given time. Maybe at that moment I was stressed, or anxious, or nervous or upset. Sue me for having feelings and Sue me for saying something how I felt in one moment in time Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
<div>A true bridezilla can never see that they're a bridezilla. To the bridezilla, they're normal and it's everyone else who is fucked up.</div>
nobody demanded money. All you do is twist every little word someone says and come out with these out right lies saying my MOH DEMANDED money.. when all she did was simply ask. No forciing or demanding you idiot
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:c753c5e8-eb2c-40c7-8b83-d0de66074ac4">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette : A true bridezilla can never see that they're a bridezilla. To the bridezilla, they're normal and it's everyone else who is fucked up. Posted by shoegal715[/QUOTE]
It's like being insane. You think you're the normal one and nobody else gets it.
hello threre are 6 weeks to the wedding, I am not demoting her to regular guest. I never said that. I simply said she might as well just be a regular guest. The way she doesn't want to suport the bride except stand up and and that's it. Thats her preogative and I never said it wasn't. She can choose to be like that if she wants
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:91ee1130-b656-44d0-b02d-15401cd1efa4">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]well what would you call them. Their a regular old guest. Yes that is what they are. I was trying to make you see the difference of a bridesmaid and a regular guest. But I guess they are just the same to all of you. ... How many times do I have to say that I did nothing of the sorts of a Bridezilla. I just said how I was feeling at the moment in given time. Maybe at that moment I was stressed, or anxious, or nervous or upset. Sue me for having feelings and Sue me for saying something how I felt in one moment in time Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
I don't understand what you are upset about. The BM is paying the $7.00 for your dinner, she mentioned to the MOH she didn't want to pay for drinks. WHO THE EFF CARES? Pay for your own drinks. You're a big girl who is about to get married. Open your big girl wallet and pay the bartender like a big girl would for alcohol you consume at your big girl bachorlette party.
Go back and read the post where you quoted, in effect proving you're a bridezilla. You ARE demanding the money and you ARE a spoiled little snot.
You're an idiot and a bridezilla.
Of course you can have feelings. You clearly have feelings of entitlement and superiority. Learn not to act on those feelings as you are entitled to SQUAT.
I hope you do kick this girl out of your WP. No one deserves a friend like you.
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Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:91ee1130-b656-44d0-b02d-15401cd1efa4">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]well what would you call them. Their a regular old guest. Yes that is what they are. I was trying to make you see the difference of a bridesmaid and a regular guest. But I guess they are just the same to all of you. ... How many times do I have to say that I did nothing of the sorts of a Bridezilla. I just said how I was feeling at the moment in given time. Maybe at that moment I was stressed, or anxious, or nervous or upset. Sue me for having feelings and Sue me for saying something how I felt in one moment in time Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
OP, take this and learn from it. Sometimes it's better to keep those words and feelings to yourself, or to you and your FI, where it's private, than to throw it all out there online for other people to read. You DID sound very rude, and like a bridezilla, even if it wasn't your intent.
More than that, even if you're just "venting", these are, as I've said, public boards. Who is to say your BM isn't reading all of this right now?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:4499b015-91bd-48f5-8d7d-c11022fe6a24">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]nobody demanded money. All you do is twist every little word someone says and come out with these out right lies saying my MOH DEMANDED money.. when <strong>all she did was simply ask</strong>. No forciing or demanding you idiot Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
And all the BM did was simply say 'no.' I don't understand what's so difficult for you to comprehend, or why you're evn bothering yourself with it. This is between the BM and the MOH. Period. And yet this is going on for 6 pages.
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:9d42d07a-7418-41b0-b7bf-3c422b0baefe">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous. Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:9d42d07a-7418-41b0-b7bf-3c422b0baefe">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous. Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
And here is where I'm calling troll
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:9d42d07a-7418-41b0-b7bf-3c422b0baefe">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous. Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
I don't think anyone here thinks its expensive. Its the principal.
And yes, I'm so jealous that I'm not from north jersey.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:9d42d07a-7418-41b0-b7bf-3c422b0baefe">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous. Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
Yeah. I lived in Jersey for 24 years. AC is nothing to brag about honey, perhaps you should travel a bit more and venture off the Garden State Parkway.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:9d42d07a-7418-41b0-b7bf-3c422b0baefe">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous. Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
*snort*
Yeah, because that two-hour car ride from North Jersey is just <em>impossible</em>. It's a shame that all we have nearby is boring old New York, while you get to ride on dirty jitney buses and hang out with the bums begging for change under the boardwalk.
Holy crap, if this isn't the most thick headed person I think I've seen on here. It doesn't matter what you think she was required to do, she's not required to do anything.......get that through your head and you may just get it!
I'm sorry but I don't remember ladies of yore having bach parties. Did they get the stable boys to strip for them? Bach parties are not something that your older family members are having. I can just see grandma putting money in a g-string.Maybe having a tea?
And it seems to me you were the only one keeping this so called friendship alive,makes me wonder if she didn't screen her calls when you phoned.Surprised she answered the call to come to your little slavefest. You still havent answered the age question.How old are you? 19?
I'm so jealous of your lifestyle. OMG you live in NEW JERSEY, the BEST place in the country....I want to go cry now, I only live in New York City. All this time I thought I lived in the best place....the most expensive place....Boy did you show ME?!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:9d42d07a-7418-41b0-b7bf-3c422b0baefe">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous. Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
Sorry. I don't hate on Jersey, but I definitely don't wish I LIVED THERE. I live in New York City and I would never have a Jersey Shore themed wedding/sweet sixteen.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:9f6e994d-c3c8-4dbb-aec0-00d3b1b2c71f">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]I'm sorry but I don't remember ladies of yore having bach parties. Did they get the stable boys to strip for them? Bach parties are not something that your older family members are having. I can just see grandma putting money in a g-string.Maybe having a tea? Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
This is fantastic. I wish I knew some stable boys to strip for my bachelorette party. Maybe I can force my BMs to find some. Since, you know, I'm so entitled to one.
sorry you dumb ass if you read my previous responses I am from the Philadelphia area. I have a beach house in Ocean City which is no where near ac the the bums and the jitney buses which I have never been on before
You know what? My work day is over right now. Oh man, what am I going to do? New York City is so boring. I'll be bored all day. Oh, if only I lived in South Jersey! Boo flippin' Hoopty hoo hoo
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:66f26a61-0d80-4124-bbfb-583f464bb31d">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>: [QUOTE]then stop acting like it is such a big expensive deal. Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
Take your own advice and buy your own drinks. DUH you go to AC all the time, it's nothing new. Be satisified with the dinner your BM's & GM's are paying for.
I have sat here and read this whole thread and this is just too funny already. OP- If your MOH asked and the BM said no whether it was nice or evil wicked witch of the west style, who cares. She said no end of story. All the MOH had to say was Ok, good to know and gone from there. Was there ever a need to involve you? The situation should've been handled between the BM and MOH. Just move one already. This isn't that dramatic.
I'm pretty sure none of these ladies are jealous of your Jersey wedding.
Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette
[QUOTE]well what would you call them. Their a regular old guest. Yes that is what they are. I was trying to make you see the difference of a bridesmaid and a regular guest. But I guess they are just the same to all of you. ... <strong>How many times do I have to say that I did nothing of the sorts of a Bridezilla. </strong> I just said how I was feeling at the moment in given time. Maybe at that moment I was stressed, or anxious, or nervous or upset. Sue me for having feelings and Sue me for saying something how I felt in one moment in time
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
<div>A true bridezilla can never see that they're a bridezilla. To the bridezilla, they're normal and it's everyone else who is fucked up.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette : A true bridezilla can never see that they're a bridezilla. To the bridezilla, they're normal and it's everyone else who is fucked up.
Posted by shoegal715[/QUOTE]
It's like being insane. You think you're the normal one and nobody else gets it.
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[QUOTE]well what would you call them. Their a regular old guest. Yes that is what they are. I was trying to make you see the difference of a bridesmaid and a regular guest. But I guess they are just the same to all of you. ... How many times do I have to say that I did nothing of the sorts of a Bridezilla. I just said how I was feeling at the moment in given time. Maybe at that moment I was stressed, or anxious, or nervous or upset. Sue me for having feelings and Sue me for saying something how I felt in one moment in time
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
I don't understand what you are upset about. The BM is paying the $7.00 for your dinner, she mentioned to the MOH she didn't want to pay for drinks. WHO THE EFF CARES? Pay for your own drinks. You're a big girl who is about to get married. Open your big girl wallet and pay the bartender like a big girl would for alcohol you consume at your big girl bachorlette party.
You're an idiot and a bridezilla.
Of course you can have feelings. You clearly have feelings of entitlement and superiority. Learn not to act on those feelings as you are entitled to SQUAT.
I hope you do kick this girl out of your WP. No one deserves a friend like you.
"If you can't think of something nice to say, don't say something nice" - Stephen Colbert
[QUOTE]well what would you call them. Their a regular old guest. Yes that is what they are. I was trying to make you see the difference of a bridesmaid and a regular guest. But I guess they are just the same to all of you. ... How many times do I have to say that I did nothing of the sorts of a Bridezilla. I just said how I was feeling at the moment in given time. Maybe at that moment I was stressed, or anxious, or nervous or upset. Sue me for having feelings and Sue me for saying something how I felt in one moment in time
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
OP, take this and learn from it. Sometimes it's better to keep those words and feelings to yourself, or to you and your FI, where it's private, than to throw it all out there online for other people to read. You DID sound very rude, and like a bridezilla, even if it wasn't your intent.
More than that, even if you're just "venting", these are, as I've said, public boards. Who is to say your BM isn't reading all of this right now?
Books read in 2012: 21/50
[QUOTE]nobody demanded money. All you do is twist every little word someone says and come out with these out right lies saying my MOH DEMANDED money.. when <strong>all she did was simply ask</strong>. No forciing or demanding you idiot
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
And all the BM did was simply say 'no.' I don't understand what's so difficult for you to comprehend, or why you're evn bothering yourself with it. This is between the BM and the MOH. Period. And yet this is going on for 6 pages.
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[QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous.
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
You know what? Nevermind. You're a bitch.
Books read in 2012: 21/50
[QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous.
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
And here is where I'm calling troll
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If this is how you treat your closest friends, how are you going to deal with those guests that come to the wedding, but don't bring a gift?
PS. That is a serious question.
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[QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous.
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
I don't think anyone here thinks its expensive. Its the principal.
And yes, I'm so jealous that I'm not from north jersey.
[QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous.
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
Yeah. I lived in Jersey for 24 years. AC is nothing to brag about honey, perhaps you should travel a bit more and venture off the Garden State Parkway.
[QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous.
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
*snort*
Yeah, because that two-hour car ride from North Jersey is just <em>impossible</em>. It's a shame that all we have nearby is boring old New York, while you get to ride on dirty jitney buses and hang out with the bums begging for change under the boardwalk.
It doesn't matter what you think she was required to do, she's not required to do anything.......get that through your head and you may just get it!
I'm sorry but I don't remember ladies of yore having bach parties. Did they get the stable boys to strip for them? Bach parties are not something that your older family members are having. I can just see grandma putting money in a g-string.Maybe having a tea?
And it seems to me you were the only one keeping this so called friendship alive,makes me wonder if she didn't screen her calls when you phoned.Surprised she answered the call to come to your little slavefest.
You still havent answered the age question.How old are you? 19?
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My Married Bio updated March 4
[QUOTE]Sorry if it is not expensive to me or my whole bridal party. SOrry if you think it is expensive, but we all go out to AC all the time, esp in the summer. Sorry if it is just a lavish dream for you all and you are all probably all from North Jersey and wish you were from the shore where it is honestly the norm to go out to AC for a fun night out. AC is not new to this BM. It is not a major expense. Sorry your all just jealous.
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
Sorry. I don't hate on Jersey, but I definitely don't wish I LIVED THERE. I live in New York City and I would never have a Jersey Shore themed wedding/sweet sixteen.
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[QUOTE]I'm sorry but I don't remember ladies of yore having bach parties. Did they get the stable boys to strip for them? Bach parties are not something that your older family members are having. I can just see grandma putting money in a g-string.Maybe having a tea?
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
This is fantastic. I wish I knew some stable boys to strip for my bachelorette party. Maybe I can force my BMs to find some. Since, you know, I'm so entitled to one.
Books read in 2012: 21/50
You know what? My work day is over right now. Oh man, what am I going to do? New York City is so boring. I'll be bored all day. Oh, if only I lived in South Jersey! Boo flippin' Hoopty hoo hoo
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My Planning Bio
My Married Bio updated March 4
[QUOTE]then stop acting like it is such a big expensive deal.
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]
Take your own advice and buy your own drinks. DUH you go to AC all the time, it's nothing new. Be satisified with the dinner your BM's & GM's are paying for.
I have sat here and read this whole thread and this is just too funny already. OP- If your MOH asked and the BM said no whether it was nice or evil wicked witch of the west style, who cares. She said no end of story. All the MOH had to say was Ok, good to know and gone from there. Was there ever a need to involve you? The situation should've been handled between the BM and MOH. Just move one already. This isn't that dramatic.
I'm pretty sure none of these ladies are jealous of your Jersey wedding.