Earn cash as you plan. Get a $20 gift card for every 200 points with The Knot Rewards
Chit Chat
chrissy81981
member
I need to vent!
in Chit Chat
Ok so I was talking to my fiance (Bill) about his cousin, whom recently got married less than a month ago. We went to the wedding and gave them a cash gift. There is some kind of feud going on in the family.... before I came along there always has been. So basically Bill's nana called his mom and was complaining that we only gave $50 for a gift. That is our typical amount for every wedding we go to. And since we are planning a wedding of our own, we really can't give anymore. But seriously... WHY THE F*CK would you complain that someone isn't giving enough for a gift. HELLOOOOOO.... IT'S A GIFT!!! Accept it... or give it back. His nana must have found out about our gift from Bill's cousin.
Bill isn't very close with this side of the family because of the backstabbing that goes on. I work for Bill's aunt in this family and was over there on Thursday night with his Nana before all the shenanigans went on. She was trying to get me on her good side even though she was mad at me and Bill. Now that I know how his family is... I am not even going to try bonding with them. Thankfully, Bill's parents and sister are sane and not crazy like the other family is. *SIGH*
Bill isn't very close with this side of the family because of the backstabbing that goes on. I work for Bill's aunt in this family and was over there on Thursday night with his Nana before all the shenanigans went on. She was trying to get me on her good side even though she was mad at me and Bill. Now that I know how his family is... I am not even going to try bonding with them. Thankfully, Bill's parents and sister are sane and not crazy like the other family is. *SIGH*
This discussion has been closed.
Re: I need to vent!
They had no right to complain, but I would just forget it and move on. Not worth stressing over.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
[QUOTE]Totally wrong. If it had been a check, I would have stopped payment on it and called them and told them so.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
This.
Ok, I wouldn't really have the cajones to do that, but "Bad @$$ AE Meg" totally would, lol.
If you fire a WP member, you're against America.
"Meg cracks me up on the regular. Now she gets to do it in two different forums. Yay!!" ~mkrupar
That was totally out of line, selfish and greedy of her. I am a really nice person, but I have to say that she is a B!!!
Don't feel bad, your finances are you business and what you gave was fine!
PS - I accidentally misread the poll and clicked "no". I read inappropriate as appropriate, Oops!
She is very rude and ungrateful. A gift is just that, a gift. Gifts are not mandatory.
Having said that... I have always thought that a $100 was standard to give per person-and more if its family. You should atleast be aiming to cover the cost of the plate. So maybe thats was her reasoning too and thats what she expecting...
My Fat Chick Blog
[QUOTE]I'd say that the only gift for them would be etiquette books with a check inside between the "gift" advice. If they never read it, they'll never get the check.
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]
I love that idea!
[QUOTE]Yeah I hear ya alabomb... and I think that is what she was getting at too.... but I don't think she was right to complain verbally. Bill and I aren't expecting our guests to pay for their plates at our own wedding. <strong>But that is just us I guess</strong>.
Posted by chrissy81981[/QUOTE]
Nope, that isn't just you. It is not right to expect people to cover their plate. Guests are guests, not patrons. People are expected to pay for their plates at restaurants or fundraising functions-not wedding receptions.
I agree, they shouldn't complain. Its done and over with and the other family members should 'let it go.'
With that being said....most Asian weddings I've attended, I always put in cash (they don't believe in wedding gifts). My FI and I both attended and we put in $120 for the both of us.
Immediate family tends to put in more.
I know that when my uncle got married, my parents gave them $2000 as their gift. And his close friends were putting in $75 per person (yes even with this tough economy).
If anyone were to put in $50 for a couple in an Asian wedding (Chinese mostly)...that would of raise some voices....BUT that's the norm for us.
Sorry you had to go thru this type of stress.
Face Painting Blog | Body Art Blog
Legal Blog
Oh, I clicked "no" on your poll by accident too.