So, FI and I are doing a pretty small registry- we've both had places of our own, and there's not very much stuff we need to upgrade or update. We also don't really need cash (we're both lawyers). FI really wants to add a section to the registry information on our website suggesting that in lieu of gifts, guests consider donations to a charity that's really meaningful to both of us (a local legal aid provider). He wants to make a page with a link to our small registry, and then also include a link to this organization's donation page with a little note.
I have no objection to this, exactly, but I'm sort of afraid that this is too similar to asking for cash- since it's still asking for money, even if it's not money for us, does it fall under the super-rude "asking for cash" category? If so, I'd be satisfied with just taking whatever cash gifts we recieve and donating them on our own, but FI really likes the idea of letting the guests choose to donate or not if possible.
What do you all think? Is it rude to put up a link suggesting charitable donations on our website? Is there a better way to do it? Just pass on the info through the people guests might typically contact about the wedding? I just have no idea what, if anything, the etiquette is here. Thanks.