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Crazy FSIL Bridal Party Drama

kfm2015kfm2015 member
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My FI has mentioned that one of his sisters would llike to one of my BMs. I am close to her and was planning on asking her anyways. The problem I have is that he has two other sisters. One which is a raging alcoholic and cuases drama wherever she goes and the other that just turned 18. I only have three real people that I really want in my BP so there is room for them, but I just dont want all the craziness that will go along with his one sister and I am not at all close to his younger one. I feel like not asking them will cause problems. Please Advise!
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Re: Crazy FSIL Bridal Party Drama

  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    You should only ask your nearest and dearest to be in your WP. If you are only close to one of the sisters, then only ask that sister. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • mlg78mlg78 member
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    I agree. If he wants the other two, they can stand up on his side. You choose who YOU have.
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  • kfm2015kfm2015 member
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    I know that on a lot of these posts people comment that it is not just your day. I agree with that. I am just afraid that the one crazy sister will make a huge scene regardless. I want to make the decision that will lessen the problems the most.

    Addie: Do you think I should just let the chips fall where they may? Or do you think tactically I could lessen problems by just biting the bullet and asking her. OR do you think it would cause more problems. This is a second wedding for me and I really just want this to be perfect for my FH.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    edited January 2013
    I do not think you should bite the bullet and ask her. The people I chose for my bridesmaids are 2 of the 3 people I could call at 3 a.m. to help me hide a body. I am a firm believer in not having people in your WP who are not your nearest and dearest. 

    Like MLG and Lia said, if your fiance wants them in the WP, he can ask them to stand on his side. If he doesn't, you certainly should not be expected to. I mean, really. If even he doesn't want them, why should YOU be made to feel that YOU have to include them?

    If you are truly worried about the drama it will cause and possibly damage your relationship with your future in-laws, you could always ask her to be a reader. But then I suspect you will also feel compelled to ask the 18-year-old to do the same b/c you will fear upsetting her if she is the only one not included. So then you can also ask her to be a reader as well. But personally, I wouldn't involve the 2 you aren't closer to. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • kfm2015kfm2015 member
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    I think the reader idea is excellent. I have no problems asking both of them to do that. Perhaps reading something together. Omg you have just taken a huge load off my mind. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
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