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VENT!

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My FMIL who has picked up and moved across the county with my FI father has called me to tell me she bought her dress for our wedding.

1. it's frumpy
2. it's premature I don't have my dress
    b. We also just added 2 girls to the wedding party ~ and they don't have a dress

3. I wanted brown dresses for my wedding party - she brought brown

4. my FI wants a brown tux - we have not picked out

5. our wedding is like 16 months away and we don't even have a theme

6. she's happy b/c it was $62.50 they have tons of money and aren't contributing to us at all.

7. I know it's about the day and now what people where I just feel that I wanted to keep my type a personality out of this and not let her meet the crazed planner in me... and am trying really hard to be nice

8. If she looks like a fool -it's her not me...and I just need to move on

but it's really aggrevating.

grammatical errors and all i'm heated i don't want to complain to my fiance and his sister is m MOH.

Thanks for reading.

you can tell me i'm acting like a bitch...but i haven't acted..these are just thoughts i have....and can no longer keep to myself.

Thank you.
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  • altimat873altimat873 member
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    edited December 2011

    Brown dresses and brown tuxes, really? I guess Im just imagining sh*t brown so I dont find that aesthetic looking LOL Anywho - as long as shes not wearing white/ivory then who cares what she wears. My BMs are wearing black and so is my mom and FMIL, I wouldnt tell people that just because my BP is in black dresses they cant wear black.

    In regards to her contribution, its not the 1950's, a lot of couples today pay for the wedding themselves and do so within their budget, parents are under no obligation to pay for anything whether they are financially able to or not.

    I think you are overreacting. Take a deep breath and realize that its not that big of a deal.

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  • ChobotChobot member
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    edited December 2011
    Dude. Venting is fine. How else can you handle all the crazy~ Perhaps she might find something else while over there?  
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  • StefaniBelStefaniBel member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes! Venting is fine! Just take a deep breath... and try to work things.
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  • cindyn9178cindyn9178 member
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    edited December 2011
    Venting is totally fine...but I don't really see the issue. There is no reason she can't also wear brown..be glad it isn't white or ivory. And as far as "frumpy" goes, she can wear whatever style she wants, as long as she's comfortable.
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  • DrumskiDrumski
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    edited December 2011


    Vent away. It's good for the soul.

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  • inshapebrideinshapebride
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    edited December 2011
    dont worry- if the wedding is 16 months away- maybe she will change her dress.  Just do you want and ignore her (that is what I do! haha)
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  • gina613gina613 member
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    edited December 2011
    I totally sympathize, so vent away! If you go with the brown tuxes and dresses, make sure she knows it, and then she'll either feel weird about it and get a new dress, or she'll be excited to match... brownie points for you for making her seem included :-P

    I also know how much it sucks to have to be paying for a wedding yourself when your family or FI's has money... just remember, they can't hold it against you or force you into anything that way... you'll be proud knowing you did it yourself!

    Good luck :)
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  • bereasonable2bereasonable2 member
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe she'll get fat and not fit into the dress.  :D
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