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Complicated bridal shower situtaion!

sigmakjensigmakjen
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I recently found out that MOG and bridesmaid want to throw a shower for their side of the family only. I was under the impression that the shower was going to be for everyone. A few months ago, my grandma (on my dad's side)  mentioned that she wanted to throw a shower for me but I told her not to go through the trouble since I thought that I would only have one shower for everyone. Besides that, the shower that would be hosted by my grandma would not even include people in her family, it would be people from my mom's side! I think MOG is under the impression that my family is going to throw a shower for me too even though I have not given any indication that they will. I don't want anyone to be left out  but I know that it is not under my control. What do I do?

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  • SarahPLizSarahPLiz member
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    The host of the shower should, at some point, ask you for a guest list based on the wedding guest list. YOu can mention to her that you would like to invite some of your family members, but she doesn't have to. At this juncture, you can either turn down her shower and hope that someone else throws one for all the guests, or go along with her idea and tell your grandmother you were mistaken about having only one shower.
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  • charlsie26charlsie26
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    I have had many friends who have had many different showers for different sides of the family.  If your MOG wants to throw one, then it's fine that your grandma can throw one for your side of the family. 

    Word of mouth too can help this situation...just causally mention the situation to your mom or grandma...they will understand and it allows them to understand what is going on planning wise.
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  • pooh8402pooh8402
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    I'll likely have showers for different sides of the family. first of all, our separate sets of parents live 4 hours apart. his family is spread across the state of Texas (which is HUGE) whereas mine is mostly concentrated in southeast Texas. it is easier for all involved for the different sides to have different showers in my situation. if my FMIL wants to throw a shower, then my aunt is not going to drive all the way up to go to my shower. and if my cousin wants to throw a shower, then my FI's aunt in Lubbock isn't going drive to Houston for a shower (that's approximately a 9 hour drive).

    it is totally acceptable for the different sides of the family to throw different showers. and it is common to have more than one shower.
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