In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_how-can-i-maximize-space-for-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:5f1aa31a-3534-463e-be0d-09aa7accc27aPost:bf968961-a2b5-42a5-a973-5501a8b34b49">Re: How can I maximize space for the ceremony?</a>: [QUOTE]Yeah I am absolutely at a loss at how you can read this thread, OP, and say you got no answers. You got about 5 different answers on how you can make this work. I think you are just trying to be difficult and came in looking to be defensive (as is proven by the "no negative responses" in your OP). Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]
I didn't come in looking to be offensive - that no negative responses was just because last time I asked for ideas in this forum, I got a bunch of people telling me how my idea was stupid, or they didn't like it, etc. when I wasn't asking if they'd like it, I was asking how I could make it work. I was hoping to avoid that this time by asking people to try and not respond if they weren't going to give me an idea to a possible solution.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_how-can-i-maximize-space-for-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:5f1aa31a-3534-463e-be0d-09aa7accc27aPost:9f66c97f-f12d-465b-88ec-861bff4dc5e4">Re: How can I maximize space for the ceremony?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How can I maximize space for the ceremony? : I didn't come in looking to be offensive - that no negative responses was just because last time I asked for ideas in this forum, I got a bunch of people telling me how my idea was stupid, or they didn't like it, etc. when I wasn't asking if they'd like it, I was asking how I could make it work. I was hoping to avoid that this time by asking people to try and not respond if they weren't going to give me an idea to a possible solution. Posted by theysayshannon[/QUOTE]
<div>I found that thread, and you didn't get a bunch of people doing that. You got like TWO and then you deleted. And I understand what you're saying about not asking if people like the idea but rather asking how to do it. What you need to understand is that if you ask how to do something, and people don't like it, they will tell you they don't like it and give the reason why. In so doing, they are trying to show you that it probably ISN'T an idea that is practical or that would be well received by your other guests. </div><div> </div><div>We're trying to represent those guests for you. Let's say 10 people here tell you something isn't a good idea. Don't you think odds are good maybe you'll have 10 (or more) guests in your real life thinking the same thing? HERE, we stop you before you try to carry out a bad or impractical idea and we move on. THERE, your idea gets carried out and you run the risk of your guests finding it in poor taste and talking about you behind your back. </div><div> </div><div> </div>
What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_how-can-i-maximize-space-for-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:5f1aa31a-3534-463e-be0d-09aa7accc27aPost:567ed7e2-1d46-47f8-ac41-a84de33dcfb9">Re: How can I maximize space for the ceremony?</a>: [QUOTE] When we originally booked the venue, we thought we were only going to have about 180 guests. Then his parents decided to invite more guests, and that because they were paying for them, it's okay. So we ended up agreeing to it. It was all something that we didn't realize, and now we're trying to figure out how to fix that mistake. Posted by theysayshannon[/QUOTE]
From your first post: "however, my fiance and his family have way more guests than anticpated that we're inviting (Our total is 240) and when we went back to the venue today to ask some questions and confirm things, we found out the maximum seating that they can provide on the patio is 100 (and 220 in the reception hall)."
So even before your fiance's family added 60 extra guests, you would have been over the maximum that your venue can accommodate on the patio. I don't understand why you didn't find out what the maximum was before booking the place or before giving your fiance's family the go-ahead to invite more people. Yes, this is poor planning on your part.
And, as I and several others said above, whether there is physical space for more chairs might be irrelevant: you might not be ALLOWED to put more chairs there due to venue policies or local codes regarding safety. You seem to have a difficult time with this concept, but maybe reiterating it will help: CHECK WITH YOUR VENUE. If adding more chairs isn't allowed, there's not much you can do except find another venue or, if invitations have not been sent out yet, cut the guest list. I'm not sure why you're making this so difficult.
Even if everyone agreed that adding more chairs was the most brilliant idea in the history of mankind, none of us can tell you the best way to do it because we've never been to your venue. The most obvious course of action would be to work with the staff there.
I just came across this thread searching for how to maximize ceremony space, and I find it disheartening that so many of these responses range from critical to condescending and just plain hurtful. If this is the way Knot boards typically are I'm glad I don't use them.
Re: How can I maximize space for the ceremony?
[QUOTE]Yeah I am absolutely at a loss at how you can read this thread, OP, and say you got no answers. You got about 5 different answers on how you can make this work. I think you are just trying to be difficult and came in looking to be defensive (as is proven by the "no negative responses" in your OP).
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]
I didn't come in looking to be offensive - that no negative responses was just because last time I asked for ideas in this forum, I got a bunch of people telling me how my idea was stupid, or they didn't like it, etc. when I wasn't asking if they'd like it, I was asking how I could make it work. I was hoping to avoid that this time by asking people to try and not respond if they weren't going to give me an idea to a possible solution.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How can I maximize space for the ceremony? : I didn't come in looking to be offensive - that no negative responses was just because last time I asked for ideas in this forum, I got a bunch of people telling me how my idea was stupid, or they didn't like it, etc. when I wasn't asking if they'd like it, I was asking how I could make it work. I was hoping to avoid that this time by asking people to try and not respond if they weren't going to give me an idea to a possible solution.
Posted by theysayshannon[/QUOTE]
<div>I found that thread, and you didn't get a bunch of people doing that. You got like TWO and then you deleted. And I understand what you're saying about not asking if people like the idea but rather asking how to do it. What you need to understand is that if you ask how to do something, and people don't like it, they will tell you they don't like it and give the reason why. In so doing, they are trying to show you that it probably ISN'T an idea that is practical or that would be well received by your other guests. </div><div>
</div><div>We're trying to represent those guests for you. Let's say 10 people here tell you something isn't a good idea. Don't you think odds are good maybe you'll have 10 (or more) guests in your real life thinking the same thing? HERE, we stop you before you try to carry out a bad or impractical idea and we move on. THERE, your idea gets carried out and you run the risk of your guests finding it in poor taste and talking about you behind your back. </div><div>
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[QUOTE] When we originally booked the venue, we thought we were only going to have about 180 guests. Then his parents decided to invite more guests, and that because they were paying for them, it's okay. So we ended up agreeing to it. It was all something that we didn't realize, and now we're trying to figure out how to fix that mistake.
Posted by theysayshannon[/QUOTE]
From your first post: "however, my fiance and his family have way more guests than anticpated that we're inviting (Our total is 240) and when we went back to the venue today to ask some questions and confirm things, we found out the maximum seating that they can provide on the patio is 100 (and 220 in the reception hall)."
So even before your fiance's family added 60 extra guests, you would have been over the maximum that your venue can accommodate on the patio. I don't understand why you didn't find out what the maximum was before booking the place or before giving your fiance's family the go-ahead to invite more people. Yes, this is poor planning on your part.
And, as I and several others said above, whether there is physical space for more chairs might be irrelevant: you might not be ALLOWED to put more chairs there due to venue policies or local codes regarding safety. You seem to have a difficult time with this concept, but maybe reiterating it will help: CHECK WITH YOUR VENUE. If adding more chairs isn't allowed, there's not much you can do except find another venue or, if invitations have not been sent out yet, cut the guest list. I'm not sure why you're making this so difficult.
Even if everyone agreed that adding more chairs was the most brilliant idea in the history of mankind, none of us can tell you the best way to do it because we've never been to your venue. The most obvious course of action would be to work with the staff there.