I've been engaged for over a year. I have 4 bridesmaids(two are in canada, one is local and one is across the country -baby sister) and a Maid of Honor (known her forever, lives 20 minutes from me). My MOH has been involved in very very minimal things, citing school projects, stress, sickness, gas prices, ect. in her inability to be with me. It is almost March, the last time I was able to get her for wedding help was in June of last year for our engagement party invitations. I have been very straight forward about asking if things are too much to do, money too much, ect., getting her in touch with other bridesmaids, other family members... "nope I've got it all under control". Meanwhile, I've recevied minimal support and encouragement from her, again due to her crazy life. When it came time to plan bridal shower and bach parties, my local bridesmaid offered to help my MOH out with everything. (BM has done it all before, experienced, could make things easier) and she was essentially told that MOH had it under control. Two weeks before the showers, MOH gives BM an email saying she needs her help planning the b-party. PLANNING IT. Not only that, but a few days later MOH lets BM know that shes not too keen on sum of the ideas and wants them fixed.
Im about at the end of my rope with my MOH. I've been considerate, I've made excuses for her, but I am now less than 2 months away from my wedding and I don't feel like I can depend on her, I don't feel like I'm a priority to her, and I think the "MOH" title is simply words to her.
For someone I've known my whole life, that I've been able to depend on in the past, I feel so heart broken that she can't even be there for me. Instead she's bailing on important things and putting it on other girls who were not preparred since its always been made to sound like she wanted to handle this.
How do I deal with this without hurting people or causing drama? I just want a day for my fiance and I to enjoy around our family and friends..