First dance

Twinkle5086 · April 2011

I have a question that my Dj asked me and I'm not really sure which way its supposed to be......Is the first dance (which is to be sung by my father) supposed to be done before dinner or after dinner? Anyone know or have a preferance?

xyrius · April 2011

I've always seen it after dinner but I know it can be done either way. That's why I answered after dinner.

Personally, I would prefer before dinner, because we only have our photographer for a limited amount of time, and it would give the guests something to look at while the food is getting ready to be served. I still need to discuss with FI which option we're choosing though.

Wiscisbliss · April 2011

I've seen it done both ways. Ours was after dinner followed by the father daughter/ mother son dances.

I think when it is done before, they also cut the cake before... that is so the cake can be plated while dinner is served so the cake is ready right after dinner.

hlq2011 · April 2011

I've only seen it before. For FSIL's wedding, they did their first dance almost immediately upon entering the reception.

scottswife1106 · April 2011

I don't think there is a right or wrong way to do this. It really depends on how you want your reception to "flow". We did our's after dinner.

noodle_oo · April 2011

I've seen both ways too. But most commonly, I've seen people do it right after their entrance to the reception. That's when we did ours and I liked it that way. But you can do it whenever you want.

baystateapple · April 2011

I've seen it both ways, but we did ours right after we came into the reception room, because H was nervous and wanted to get it over with.

brookelynpaisley · April 2011

We had a lunch reception, and we did our first dance before lunch, right after we walked in. We did the mother/son and father/daughter dances after lunch, though.

Calypso1977 · April 2011

ive always seen teh first dance after the announcement, before the bride adn groom take their seats.

usually WP dance follows (if there is one), then parent dances.

if you do this, make sure the bar is open! i went to one who refused to open teh bar until teh dances were over with. very annoying, as the scripted dances are the best time to get your drinks so you are ready to go for dinner.

b0710 · April 2011

Personally I think either works, whatever fits best in you schedule. We are doing our before to have it done with (plus we aren't doing a lot of the other "stuff") so we can just get to dancing with our friends/family after dinner.

Habs2Hart · April 2011

We're doing ours after when we want people to dance. Fl thinks it can be awkward when you are first introduced and then you have to dance right away.

Moneypenny424 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_first-dance-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a045db15-888c-409a-b516-45d1c7c58aebPost:fc99c0c2-f486-43ac-b134-566f0d2e6007">Re: First dance</a>:
[QUOTE]I've seen both ways too. But most commonly, I've seen people do it right after their entrance to the reception. That's when we did ours and I liked it that way. But you can do it whenever you want.
Posted by noodle_oo[/QUOTE]

This is what we did as well.

Milsey32 · April 2011

It's up to you! I like the idea of doing it right after your intro

ootmother2 · April 2011

The bride & groom were announced and went directly into their first dance

Thumper1148 · April 2011

We will be doing our after dinner. Our buffet will be set up over the dance floor, so we won't be able to do our first dance, until that has been cleared away.

ootmother2 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_first-dance-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a045db15-888c-409a-b516-45d1c7c58aebPost:1d963eb9-3880-455b-945c-2fd46f7eee3a">Re: First dance</a>:
[QUOTE]ive always seen teh first dance after the announcement, before the bride adn groom take their seats. usually WP dance follows (if there is one), then parent dances. if you do this, make sure the bar is open! i went to one who refused to open teh bar until teh dances were over with. very annoying, as the scripted dances are the best time to get your drinks so you are ready to go for dinner.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

This generally follows the cocktail hour so I can't see a problem

mica178 · April 2011

We did ours during dinner so that guests could eat if they didn't feel like watching us for the whole song.

DramaGeek · April 2011

We were announced and went right into our first dance...but our announcement was after dinner. We stood off to the side of the buffet line while people were getting food so we could mingle and chat, then H and I went to a separate room for a quick bite, then we joined the reception as everyone was finishing dinner.

Loopyseven · April 2011

We did ours directly after being introduced into the reception - then salads/dinner etc.

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