My FBIL will be 35 in September. He cannot hold a job or an apartment. He's fun, but he's very immature. In November, he could no longer afford his rent and moved in with my FMIL and FFIL. His two cats moved in with me and FI for a week before I couldn't stand them anymore, and they moved out to the FIL's house too.
He lived at their house until two weeks ago when FFIL kicked him out. He is currently jobless and homeless. All of his stuff is in our garage, and his cats are back. He had been crashing with a friend, and he's been out of town helping a friend build a cabin, so having a place in town hasn't been a big deal. He tried to get us to let him stay here this past weekend, but we weren't in town (and FI isn't ever in town, he's away at an internship, so it's just me).
He left again today to go work on the cabin, but he mentioned wanting to stay here when he gets back. I'm going to be gone again this weekend, and given his history of poor choices, I am very uncomfortable with him staying here without me. I don't even want him staying here when I am here. FI is with me on this. FBIL and I didn't have a chance to really talk about it; he just mentioned it on the way out the door after he stopped by.
I feel like I've already done more than enough to help him. Example: FBIL and FMIL told FFIL that I was the one who crashed FMIL's car when it was really FBIL. Did you follow that? They were afraid FSFIL would kick FBIL out, which happened anyway. Yes, it was a stupid move on their part. So I took the fall for that, and then I let all his shiit move into our garage, and I took in his cats (and I HATE THEM), and then I took care of a dog he was supposed to take care of because he was too irresponsible.
At this point, I feel like I'm just enabling him and FI and I are both uncomfortable with him staying here. He's stolen from FI before. I should add that he is getting $300 a week on unemployment, and that he was employed for most of the 7 months he lived with his parents, and that he had absolutely no bills. He's also getting paid about $100 per day for work on this cabin. There is no reason that he can't get his own place.
So, is it overly bitchy of me to say no, he can't stay here? I'd really like to set a deadline for when all of his stuff has to be out because I'm afraid that it'll be here forever, based on his track record. Is that reasonable or too bitchy? Thanks for reading this far.