Pot-Smoking Moms

kaceymarie · July 2012

*sigh* you can find another way to relax..

i have never done drugs and i wouldn't want my kids to either.

Anysunrise · July 2012

I honestly don't give two sh*ts if a parent chooses to smoke weed at the end of the day to relax, but I also didn't grow up with it being illegal or a big deal whatsoever.

emeejeeayen · July 2012

Resident Californian from the Bay Area here. I think you get a bigger fine here for parking in a handicap spot than smoking weed?

Anyway, growing up I don't think I ever saw either of my parents have more than half a glass of wine, and that was only a few times a year. I didn't grow up in a drinking culture so it stopped me from doing much hard partying in high school, and honestly I didn't do that much of it in college if you're judging by TV standards.

Now weed on the other hand, my mom has never smoked since art school in the 60s. My dad, however, probably has smoked every day since art school in the 60s. I remember the first time I smelled weed in high school, I was like, "OMG, Dad doesn't have really bad BO - HE'S JUST HIGH!" It caused me to be heartily against the stuff for most of my life.

On the other hand, I had friends whose parents smoked weed, and they'd go take their weed just like they'd take their alcohol when they were home alone.

I guess my point is that it depends on the parents, and it depends on the kids. It depends on the communication that's happening, and it depends on why the behavior is happening in the first place. If you're using it as an avoidance tactic: not healthy. If you're using it to winddown and go to sleep: probs better than sleeping pills, honestly.

RWS2011 · July 2012

I agree with the "it is better to not NEED any substance to wind down" camp. Honestly, pot smoking doesn't bother me that much and I do have a drink now and then. I don't know if I would exactly put my judgy pants on if I knew of a parent who lit up from time to time. I would judge equally a parent who NEEDED to drink 3-4 glasses of wine/beer/whatever or to light up every night.

Try yoga, nostalgic music with some head phones, 30 minutes of "me time" with a book, a nice bath. There are many ways to relax that do not involve being less mentally acute if some random freak occurrence like suddenly the building is on fire, or there is a tornado sighted nearby, and you need to be mentally clear to respond appropriately and keep your family safe.

Simply Fated · July 2012

I definitely agree that if you "need" to alter your mind with drugs or alcohol, that's a whole other story.
I mean, I think of my friends back in high school or college who couldn't get through the entire school day without getting high. I had a few alcoholic friends, too. Just because you're an adult now, it doesn't mean it's now okay to do these things because you "need" to to get through the rest of the day, ya know?

[Deleted User] · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_pot-smoking-moms?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8ea774eb-53be-42cb-b33d-98ea5e539885Post:de25c4ab-bc69-4218-912d-8879168e795e">Re: Pot-Smoking Moms</a>:
[QUOTE]Also, pot is hardly organic. If it's off the streets, it's rarely pure.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]
What?

Also, the smell of pot doesn't linger for very long like cigarette smoke does.

I'd be tempted to say in moderation and away from the kids it's fine. But unfortunately, it is illegal, and that matters. It's one thing to tempt fate when you don't have kids, but when you do you give up the right to just worry about yourself. So, in that sense I don't think it's ok, because it's not just the parents' lives that stand to be affected. Of course, I think they should just legalize it so that it becomes a non-issue.

ETA: I'm not talking about areas in which it's been decriminalized. In those cases I think it's fine, in moderation, without the kids present.

Marina Ova · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_pot-smoking-moms?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8ea774eb-53be-42cb-b33d-98ea5e539885Post:748e3e5f-cc87-4ff1-a929-8ee940f4d753">Re: Pot-Smoking Moms</a>:
[QUOTE]The difference for me is that pot is illegal and wine isn't. So pretty much if you think teaching your children that breaking the law is a-ok because it helps you relax, you're kind of doing it wrong.
Posted by dmiller9274[/QUOTE]

There's illegal and there's immoral. Just because pot is illegal doesn't mean it's immoral and the only reason it is illegal is because the government hasn't figured out a way to control it yet. If I had children, I would surely teach them the difference between right and wrong, but also to question government and decide for themselves.

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