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Okay, I have been reading alot of ya'lls post and it seems like alot of you have been ring shopping with your BF.  Well I haven't I have somewhat explained what I like but I have never gone and like pointed one out, and he has no idea what my ring size is! Heck I don't even know what my ring size is. Anyways my whole point is I feel like he is going to propose soon, but know I am not sure.  Since I haven't done the ring shopping.  So what do ya'll think?  Is that kinda of weird or do all couples do it diffrently?  Is he going to do it all by himself? lol What has been your experience?
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  • motoLynmotoLyn member
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    edited December 2011
    He might have talked to your friends and family to see your style? Do you usually wear rings, so he might have checked up on your style?  He might have an idea of what it is.  My FI suggested that we go ring shopping together.  I 'm glad that he did, though he and i share similar taste in jewelry, when it came to an e-ring we were on separate pages.  I liked more vintage and he was clean cut and sharp angles.  If you think he's close to buying a ring, then perhaps leaving pictures of what you like on your computer screen or when you guys walk by a window display just point it out to him.  Only do this if he is ready to buy a ring.  No need to stress the guy out if he isn't close to committing to a ring.  In the long run its a symbol from him and so you will and should be happy with the ring he presents you because its a symbol of you and him.  I know some girls have grown to love their rings. 
  • edited December 2011
    I think every couple does things in their own way. Many guys try to get a feel for what their GF might like, what her style is, white/yellow gold...that doesn't necessarily mean he will take you to a jewelers and ask what you like. He may just ask you or your friends/family or look at jewelry you already own to get an idea.

    For me, personally, BF and I have looked a little...but I've never tried anything on or said "that's the one". He knows I am pretty picky (I want it to be something I love since I plan to wear it every day for the rest of my life). I wouldn't be surprised if BF proposed with a cracker jack ring and then took me shopping so that the proposal could still be a surprise. Who knows. But I do not think everyone has to/wants to go shopping together before hand.
  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    Everyone does it differently.

    For some people, they really want to both be involved in picking the ring.

    For others, they want the surprise element. And some want a combination of the two, some sort of balance.

    That's up to you two as a couple. How does your BF feel about this? Talk to him about it.

    You can get your ring sized later if you need to.

  • bethsmilesbethsmiles Denver, CO member
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    edited December 2011
    All couples do it differently. I've show BF what I like online and we've talked about it a lot but I've never actually gone into a store with him and tried on rings (besides the one time the lady at Kays made me and would only show us promise rings because we were too young to get engaged according to her.) I really want to be surprised when BF proposes and he has excellent taste so I trust him to pick something beautiful that I love, I don't need to be too involved in the process. Some girls like to be involved in picking out the ring its really just up to you and your BF.


  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    Talk with your BF about it. I assume you guys have talked about marriage? Not just getting married, but what that means for your future in terms of career (what if one of you gets an opportunity that requires a move?), kids (not just when but how you want to handle discipline and such), finances, house buying, etc.

    A conversation about ring shopping is only one of many important decisions you will make together, so start practicing now!

    "Honey, what do you think our timeline for getting married should be? Do you want to start shopping for rings now or do you prefer to wait a while? Will you want us to go together?"

    GL and let us know how it goes!

    ETA: Also, just FYI, ya'll is not the correct punctuation. The apostrophe goes after the y to indicate the missing ou of you all. Sorry, I know I'm a nerd, but this is a pet peeve.
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  • edited December 2011
    All couples do it differently.  My FI and I sort of stumbled into ring shopping.  We were shopping together and walked past a jewelry store when he asked if I wanted to go in and look at engagement rings.  When I picked my jaw up off the floor, I agreed.  We went ring shopping 3 times or so.  When my FI ended up purchasing my ring, I was present.  Evidently, I was so picky about what I liked that FI was terrified that I wouldn't like whatever he bought, so he wanted me there to pick everything out myself.

    I know plenty of people that bought their own rings.  I know people who were completely surprised.  And then I know some people who gave very vague instructions, "Something that'll fit my hand, no yellow gold, not square."

    Deep breaths.  It'll be ok.
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_idk-title-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a4b56432-4d8b-40af-998c-18c1ce7b0363Post:adfe0911-99a4-4070-b03d-44e3b756a8b3">Re: IDK how to title this one</a>:
    [QUOTE]Talk with your BF about it. I assume you guys have talked about marriage? Not just getting married, but what that means for your future in terms of career (what if one of you gets an opportunity that requires a move?), kids (not just when but how you want to handle discipline and such), finances, house buying, etc. A conversation about ring shopping is only one of many important decisions you will make together, so start practicing now! "Honey, what do you think our timeline for getting married should be? Do you want to start shopping for rings now or do you prefer to wait a while? Will you want us to go together?" GL and let us know how it goes! ETA: <strong>Also, just FYI, ya'll is not the correct punctuation. The apostrophe goes after the y to indicate the missing ou of you all. Sorry, I know I'm a nerd, but this is a pet peeve.</strong>
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    I wanted to say this.  Desert beat me to it.  *pout*
  • CASK85CASK85 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_idk-title-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a4b56432-4d8b-40af-998c-18c1ce7b0363Post:adfe0911-99a4-4070-b03d-44e3b756a8b3">Re: IDK how to title this one</a>:
    [QUOTE]ETA: Also, just FYI, ya'll is not the correct punctuation. The apostrophe goes after the y to indicate the missing ou of you all. Sorry, I know I'm a nerd, but this is a pet peeve.
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

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  • edited December 2011
    For me it went like this

    *ring ring*
    Me: Hello?
    BF: What's your ring size?
    Me: Why?
    BF: Cus I need it.
    Me: .....Nine
    BF: Thanks!
    *click*

    Over one year later, I have a ring and BF is now FI. I wouldn't worry about it

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  • sparkles88sparkles88 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_idk-title-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a4b56432-4d8b-40af-998c-18c1ce7b0363Post:156510d4-23a6-409c-86ad-615695225e30">Re: IDK how to title this one</a>:
    [QUOTE]For me it went like this *ring ring* Me: Hello? BF: What's your ring size? Me: Why? BF: Cus I need it. Me: .....Nine BF: Thanks! *click* Over one year later, I have a ring and BF is now FI. I wouldn't worry about it
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    Haha, I love it. That's not suspicious at all...
  • edited December 2011
    I told FI that I didn't care if I had an engagement ring or not, didn't matter to me.  We would look through the Sunday ads and I'd make comments about certain rings that I didn't like, but that's about it.  We're both pretty old-fashioned and he picked the ring out completely on his own (didn't even ask my mom for help).  He did a lot of research on it before he bought it.  Is it a ring I would have picked out on my own? No (and he knows this, but he also knows that it does have some elements that I would have picked out on my own).  But I do love my ring - it's the most beautiful thing on earth and FI knows that I would never trade it for anything.  And more importantly, I love my FI because he put so much thought into his outward expression of his love for me - he says he's not much of a romantic guy, but I tend to disagree.
  • Blue & WhiteBlue & White member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't even know my ring size, so obviously BF is screwed in this whole process.  But I'm sure he'll be okay :)  Deep breaths - enjoy what you have now and everything'll work out.  I'm not going ring shopping though, so I'm obviously good at waiting.
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  • cu97tigercu97tiger member
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    edited December 2011
    As everyone else has said, every experience is different. My BF and I went looking at rings once (he barely looked), and have seen some interesting rings in magazine ads, plus he has my grandmother's diamond ring to re-work if he wants, but there has definitely not been any definitive design that we've picked out.

    Long story short - this weekend we decided that we wouldn't go look at rings today. I feel strongly that it is his gift/offering to me, so if he doesn't want any more input, that's ok. It will be so special that he designs and picks it out almost completely on his own.

    Regarding your ring size, guys can be really tricky. If there are any rings that you wear on that finger, he could 'borrow' it for a few hours and figure out your size. Or get one of your friends to ask you in random conversation.

    But if it's bothering you, ask him what he's thinking. He may not want to give you details, but let him know that you're thinking of these things.
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  • edited December 2011
    Okay I feel so0o0 much better now, thank you!   I am just going to leave it alone and just see what happens.  For the record I so never knew that it was y'all. lol  No one that I have ever met spelt it that way. haha But duly noted!  :)
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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_idk-title-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a4b56432-4d8b-40af-998c-18c1ce7b0363Post:0ca6068f-f12c-4654-9caf-ba2eea774fde">Re: IDK how to title this one</a>:
    [QUOTE]Okay I feel so0o0 much better now, thank you!   I am just going to leave it alone and just see what happens.  For the record I so never knew that it was y'all. lol  No one that I have ever met <strong>spelt</strong> it that way. haha But duly noted!  :)
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    gah...


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  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    Isn't spelt a type of wheat?

    I think the correct past tense of spell is spelled.

    And....I'm stepping away from my soapbox now...for this thread anyway. Promise. :)
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