Speaking of Registry Stalking...

careydes · March 2012

BB&B keeps telling me I should have 3 registry items per gift giver on my registry. Umm.. that's a lot. I'm no where near close. I sent out 77 invites. So, I would need over 200 items? Wow.

That seems like a lot to me. We only found 84 items to put on there. I feel like it's a little on the small side, but not tiny. I know there are probably only 20 people invited to my shower.. which means about 100 gifts will be bought between the shower and wedding. But not everyone gives gifts, right? So I figure we're fine.

I just keep questioning myself whenever I log in and see that little piece of umm 'advice.' haha.

Cackle6 · March 2012

The reason they reccommend that many items is because they figure that people will purchase multiple small items (a whisk, spatula, wine stopper, etc) to create a gift. If you're not having a shower you might be ok, but I would keep checking back and if it's getting close to having all items fulfilled, try to add some more. They have over 10,000 items at BBB, I'm sure you could find something else you like there.

spalko · March 2012

They told us the same thing but we just kind of let the guy talk then did our own thing. You shouldn't register for things you don't want just because you feel like you HAVE too. That's just silly! If you are worried about numbers maybe increase the number of towels and sheets, if you register for any. FI and I registered for a bunch of Yankee candles since we wouldn't normally purchase a bunch of the larger candles ourselves. If you can't find anything that you want, then don't worry about it, guests don't have to buy what is on your list anyways. I think you'll be fine with your registry just the way it is!

ladyj2480 · March 2012

We only registered for things that we needed. On BB&B, I think we only have 32 things on there and around 75 on our Target regisgry. I saw the same "advice" on both websites, but my opinion is that we registered for things we really needed, so we stand a greater chance of getting what we need as opposed to something we didn't really need but just put it on there to have lots of things on the registry. If that makes sense....

S0095042 · March 2012

as PPs said, we were also told that but decided to do our own thing...we only registerd for the things we really wanted - we've lived together for 4 years...we don't truly need much

mandi921vh · March 2012

On Macys they tell you to have twice as many gifts as guests. I think it's better to have a variety of gifts for guests to choose from. You can always purchase the gifts yourself after the wedding at a discounted price if there are any left over. But like PPs mention don't just add something for the heck of it, only add stuff you actually like/need.

mandi921vh · March 2012

On Macys they tell you to have twice as many gifts as guests. I think it's better to have a variety of gifts for guests to choose from. You can always purchase the gifts yourself after the wedding at a discounted price if there are any left over. But like PPs mention don't just add something for the heck of it, only add stuff you actually like/need.

Egrauvog · March 2012

We didn't really follow their advice either. We invted 155 people and have about 200 things on all of our registries combined. I feel like thats a lot!!

AurorasEnvy · March 2012

This is partially why we have 3 registries, because I couldn't find that much stuff I wanted at just one place! Just another idea, you could create another small registry instead of trying to pick out more stuff from a store you've already combed over.

Melissa51212 · March 2012

I just had my shower and let me tell you it is true people are so flipping generous. We did a pretty big registry, my FI is a chef and went nuts with kitchen gadets so that helped, but we dont have much left if people are going the gift route instead of cashe route if they want to give gift for the wedding. It may be worth it to add somethings..just a heads up BBB gives you CASH back for anything you deciced to exchange. We only had to exchange a few doubles and one thing we realize we would never use and got 200 dollars to go towards our honeymoon. So I agree with PP to not get anything you really dont want but its just something to think about if you think you might run out of gifts. I had 65 people at my shower and registered for 145 things.Our wedding is 175 so they still said ours was small. HA!

careydes · March 2012

I'm glad I'm not the only one.

We put a link on our wedding website to FI's fundraising page for the 2 day, 200 mile bike ride that FI does every summer (100% of donations go to the Dana Farber Cancer Institute) so hopefully people will use that option as well. We just don't want any more STUFF. We have too much of it anyways. All of the things we registered for were upgrades to what we have now. Most of our lower priced items were kitchen gadgets and k cups haha.

We invited 150 people, but I figure some of them are couples, or families that will be giving one gift, which is why I counted invites instead of people.

I think we're good. I have been keeping an eye out it, and with 3 weeks to go until the shower, there are still about 70 items life.

Or maybe people will really get the idea that we don't want them to spend any more money on our wedding than they are just getting there!

dori851 · March 2012

We found plenty to put on our registry! LOL We sent out 85 invites & we registered for 307 things at BB&B & 80-ish things at C&B. But, there are also 67 people coming to my shower, so I know many of the gifts will be off the registry from that. Like some PPs said, the reason they suggest registering for so much is so that the guests have a wide variety to choose from (price-wise). I know most things that make up our registry are small kitchen gadgets (spatulas, whisks, ice cream scoop, salt & pepper shaker, potato masher, you get what I'm saying) so people will probably buy multiple of those in order to make up one gift.

I would probably keep checking & searching on BB&B's website to see if there's anything else you'd like to add. If you really, truly don't like anything else, then just let it be or register somewhere else as well.

AurorasEnvy · March 2012

Yeah, another thing that always gets me, too - counting the number of gifts is so silly. People might have a registry of 75 things, but if they are registered for spatulas, kitchen towels, measuring cups, etc. it is a lot different than a registry of 75 china settings, flatware, kitchen appliances, etc. Obviously you'd buy a lot more "gifts" off the first type of registry in strict numbers, but you might only buy one "gift" off the second because it'd be a lot more expensive.

AvyTkon · March 2012

Our registry is tiny because we already own our house and mainly registered for nice upgrades. We sent out 60 invitations and only registered for 55 items at BB&B. I figure, if we run out of things for people to choose from, they can conjure up a unique idea on their own or offer us a gift card for later. I wouldn't stress too much over it.

And like one PP mentioned, we only registered for stuff we would really like as opposed to a lot of odds and ends we sort of like just to raise the number of items for guests to peruse through.

Cackle6 · March 2012

Another thing to point out - if you don't have anything left on your registry, but people don't look before they go into the store, chances are they are going to be frustrated that there is nothing left, but since they are already in the store, they'll probably get you a gift card instead, which you CAN NOT redeem for cash. Or worse, they'll go somewhere else and get something that you do not want, forget to include a gift receipt, and then you probably won't be able to take it back at all.

Guest really do like to get you actual gifts. I know everyone just wants money, but lots of people would rather give an actual gift than give money. Just something to keep in mind.

IllusionsDepths · March 2012

We added the few items that we needed. Like a new waffle maker, and a larger coffee maker. Both of ours have nearly died. Since we have been living together for nearly 3 years we don't need much. My family has been giving us household items as Christmas presents for a while now. I did however add a bunch of items that we normally wouldn't buy ourselves, since they are on the frivolous side but we would use them all the time. Like the different wine glasses and stoppers/aerators and such. We have about 60 items on the list and 57 guest. But we aren't worried because the guest list is mostly couples and family so we're looking at a maximum of around 30 gifts, and that's only if everyone gets us something.

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