Divorced Parents? [vent]
Do any of you have parents who aren't together that are dating again?
My grandparents went through with their divorce when I was 14. They'd been separated since I was born, but nobody actually told me that until I was 14. I know, I know, how dumb do you have to be to miss that? But they attended everything together and still "acted" married. They're the only "marriage" I had ever witnessed as a kid in my family.
I never even knew my grandfather was dating anyone until I was about 16. And I didn't like his girlfriend, she was kinda crazy. Anyways, they broke up and I just found out he's been seeing someone for nearly a year now... and yet again, never mentioned it. No, I'm not thriled with the idea of him dating someone else. I do find it strange. But I've come to terms with their divorce, and if this woman (actually, his ex-serious GF) makes him happy, then I can accept it.
The feeling I hate is how it feels to me like he's living a double life almost. I'm his granddaughter (and more like a daughter. He's the closet thing to a father I've ever had. and my grandmother has raised me my entire life) and it feels so strange knowing that there's a woman he's dated for YEARS that I've never met or been told about. She has children and he buys them all sorts of gifts and takes them on trips. I see him multiple times a week and in the summer time I work with him. I just find it disconcerting and I wanted to vent a little I suppose. I was also wondering if anyone else has had experience with this?
Re: Divorced Parents? [vent]
Interestingly enough my BF's parents are now going through a similar situation. Divorce after 30 years, so in our own awkward way I help him deal with divorce as an adult. It is so different then divorce as a child.
Anyway fastforward to now, my dad is now currently dating someone for a year now and I've NEVER met her nor do I even know her name. I have my suspicisions on why I haven't mer her, I think he's dating someone my age. I've just given up on caring, its his life and if he doesn't want to share that part of his life with me then oh well.But I definitely know how you feel about your grandfather living a double life. That's how I feel about my dad.
It is just such a weird feeling.
Both my parents are with other people now. My mom is living with her boyfriend of roughly seven years. I don't think they're actually happy together as a couple. They just like the company and my mom wants someone there for her in case her MS immobilizes her.
My dad remarried two or three years ago. He lived with his new wife for many years before they married. How long they dated I couldn't tell you, since she was his mistress while he was married to my mom. I unfortunately met this woman during that time when I was 9-10. I didn't know what was going on at the time, so I don't know how long he'd been seeing her. She's also the epitome of evil stepmother and really controlling; she won't let my dad even speak to me on the phone without her listening in.
I get how you feel, but hopefully your grandfather is just not telling you because he's worried you'll be upset by it. Definitely talk to him about it when you get a chance.