So, I know my wedding is still a while away. However, the person that I have been best friends with for 18 yearswas supposed to be my best friend. Well, needless to say after yesterday's events, she is no longer even an aquaintence.
ALONGGGGstory short, my fiance has a "daughter" [it was his ex's daughter that he was involved in her life from the time she was 6 months old] from a previous relationship. Her daughter's mother *Jae plays entirely TOO MANY games when it comes to him letting him visit her. His daughter, *Jasmine is now 5 and often asks to see her daddy. Jae took Jasmine and moved about hours away which is really no big deal until my fiance is supposed to visit her. I do know that a good part of the problem was when I came into the picture. Jae really started games then. However, I nipped that in the butt immediately and tried to be nice to her--added her on Facebook, talked to her about Jasmine from time to time, talked about parenting (I have two boys from a previous relationship). I was just trying to keep the peace since I came from divorced parents who had an UGLY divorce.
ALONGERRRRstory short, last weekend, Jae was in town and called my fiance and told him she would be in the area on Sunday and asked would he be around so that Jasmine could see him. My fiance told her that he would be home all day. On Sunday afternoon, Jae called his cell phone and my fiance missed that call by maybe 2 minutes. When *JD called back, Jay caught an attitude basically because he wasn't at her beck & call when she called his cell phone, she then decided that he couldn't see Jasmine. So of course, this upset him. Jae is very dramatic and rude.
Yesterday, Jae was being her usual self, over dramatic and crying for attention. At some point over the weekend, she posted on twitter that she had supposedly "fainted." My ex-MOH asked her how she was doing and Jae responded fine. No harm, right? Wrong. Jae continues to post on twitter how JD is a "horrible father" and makes "terrible decisions especially about who he chooses to be his wife." I saw it immediately. I sent Jae a message on Facebook explaining to her that I didn't appreciate the nasty comments on Twitter and that I honestly wish that she would stop playing games when it came to Jasmine. I told her that I was sorry that the plans that her and JD had once made (they were expecting a baby, but due to stupid decisions that Jae made, they lost their baby and that caused their break-up) fell through. However, making my life a living hell (another long story for another post I guess) was not going to fix anything. She then fires back at me, telling me that it's my fault that Jasmine cannot have JD in her life like she should and that I am a "homewrecking trick" (let's keep in mind, I didn't even know him 4 years ago when they broke up) and I should burn in hell along with my father (who recently passed in the beginning on February). So naturally, my reaction is to fly off the handle (which I can admit that I am known to do) and I simply told her that I tried to give the benefit of the doubt and didn't want to lable her as one of those petty mothers who tries to use their child as a pawn, but apparently I was oh so wrong! I can admit that I am not completely innocent in that world war.
Later on, I was texting my ex-MOH about the scenario from yesterday and we were comparing it to something that happened about a month ago (again. another long story). I did say something about the fact that I think Jae is lunatic and poor excuse for a mother who doesn't get her way. My ex-MOH starts DEFENDING Jae. WTF?!?!?!?! I'm like seriously?. My ex-MOH honor had it out, which resulting in me telling her to f*#k off and she can forget about being my maid of honor and I sure as hell don't wanna be her's (she's getting married in August). We all know that Jae is NOTORIOUSfor throwing herself pitty parties and it was more than evident that my ex-MOH was the first to accept the invitation to the one that was held yesterday!
Today, mutual friends are telling me that she was posting rude statuses about me on Facebook & Twitter (I blocked her on both) and on Twitter, she's apparently chatting it up with her new BFF Jae. The funny thing is, just two weeks ago, ex-MOH was bashing Jae & calling her an attention whore because of some things that she has posted on Twitter. But, they're suddenly BFF's now? lol. Ex-MOH is going to other mutual friends telling them she "can't figure out" why I asked her to step out of my wedding. Bi*ch really? lol
Now, I know that I fly off at the handle a lot, but am I wrong for kicking her out?
*I changed their names for privacy issues