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Tacky or Not Tacky, That appears to be the question! Out of town gift bags

So, I was enlisted by my sister to make the out of town gift bags, since it is my "Matron of Honour Due Diligence." I work at a wine store and can get little bottles of wine for about $3 with my discount making the whole bag a total of $7. The people these bags are for would be coming from, Colorado, New York, I think Montana, well, All over. I agreed to pay a portion because it is just too expensive for all the bags needed, I offered to cover $5 a bag and asked my sister to pick up the extra $2.
My sister, however, does not want any wine in the bag whatsoever. She doesn't want to spend more than $4 a bag and says no one needs the wine anyway. I am insisting because they are coming this whole way to Florida that she really should have a small bottle of wine per room/bag. She is trying to always keep things on the cheap side and so she is refusing to add any sort of wine, champagne, mini's etc. I think this is tacky, having a small bottle is the right thing to do after they travel all that way. I have spoken to many people, married or getting married, and they are adding wine to their gift bags. Just wondering what you think.

Re: Tacky or Not Tacky, That appears to be the question! Out of town gift bags

  • I think it's nice to give guests OOT gift bags if they are traveling from far away to attend a wedding. Would it be nice to get wine in an OOT bag, yes, but I would consider if it's in my budget (depending how many OOT guests you will have). If your sister has a lot of OOT guests and the wine takes up most of the buget for these gift bags then subsitute it with something else. My best guess is that your sister wants to get as many items as she can within the $7 budget and even if you purchase the wine it may make the OOT bag seem lacking in items. In all honesty, I wouldn't think it's tacky if she doesn't give wine in her OOT bags but I would think it's tacky if she doesn't give a bag at all. Personally, I would prefer getting water bottles instead.

    Look into these sites to see if you and you sister can come to an agreement as to what to fill in the OOT bags.

    http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_favors_out-of-town-guest-gift-bags

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080209175344AAfSYPd


  • Whose wedding is it?  If it is hers then if she doesn't want wine then she doesn't want wine.  The only other thing I can think of is since she wants the bags to cost $4 each, then in a round about way is she trying to get you to pay for it all?  Does she not want to chip in the extra $2/bag? 

    Personally all of my guests are from OOT, including FI & me and we are not having OOT bags.  I have never been to an OOT wedding where bags were given so I don't think that it is tacky NOT to give them.  They are a nice gesture though.

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  • FaithCaitlinFaithCaitlin member
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    I'm having a destination wedding and while we are providing OOT bags they're pretty minimal: a welcome packet, some snacks, water, hand sanitizer, a Disney button {Disney wedding}, and a plush if there is a child in the room. 

    Honestly, it's not your day. If the bride wants to spend $4 or less, let her. 

    I think you're very sweet to care and try to make it nice but at the end of the day, this is the bride's call! :)

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  • I agree with the other ladies, unless you u want to donate the  extra per bag then I would leave it alone. I don't think it's tacky not to have them in there. Most ppl are just appreciative to get the bags at all.

     

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