OK, this is a pretty complicated situation, but I will try to keep it short! I live 7+ hours from all other family and have 2 young children. The bride is my sister and wedding is July 2011. As far as I know there are 7 other women in bridal party at this point and one of them is Maid of Honor (this was not set in stone last I knew). I have been trying to get thru Christmas and son's B-Day before I start serious shower plans. However, approx a month ago MOG told my sister that she is hosting a shower for Groom's side of family only and never has talked to me about it. I am not going to be able to travel for multiple showers and the wedding. At one point our mom said she would host shower at her house but now she has said this is not her responsibility. So it looks like I have to plan a shower for our side of family from out of town. My sister wants the shower and bach parties on same weekend so my husband and I can be at all parties and also asked me to come out for MOG's shower as well which I said I just can't do. I work full time and will already be using a lot of vacation time as it is. My H and I just want to make a marathon trip for parties and not take kids with us. My sister also has been talking a lot about bach parties and what her and groom want to do, both of which involve seperate overnight plans. I am kinda stuck an what to do at this point and now FBIL has also called me asking about shower plans. Only WP people I know are my brother and SIL and they are expecting a baby in March. Any advise or ideas would be appreciated! Hope this makes sense