One of my friends is pregnant and her baby is due the same week as my bridal shower. She lives in Chicago; shower will be in Washington, D.C. Should my shower hosts send her an invite? I don't want her to feel excluded (I'm inviting all of our mutual girlfriends), but I don't want to send her an invite when it's clear she won't be able to make it. Would an invite be a thoughtful gesture to let her know I would have wanted her there? I'm worried the message will come across as, "Here's an invitation. You clearly can't make it, but send me a gift, please!"
Thoughts? She and I were close in college, but we're not super close anymore. She is invited to the wedding too, of course!