One of the wives is basically making me feel like I'm not a good wife (well, future wife) if I don't stay here where my FI is stationed the WHOLE time. I plan on moving back to my home state when he deploys next spring, but because he is going to be gone the majority of the time from now until next spring, we've discussed me just staying in our home state when we go home for Christmas. That would mean I won't be here to see him for the few weeks between dets that he actually is here. It will be MUCH easier to plan our wedding from home, I miss my friends and family terribly, and my FI will barely even be here. The other wife tells me that its just "part of the Navy life."
Yes, my FI is important to me, but HIS job with the Navy does not define ME!
She has made another wife (who is former Navy) feel bad about moving to her home state too. She wanted her mother to help with childcare while she goes to school because her DH (who is in the Navy) is barely home with his job.
This wife also gave me crap for getting one of those "I
my sailor" stickers for MY car, saying her DH would never "let" her get one and that it should be up to my FI. I'm sorry, but in our relationship, things are equal. We discuss things together. I am not a 50's housewife!
How do I politely tell this wife that it's none of her business, and what we decide is between me and my FI?