Tacky and Expensive Registry Items

aprovencher21 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I've been looking through my H's cousin's bridal registry and there are some pretty expensive items on there! I didn't even know they made $150 blenders, $300 food processors, or $120 toothbrushes. Yes, a toothbrush, hair straightener, and a $200 electric razor all made its way onto the registry. Am I being cheap or does that seem a bit ridiculous? Thankfully, there's still some $20-$50 items on the registry.
Posted by klovesd[/QUOTE]

I don't mind the expensive registry items. There should be a mixture of pricing. While I wouldn't put a hair straightener or toothbrush on a registry its not a big deal. People register for all sorts of stuff nowadays. TVs, camping gear, scuba diving gear, Wiis, etc. I think its all fine. As long as the registry isn't for cash, house payments, honeymoon, etc. I'm find with it.

Also, I think its important to have some high end options on the registry. I'd be annoyed if I went to buy something off a registry and all that was left was a bunch of $20-$30 things.

nhelene · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tacky and Expensive Registry Items : I totally get this. We're doing a bunch of upgrades. I was actually surprised that there was a bunch of stuff we didn't have that would be nice to have, too. It's all fairly traditional registry stuff, though. I was pissed at FI about 2 months ago, though. We needed new sheets. He went out and bought on-sale sheets instead of what was on our registry. I was like, "Why don't boy brains work right?!" Not really, but he was pissed that I was mad about it.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

I've used the phrase "don't buy it we registered for one' so many times in the last few months.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tacky and Expensive Registry Items : I've used the phrase "don't buy it we registered for one' so many times in the last few months.
Posted by nhelene[/QUOTE]

I wanted to hold out, but there was a huge rip in our bottom sheet and we only had one set. But I'm like... why not just get the sheets we actually want that someone probably won't buy us anyway? One less thing to buy with our "discount" after the wedding.

But I have to say, I REALLY want/need a blender. That's probably my most-wanted registry item, other than the dishes.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · July 2010

When you're looking for registries, do you ever see people who make registries for birthdays or housewarmings? I think that's so weird and entitled.

temerityjane · July 2010

YES, I totally see those. It's so strange.

And TARGET registries is where you find the most crazy, random stuff. Like people registered for gum.

pooh8402 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tacky and Expensive Registry Items : I won't even front, if I thought I could even remotely get away with registering at MAC or Sephora my happy ass would have been up there with a gift gun IN A HOT MINUTE.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]
ditto. love Sephora.

NuggetBrain · July 2010

My MOH had a housewarming registry at Kohl's. Our other BFF said that nobody used it and the only thing people bought to her housewarming was a few bottles of wine.

Bubbalub · July 2010

Our registry has items ranging in price from a couple bucks to bout $275 (for the nice kitchen knives). We made sure to have a wide range of items and prices so people could feel free to choose something affordable to them (or not, of course).

It DOES feel weird having a registry and I worry about being judged for it, especially because this is my second wedding (though it is FI's first). But I know my family doesn't count my first marriage as anything important at this point and it was 10 years ago anyway. I don't know, I'm excited and yet I do worry about what people think.

We did register for upgrades or things we need badly or want badly. We really thought about whether or not we would use the things we chose or whether we were choosing them because they looked cool and then would never get used. Example: For my first wedding we registered for a set of tall ice cream sundae glasses, like you would see in a soda shop. Have I ever used them in 10 years of having them? Nope. Not once.

Birdie1483 · July 2010

My friend had batteries, sponges, tp, hangers, and $100+ kitchen items. Not much in between.

That's the only thing that irks me about registries. I like to spend a certain amount for the bridal shower and a certain amount for the wedding. I think it's only polite to put a range of items that have a range of costs to give your friends/family options.

I did buy a friend a dog cover thing for the backseat of her car and the pedi-paws thing but that's because they might not be able to have kids and I understand how their dogs are their children.

Simply Fated · July 2010

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[QUOTE]When you're looking for registries, do you ever see people who make registries for birthdays or housewarmings? I think that's so weird and entitled.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]
Weird doesn't even begin to describe it for me. It's completely inappropriate.

smokeybailey · July 2010

Huh...my mom used to make us write wish lists for b-days and Christmas and she would distribute them to family members. To this day, when we do our Christmas drawing, you have to include a list of at least 5 items that are $100 or less. If I didn't get a list like that, I would be completely lost. I mean, I love my dad and all but how do I know that he wants some random bottle of scotch or needs new socks? Or how do they know that my BF wants a cleaver or a cast iron skillet? Nobody does; that's why we make a list.

Put exactly what you want on your list/registry. Oh, and? High end sheets are like wrapping yourself in heaven. ahhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Bubbalub · July 2010

Smokey my family is the same. Christmas and birthdays = making a list of gifts you would like. People still have the option to get you something else or nothing at all, but at least if they want to get you something you'll be sure to enjoy they have a list right there.

I do think it's weird outside the family, though. I mean, Amazon registries are great and I love it when my friends have them but I would never make a birthday wish list and specifically send it to people to tell them what I want, yanno?

irshis20 · July 2010

Most of the registries I've seen (of people I know who are getting married) have the Kitchen Aid mixer on it. We didn't put it on our registry because we already have two of them and will actually be needing to get rid of one one day. On the other hand, we registered for several other expensive things, such as $135 china settings (serving pieces are even more), a Cuisinart Food Processor, Dyson Animall vaccum, and luggage. However, most of our items are in the $25-$75 range, and some even less.

I agree that it's really tacky to put personal hygeine products/appliances on a wedding registry.

aprovencher21 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Huh...my mom used to make us write wish lists for b-days and Christmas and she would distribute them to family members. To this day, when we do our Christmas drawing, you have to include a list of at least 5 items that are $100 or less. If I didn't get a list like that, I would be completely lost. I mean, I love my dad and all but how do I know that he wants some random bottle of scotch or needs new socks? Or how do they know that my BF wants a cleaver or a cast iron skillet? Nobody does; that's why we make a list. Put exactly what you want on your list/registry. Oh, and? High end sheets are like wrapping yourself in heaven. ahhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

My family does this too.....but I don't make it an actual registry at a store. But my mother has us type them up with website locations and item numbers. I hope I can be as organized with my kids!

smokeybailey · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Smokey my family is the same. Christmas and birthdays = making a list of gifts you would like. People still have the option to get you something else or nothing at all, but at least if they want to get you something you'll be sure to enjoy they have a list right there. I do think it's weird outside the family, though. I mean, Amazon registries are great and I love it when my friends have them but I would never make a birthday wish list and specifically send it to people to tell them what I want, yanno?
Posted by Bubbalub[/QUOTE]

Eh, if they were REALLY my friend, they would want to get something off my list. I give my list to all potential friends.

Seriously, I have a problem with my BF's b-day party this weekend. People are asking what to get him. I'm like, I dunno. Probably a video game, but which one? I don't know that either. I wish he had an amazon list that I could send out, honestly.

rbtrumpet · July 2010

I have always been told that your registry should include a wide range of items to provide options for a wide range of people. (maybe this is something stores just push - but friends have said this too).

We do have a Kitchen Aid mixer on there (2 different people told me I should put it on there!), but we also have $2 wooden spoons.

We haven't lived together, but we've both lived on our own for a while, so there's really not a lot we need. We are upgrading most things on our registry.

IDK....I don't really know what I'm doing when putting a registry together :-p I didn't even want one, but everyone told me I had to have one....

Moneypenny424 · July 2010

Meh, I had a lot of expensive things on our registry. Of course, we also had a lot of reasonably priced things too. I registered for my KitchenAid mixer, and some very expensive Le Creuset cookware. I love to cook and these are what I would have bought for myself.

I agree though, if these are things that you'd never consider on your own or are just ridiculously expensive (I too had to draw a line at the knife sets at Williams-Sonoma), perhaps they shouldn't be on there.

NuggetBrain · July 2010

I put TJ's dogs on my registry, but nobody got them for me.

Simply Fated · July 2010

Wishlists are one thing... but creating a whole official registry at a store? That's too far.

I hated writing up wishlists. My mom used to ask me for one and I always dreaded it. I was so scared to come across as spoiled brat if I put the "wrong" thing on the list.
To this day when people ask me what I want, I tell them "nothing."
What I need right now is cash, but I can't ask for that because that's tacky, lol. So, just like anyone else who needs cash, I don't make registries or wishlists and hope people get me gift cards or cash. If not, it's fine and I appreciate it, regardless, lol.

rbtrumpet · July 2010

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[QUOTE] I agree though, if these are things that you'd never consider on your own or are just ridiculously expensive (I too had to draw a line at the knife sets at Williams-Sonoma), perhaps they shouldn't be on there.
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>I have to disagree to a point (I totally agree about the too expensive part), but I put some kitchen gadgets (in the $50-$100 range) on my registry that I would have never actually bought for myself, but thought would be fun to have (i.e. a magic bullet mixer). (I got the magic bullet as a shower gift, and have even surprised myself at how often I use it!)

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temerityjane · July 2010

rbtrumpet - I've wanted the magic bullet since the first time I saw it on television (I have an As Seen on TV problem). I just don't think I'd realistically use it too much.

Out of curiosity, what's the "magic number" in your sig mean?

temerityjane · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I put TJ's dogs on my registry, but nobody got them for me.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

Everyone was probably just waiting for the clearance sale that I'm having right now. Take one dog, I'll throw in a second for free. And all their food. And toys. And special blankets and pet beds. And a $100 bonus. And I'll deliver. Over night.

Moneypenny424 · July 2010

I guess I meant more along the lines of "these are dream products for me that I would never buy myself" like a $5000 rug (which I've seen on a registry before). I definitely registered for things like china that I may not buy on my own, but was within the realm of possible things I'd buy for myself.

As far as tacky gifts go, a friend of mine registered for motor oil, a 12 pack of Charmin and vibrating Incredible Hulk hands.

rbtrumpet · July 2010

I wasn't sure I'd use the magic bullet as much as I do - but I love it! It's not as powerful as my blender, but it's so convenient (I moved into a new apt and have a TINY kitchen)

the "magic number" means I've bought 200 favors, I told the reception hall that we will have 200 (but I've seen weddings there for 400), and the church doesn't hold much over 230 unless we wanna get REALLY up close and personal in August in DC....(we invited 316, which I know is a no-no, but that includes "guests" for everyone, and all of my family in MI who are 85+..and their guests - so it's not even possible that we'll get 100% attendance)

Moneypenny424 · July 2010

Oooh, tell me more about the Magic Bullet! What do you use it for? I've been tempted by the infomercial.

rbtrumpet · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I guess I meant more along the lines of "these are dream products for me that I would never buy myself" like a $5000 rug (which I've seen on a registry before). I definitely registered for things like china that I may not buy on my own, but was within the realm of possible things I'd buy for myself. As far as tacky gifts go, a friend of mine registered for motor oil, a 12 pack of Charmin and vibrating Incredible Hulk hands.
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>haha and wow....</div>

rbtrumpet · July 2010

hahaha - threadjack!

I use the magic bullet to make my protein shakes a lot (I'm a part-time aerobics instructor and lift twice/week, so I drink a lot of protein shakes) - also for smoothies - I've had two dinner parties where I just had all the stuff for fruit smoothies out, and let people "DIY smoothies" people really enjoyed it!

I've also made salsa, guac, minced onion/garlic, pasta sauce....

Like I said - it's not very powerful, but strong enough to chop ice. If I was making a big batch of something, I'd use my regular blender (which is in storage right now because it doesn't fit into my itty bitty kitchen)

/threadjack...maybe...

reddy123 · July 2010

TJ- I am also self-conscious of expensive things/too many things on my registry. They say you should have twice the registered items to guests invited, so people have a choice, but that would mean 600 items for me? yeah right.

Also, you want to talk about inappropriate?! My cousin registered for 'college' stuff for her high school graduation, on that registry was a really expensive hair straightener...

um...no.

KatyRoseM · July 2010

We registered for things like china that are expensive, and some cooking things. Its what we love to do, and we cook together so it made sense. I also love entertaining, so we did table cloths and napkins on the cheaper side. My mom kept insisting that we needed more expensive things, as her friends wouldn't spend $20 on a wedding, more like $100. Ours ended up being more on the pricy side than I wanted, but it seems to be the norm for her friends children.

smokeybailey · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I guess I meant more along the lines of "these are dream products for me that I would never buy myself" like a $5000 rug (which I've seen on a registry before). I definitely registered for things like china that I may not buy on my own, but was within the realm of possible things I'd buy for myself. As far as tacky gifts go, a friend of mine registered for motor oil, a 12 pack of Charmin and <strong>vibrating Incredible Hulk hands.</strong>
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]

These are a great buy! I would have two sets if budget allowed. I mean, come on VIBRATING hands??!!

And we use our magic bullet for salsa, smoothies, sauces, soups, humus, etc. It is tre awesome.

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