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I really need advice! NWR - Updated**
Hello,
I am at a loss for what up do. I am getting baptized this Sunday or next, and I would like to invite my mother but am having reservations. Background: my mom is not religious and does not believe in God or Jesus or the bible... Nothing. She frequently mocks me for my belief, and has no issue letting it be known that she doesn't support me. Recently, we had a falling out over her lack of support and/ or general niceness towards my wedding, my wedding dress(saying repeatedly that I look fat in my dress), relaying awful mean spirited messages from other family members about me while We're at my dress fitting, promising me money for the wedding and reneging. She hasn't spoken to me in weeks except to say she won't apologize because she doesn't believe she was rude, and did nothing wrong. Today, she emailed me saying she wants to repair our relationship but she expects me to apologize and she still won't. I have struggled with being baptized because I feel that sometimes I still hide my love for Christ and my semi new found religion because of lack of support from friends and family. I no longer wish to "hide" my beliefs and I want to get to a stronger place in my Christianity. I'm not sure if I should invite my mother to the baptism or not? I'm sure if she even comes she'll be fake supportive to others faces and have some rude, belittling, non-supportive comments for me. What should I do? Invite her or not?
I am at a loss for what up do. I am getting baptized this Sunday or next, and I would like to invite my mother but am having reservations. Background: my mom is not religious and does not believe in God or Jesus or the bible... Nothing. She frequently mocks me for my belief, and has no issue letting it be known that she doesn't support me. Recently, we had a falling out over her lack of support and/ or general niceness towards my wedding, my wedding dress(saying repeatedly that I look fat in my dress), relaying awful mean spirited messages from other family members about me while We're at my dress fitting, promising me money for the wedding and reneging. She hasn't spoken to me in weeks except to say she won't apologize because she doesn't believe she was rude, and did nothing wrong. Today, she emailed me saying she wants to repair our relationship but she expects me to apologize and she still won't. I have struggled with being baptized because I feel that sometimes I still hide my love for Christ and my semi new found religion because of lack of support from friends and family. I no longer wish to "hide" my beliefs and I want to get to a stronger place in my Christianity. I'm not sure if I should invite my mother to the baptism or not? I'm sure if she even comes she'll be fake supportive to others faces and have some rude, belittling, non-supportive comments for me. What should I do? Invite her or not?
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Re: I really need advice! NWR - Updated**
ETA: Jesus has instructed us to forgive 70x7 (infinitely). You seem like someone who is attempting to be kind to your Mom. Regardless of her attitude and whatever family stuff is going on, I would forgive her and pray for her. Any time I have ever been angry or hurt by someone, I pray for them. It helps me forgive the person for what they've done, even if they haven't apologized. Jesus did the same for us when he died on the cross. I will pray for you and your Moms relationship! Jesus was mocked when he was on earth and told us that although our burden would be light we may not go un-mocked by non-believers. I encourage you to live out your new faith regardless of what your family says about it. Be strong and know that you are ultimately a light in their life!
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[QUOTE] Jesus has instructed us to forgive 70x7 (infinitely). You seem like someone who is attempting to be kind to your Mom. Regardless of her attitude and whatever family stuff is going on, I would forgive her and pray for her.
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There's really nothing else I can add to what Joy and Lilies have said. I did, however, hear this song on the radio the other day and wanted to share: <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5-Q1zAhqpA">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5-Q1zAhqpA</a> (Chris August- 7x70)
I'll be praying for you, Annie.
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[QUOTE]Annie, i will be praying for you and your relationship with your mother. i am really sorry to hear that you have stood up to her and she is still treating you unjustly. Stay strong and know that you have all of us to talk to whenever. (:
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Thank you so much! She told me that she is how she is and I am I unwilling to take the bad with the good. I'm sure there is a difference in someones flaws and someone cutting you down. Oh well, you are right that I should pray more. I'm so thankful for this board, I have lost a lot of friends recently. Thanks again!
As for the things she has said to you - I just want to say that you are a beautiful child of God and I'm sure you are a beautiful woman. I hope that you do not allow these words to tear you down in this precious time in your life as you prepare to marry the man you love. Know that the man you love, loves you regardless of what anyone else says and I just know you look stunning in the dress you have chosen. Prayers for you, dear. Stay strong in Jesus he will hold you steadfast.
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[QUOTE]annie! i am just sooo excited and overjoyed for you!!!!!! (: this is a very very exciting time in your life!!! (: constant prayers for you!
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Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! <3
[QUOTE]I'll pray for you too, Annie. I'm a bit late to the thread, it's been a BUSY day at work. The other ladies already stated so well what you can do, and I don't want to add to it except to say that God will reward you for extending HIS love to everyone around you.
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Thank you!
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[QUOTE]invite her. Then it's up to her to come or not. If you don't invite her, then she may feel left out of your life. By attempting to include her, it's up to you. Maybe while she's at church, she'll hear the good news, and become a believer herself! You never know!!
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Thank you. She was raised a catholic and decided to denounce her faith at some point before she was married an I wad born. I'm not sure she'll come ba k around. Although I've tried to help her.
No, but seriously, stand your ground. You can't forgive someone who refuses to apologize. And don't apologize when you've done nothing wrong. You treat people how to teach you and if you mend things before there has been any resolution, all you teach her is that it's ok to treat you badly...because you'll coming running right back, with an apology!
As your mother, she should be interested in your happiness and well-being. She should be belittling and undermining the important things in your life (your baptism, your wedding, etc.) I would calmly tell her that you are not apologizing because you have nothing to apologize for. Tell her how her behavior has made you feel lately. Tell her that you want support, not constant put-downs. Don't let her act abusive and get away with it.