Okay, so I haven't really posted on here before but I am SOOO happy you found you ladies! Need to vent about FMIL... (sigh) may be long.. bear with me.
So FI and I are getting married Aug. 2013 and a strapped for cash. He owns his own home remodeling business and with the recession has been hit a little hard. I have been working about 6 months after being laid off for year with cancer. We both have bills, we both are saving money, we are both making this wedding thing happen. Period.
So, my parents are pretty strapped as well. While they have income coming in, they're money is tight and my father is laid off, mom is taking care of my 94 year old awesome grandmother. With that said, they want me to have a nice wedding and want to pay for at least half of it. My sister is contributing, and family in PR is contributing too. FI family is NOT contributing anything. I don't mind, we never asked anyone for anything. His father has been in and out of his life, his brother doesn't really bother with anyone, so that leave FMIL.
Although I get along wonderfully with this woman she has been pissing me the f*** off lately. She is single, has a lot of money invested, owns rental properties, her own home etc. She has always said that she wants to settle down at 61 and has been alone so long and blah blah blah. She acts more like she's in her 20's or 30's. Goes out to dance, likes to dress nice, takes care of herself, travels, excercises, etc. With all of this she still hasn't found a man. She had one briefly and ran him away acting like a 16 year old. Here's the thing...
Ever since FI and I got engaged she has been on this crazy ass man hunt. Although she is financially independent she has depended on FI for EVERYTHING (cutting grass, fixing cars, towing her, etc.). She has been overly involved in EVERY aspect of his life from his finances to everything else. He let this happen because he has a daughter from a previous relationship and if anything happened to him, he wanted his mom to be able to take care of things. Now I step in the picture. She's happy, she loves me, she Blesses me, etc. BUT SHE'S JEALOUS. Jealous that I'm taking her baby boy? NO. The bitch is jealous that I am getting married before she is and has readily stated it. She continues to say that she doesn't know why FI proposed when he has no money for a wedding and doesn't understand why we dont' just do a wedding at a random church and just have some cake and punch. She also has never HAD a wedding herself although she's been married twice. She stated that when she cries at the wedding its going to be because it isn't her getting married, and would i be upset if she wore white? BITCH YES! Then she keeps saying she gave him enough money to help him in his life and refuses to help with the wedding because she has no more to give, and in the same breath keeps telling my mother and me how she is dying to take a trip to the bahamas and she has clothes and jewelry and yada yada yada and if someone asked her to go on a cruise she just has to pack because she has it like that. WTF? Again... that's her money. I'm not expecting her to pay for anything but my mother has made her aware that she doesn't have money either but she is doing what she can take make sure her daughter and FSIL have a great day because we both have been through a lot and we both deserve it. OMG.. I can go on and on about her ass. She constantly asks, "how much are the flowers?" I just say, "oh they arent' that bad." When I do tell her how much something is, she goes behind my back to FI and complains that if we can save money for a wedding, we should be using that money towards our bills and just going to JOP. Yet she asked me to help her plan her wedding because it has to be "all that" whenever she finds this man of hers. She also told my mom that she paid for my engagement ring which is totally false. FI WORKED for the ring by remodeling her house and that was the exchange instead of her giving him money for it.
Okay..... I feel a little better now. Sorry for the length.