A few months ago my BF went to my father and asked for his blessing to marry me. We've been together for 2 1/2 years and I'm 35 and he's 32. At first it was a secret, but my BF just isn't good at keeping anything from me and let it out of the bag. At that time he said he was saving his money and I would have my ring by Memorial Day. So of course, I was over-the-moon excited and told my friends.
Unfortunately he confessed a week or so before Memorial Day weekend that the "deal" he was working on had fallen through and that he was going to have to save more money to purchase the ring I deserved. I had previously told him to just buy a nice ring off carat.com because we needed too many projects done around the house and to save for our wedding instead. I was taken aback because I thought I was getting a beautiful fake diamond all of this time and instead he had talked without my knowledge to someone I knew who thought they could extend an employee discount to him, but wasn't able. He says now I'll have the ring by July/August. (Neither of us believe in credit cards). I felt bad because I couldn't stop the crocodile tears from forming.
But due to his honesty and knowing it's at least coming, we just decided to look at the venue we had been discussing anyway and booked our wedding date with them. We will be getting married September 28, 2013. We've told our family and he's told his close friends. I on the other hand feel weird about telling anyone other than close friends and family.
I thought I was going to have a simple inexpensive ring months ago and I'm still waiting to feel the real excitement of being engaged. Despite having the venue booked and starting the planning process, it just doesn't feel really real yet.
Has this happened to other people? Am I wrong to feel disappointment?