Confession Thursday

Johnsonk313 · March 2012

Good Morning ladies! My confession this week this that I am really really worried about crying on my wedding day. I also confess that I think this is a really stupid thing for me to be worried about in the grand scheme of all wedding related worries, but I can't seem to help myself. You see I am not a very attractive crier, I'm talking sweat, snot, and really unattractive facial expression. I am have this vision in my head of not being able to stop myself from ugly crying and ruining all my pictures! What are your confessions this week?

BMcLeodTeam · March 2012

I confess that lately as things are getting busy on the business end of life I have 2 things I am paranoid about regarding the wedding:
a) I won't get done all the DIY stuff on time
b) I won't fit in my dress (which is stupid because it was JUST taken in for me, and can be taken out again if needed)

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

I hear you about the crying. When I went to Sephora last weekend, I asked the woman to help me find a mascara that could "survive a monsoon." I'm most afraid of crying in regards to being able to get out my vows. I cry just reading them (not even saying them). I'm going to have to practice a lot!

My confession is that I'm kinda having a mental breakdown about FI's new job. We've been long distance for about 7 weeks and he was a 3.5 hour drive away. He quit that job to work for himself and travel with some of his athletes. It is a great opportunity where he will hopefully be making more money and it should open a lot of doors, but his "home" will be Detroit and then he travels all over the country from there. Unless he picks up some extra athletes and we are really set financially, we'll probably only see each other 1 weekend a month because it is so expensive to fly these days. And I work two jobs and go to school so I can only be away so much. The longest we went this past 7 weeks was 2 weeks before I came to visit and that was torture. I'm really struggling to wrap my head around 1 weekend a month. And this will go on until mid Oct-beginning of Nov (minus the 2 weeks he's taking off for the wedding and HM). We are really strong right now so I'm not worried about how we'll get through it....I just miss seeing him every day and having him around. It is going to especially suck when it's wedding crunch time and I have to do everything alone!

lbarr088 · March 2012

I confess I don't know how to "argue." Whenever FI and I have a disagreement (always over stupid little things or misunderstandings) I jump to the low-blow and getting CRAZY pissed. I like my space and he likes to deal with the matter immediately which annoys me.

Now, don't get me wrong, we don't argue often and plus I think being able to disagree on things and argue effectively is important in a relationship. I apparently need to work on that.

CowgirlK39 · March 2012

I confess that my biggest WR worry.... is the F/D dance. My dad and I are really close but my family is not the touchy huggy type. I can only think of a handful of times in my adult life that I have hugged my dad and they have all been awkward but heartfelt. I know its supposed to be a big moment between a girl and her dad but its probably gonna be us awkwardly going in circles, very rigid and stiff, and saying "so..... what race is on tomorrow? We are missing qualifying right now, ya know."

I also confess that if FMIL throws a tantrum during the wedding I WILL become a bridezilla and flip out. There is only so much of her crap I can take and that will NOT be the day for it.

lbarr088 · March 2012

Cowgirl, I'd hope that FMIL will put on her happy face for your wedding. I've seen a lot of drama "squashed" at weddings for the sake of people NOT making a spectacle out of themselves

josephwedding · March 2012

I confess I'm paranoid about: (1) not getting everything we need to get done on time (DIY projects, payments, scheduling meetings, finiding an apartment, etc.); (2) crying the whole day of the wedding and (3) that my shoes won't fit!

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

Sorry have one more confession....If my brother doesn't send me the dress I have to wear for his wedding within the next few weeks, I'm going to tell him to shove it up his a$$. It has been sitting in his guest room for over 6 weeks and his FI didn't think it important to send it to me so I can alter it. They think their wedding is my top priority (it is 2 months before my own wedding on top of school, 2 jobs, and visiting FI every weekend I can) and that there is plenty of time to get it altered. Not thinking I need to make an appointment to fit it smack in the middle of busy wedding season. I was never asked to be in his wedding and just told to buy their ugly dress. I don't even want to go to his wedding because we don't get along, it is ridiculously expensive to get to (will cost about 2k for FI and I to go), and he is inviting the family that has treated FI and I like sh!t who I have no interest in being the same room in. FI and I joke that the theme of their wedding is "Inconvenience."

lbarr088 · March 2012

Why am I the only one without a WR confession? lol

mamameech · March 2012

I am uber worried about crying. I can get so flipping emotional; I cry watching Tim Horton's commercials LOLI'm hoping that I'll be able to keep it together but I also know that FI is such a softie and cries uber easily. I'll stuff some kleenex in my dress hahaMy confession: I took a pregnancy test last week. I was going through so many weird sensations that were sooooo familiar (like when I was pg with my son) and seeing as I don't really get a period anymore (IUD), it's hard for me to judge by that. I dealt with the symptoms for abotu 7-10 days and then I caved and bought a pg test. I'm not pregnant and the symptoms went away. It must have just been REALLY bad pms. What freaks me out is feeling like that on the wedding day. I was soooo tired and achy; bloated and emotional. Talk about bridezilla...

smartlypretty · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:376ed79d-156c-4ced-acef-d94799ca816fPost:744010ca-b493-43f3-bfaf-0a915616f82f">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that my biggest WR worry.... is the F/D dance. My dad and I are really close but my family is not the touchy huggy type. I can only think of a handful of times in my adult life that I have hugged my dad and they have all been awkward but heartfelt. I know its supposed to be a big moment between a girl and her dad but its probably gonna be us awkwardly going in circles, very rigid and stiff, and saying "so..... what race is on tomorrow? We are missing qualifying right now, ya know." I also confess that if FMIL throws a tantrum during the wedding I WILL become a bridezilla and flip out. There is only so much of her crap I can take and that will NOT be the day for it.
Posted by CowgirlK39[/QUOTE]

<div>Wait, I can totally relate to you here. Do we have the same Dad lol? My Dad doesn't dance *at all*. He's just not that kind of person. He's a little more reserved and would never dance around or anything like that. I decided that I'm not even going to worry about it. I picked a fun song for us (Brown eyed girl) because my Dad used to sing that to me when I was little. It's also a little more upbeat. </div>

smartlypretty · March 2012

I confess that I stayed home from work yesterday to "work from home" and I didn't do a thing! I'm supposed to be working on a manuscript. Now I have done quite a bit- results, materials and methods, figures, and figure legends are all done, but this darn discussion scares me and I can't figure out how to start it. It's got to get done in the next week!!!!

morenachica110 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:376ed79d-156c-4ced-acef-d94799ca816fPost:5c193dc1-58c2-412b-8e75-af0d0036053f">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess I don't know how to "argue." Whenever FI and I have a disagreement (always over stupid little things or misunderstandings) I jump to the low-blow and getting CRAZY pissed. I like my space and he likes to deal with the matter immediately which annoys me. Now, don't get me wrong, we don't argue often and plus I think being able to disagree on things and argue effectively is important in a relationship. I apparently need to work on that.
Posted by lbarr088[/QUOTE]

<div>You know what? I'll jump on this, too. Actually, it's fitting because we had a stupid arguement last night. Usually they pop up because one or both of us is tired and we get cranky like little kids. (Mature, right?) I'm just such a stubborn, prideful person and I need to get over that.</div><div>
</div><div>I'm also worried about the F/D dance. I really want to do it for my dad, but I'm a horrible slow dancer! I mean, I can shake it with the best of them and love dancing... just not slow dancing. I can't do it! I have to practice with FI so he can teach me how to not step on his feet <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" /> Thankfully my dress with cover my feet so that part doesn't have to look pretty. lol! But I'm not close enough with my dad to admit that I suck and there's no time to practice (I'm in SC and he's in VA). Ahhh!!!! I am going to ask him what song he wants to do and I guess I'll practice with Fi using that song. I pick the dumbest things to worry about.</div><div>
</div><div>I also confess I'm stressed about the cost of alterations. I didn't set aside too much because it was just bringing it in and taking the hem up. Now it's adding cups, reattaching a hook on the back, taking off the old flower and attaching the new ones. It doesn't sound like crazy work, but apparently alterations run expensive. *sigh* PLUS, I can't even find someone to do them! The only girl I know that's gotten married recently had her bridal store do it and I know they're expensive. And my local board is dead and as doornail. Ugh....</div>

josephwedding · March 2012

I'm with Ibarr, maybe it's an only child thing with me, but I hate fighting. Especially over issues/situations I feel are "stupid". Definitely something I'm working on.

Sosteadilygo · March 2012

I hear you with the crying. My confession is I'm super worried about that too. I am a bad crier too, which makes it even worse!! I really don't know what to do, and I have a feeling I'm going to get really nervous and just burst. It doesn't help that I hate being the center of attention. FSIL is getting married this Sat and I am wicked nervous about bad crying there! I have done it before at weddings.. Ugh. I am a mess!!

lbarr088 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:376ed79d-156c-4ced-acef-d94799ca816fPost:5f495cde-6a17-4779-a42e-4081df2c2b90">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm with Ibarr, maybe it's an <strong>only child </strong>thing with me, but I hate fighting. Especially over issues/situations I feel are "stupid". Definitely something I'm working on.
Posted by josephwedding[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm an only child too, maybe it is an only child thing. Well for me, I never grew up with all of those stupid sibling arguments and FI grew up with 3 sisters (talk about drama!). </div>

hollyweenOR · March 2012

I'm worried that I will be so stressed & exhausted on the actual wedding day that I won't be able to let go and enjoy the moment for what it is. I have a habit of taking on too much and getting overtired and stressed and then not being a very nice person. Eww. Not cool, and not what I want for myself or anyone around me. Just looking at the day-of schedule sort of brings up those feelings- and that I'll be needing an afternoon nap right around ceremony time (venue is almost 2 hrs away from home and we're not heading out that way until that day).

I'm also worried that this kitten is not going to ever stop his destruction spree. :P We had the place pretty well kitten-proofed but at almost 10 months, he is now full size, full strength, half-brained, and fearless. He finds creative ways to wreak havoc daily. I know he will grow out of it. My other cats did. But, DUDE. Stop finding crap to break. Please?

CowgirlK39 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:376ed79d-156c-4ced-acef-d94799ca816fPost:4ec854ed-3d63-4ec3-a23e-b27752511453">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confession Thursday : Wait, I can totally relate to you here. Do we have the same Dad lol? My Dad doesn't dance *at all*. He's just not that kind of person. He's a little more reserved and would never dance around or anything like that. I decided that I'm not even going to worry about it. I picked a fun song for us (Brown eyed girl) because my Dad used to sing that to me when I was little. It's also a little more upbeat.
Posted by smartlypretty[/QUOTE]

I was kinda thinking of something similar. I was gonna have a slow song for the sake of saying we had a F/D dance, and then have the DJ announce that we would like everyone to join us on the floor for a special moment... and then bust out "Bad Romance" by Lady gaga, which is my 61 year old dad's fav song. That way it becomes a light fun moment and takes off the pressure. But I gotta ask if he wants to ever do that.

Meech... why did you have to say Tim Hortons?? Now I have a craving! That's the best thing Canada has ever given to the WNY area :)

adktd2boots · March 2012

I confess that I haven't done very much for our wedding, and I can't think of what else I need to do. I know I'm keeping things very simple, but I feel like I'm overlooking something HUGE.

Yeah, Meech- why the Tim Horton's?! I want a donut now!

I love my FMIL- but I confess that some of the things she does just bug the living hell out of me! One thing- She buys clothes, shoes, purses, etc and decides she doesn't like them and says "here, I got you this" I know she just bought it for herself and decided she didn't want it. While it sounds like a good deal, it really isn't. Like the shirt she gave me last weekend that makes me look pregnant- WTH am I supposed to do with it? It's cute, but it's not my style. I also feel like she never listens to anything I'm saying because she always butts in and changes the subject to something else. She does it to everyone. FI has a bad habit of the same thing and I get on his case about it, but I really can't to her.

mamameech · March 2012

haha it's still Roll up the Rim too - do you guys do that? I haven't won anything anyway but it's an extra lure to Timmies.

I've become kind of a coffee snob and have more Second Cup (like Starbucks) than Timmies. I wish I could cut it out and save $$ but it's like crack lol

moonlightstar74 · March 2012

I confess that I have been trying to diet since the new year! I start over almost every Monday...with no success. I am lucky that my dress fits me but it sure would look better if I want 20 lbs smaller. My goal was to loose 50lbs.

josephwedding · March 2012

Awww moonlight *hugs* Don't put too much pressure on yourself, I'm sure you look great in your dress no matter what!

But helpful advice, try a a calorie tracking system like LoseIt.com, it's been working for me!

lbarr088 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:376ed79d-156c-4ced-acef-d94799ca816fPost:1aca7ebf-7568-4e35-958b-10e34bd40ef9">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I have been trying to diet since the new year! I start over almost every Monday...with no success. I am lucky that my dress fits me but it sure would look better if I want 20 lbs smaller. My goal was to loose 50lbs.
Posted by moonlightstar74[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto josephwedding. Also a lot of people on the GIS board use sparkpeople.com or myfitnesspal.com. It will really open your eyes to how much you're actually eating a day etc. Also as a side note, if you use one of those make sure you are eating your calories for the day, include any exercises so then you can make up for the calorie deficit. It's better to eat slightly over then way under each day.</div><div>
</div><div>Also, set some realistic goals for yourself to get started. I used to be over the top and found myself "starting over" each week. Make a promise to do cardio 2x a week, and increase... or whatever you would like to do. Also, it's ok to treat yourself to something little to curb a craving... as long as you aren't eating huge quantities and doing it every day :) Best of luck!</div><div>
</div><div>(wow sorry I totally didn't mean to write this much)</div>

romamor4 · March 2012

My confession is I am starting to get stressed about the wedding. I didn't want to admit it, because I'm too proud like that. Last night I had my first wedding nightmare. I dreamt that none of my bridal party showed up to the wedding and all of FI's wedding party, including himself, showed up in mohawks! That didn't bother me as much as my girls not showing up. When did I get this stressed out?? I wish I could take a few days off to get some of my projects done!

MrsBassPlaya · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:376ed79d-156c-4ced-acef-d94799ca816fPost:5c193dc1-58c2-412b-8e75-af0d0036053f">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess I don't know how to "argue." Whenever FI and I have a disagreement (always over stupid little things or misunderstandings) I jump to the low-blow and getting CRAZY pissed. I like my space and he likes to deal with the matter immediately which annoys me. Now, don't get me wrong, we don't argue often and plus I think being able to disagree on things and argue effectively is important in a relationship. I apparently need to work on that.
Posted by lbarr088[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This is exactly the opposite of me and FI. I want to resolve it right now, he wants to cool off. It took a couple years before I actually started letting him cool off before approaching things, and even still I don't always. It can get hard when two fighting styles are so different. We've tried to implement rules for our fights, like if I'm trying to resolve something right away, and he just can't, having him tell me straight forward, "I can't work on this right now. I need space, and we will deal with it later." and me actually leaving him alone.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't know hwo effective it is yet. We haven't had many big fights lately, but I'm hoping it'll help things.</div>

MrsBassPlaya · March 2012

I confess that I'm pretty annoyed at FI about our honeymoon. We're taking a trip to Vegas about a month and a half before the wedding (just a long weekend to get away), and he's super excited about it and wants tog et everything booked. However, I can't even get him to talk about the honeymoon with me! He thinks it's too soon. So frustrating! I'd rather spend more time planning our honeymoon than a weekend in Vegas.

jessa1228 · March 2012

I confess that I really don't think I want to wear my mother's pearls for the wedding. My dress has very little embellishments (I was conceding to FI on that one), but I definitely want some bling, so I was thinking my jewelry would make up for that. I've been looking online at crystal & CZ bridal sets, and everything I see that I like is around $85-100. I'm not sure I can justify spending that much. Plus, I don't want to inadvertently insult my mom when I tell her I don't want to wear her pearls (it was my idea, not hers, but still). I dunno.

lbarr088 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:376ed79d-156c-4ced-acef-d94799ca816fPost:5ff9a6e1-b18d-4d45-ae0d-1528792bf52a">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confession Thursday : This is exactly the opposite of me and FI. I want to resolve it right now, he wants to cool off. It took a couple years before I actually started letting him cool off before approaching things, and even still I don't always. It can get hard when two fighting styles are so different. We've tried to implement rules for our fights, like if I'm trying to resolve something right away, and he just can't, having him tell me straight forward, "I can't work on this right now. I need space, and we will deal with it later." and me actually leaving him alone. I don't know hwo effective it is yet. We haven't had many big fights lately, but I'm hoping it'll help things.
Posted by MrsBassPlaya[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>He is pretty good at leaving me alone... for 2 minutes ;) I think he forgets that that's my style. I like to sit back, clear my head and think of a mature way to deal with it without the crazy emotion of the present moment. It's not because I DON"T want to deal with it which I wonder if that's what he thinks. When he has left me alone the situation has resolved pretty well.</div>

bridalmomma · March 2012

I confess I'm way to worried that DD's FMIL wil look better at the wedding then I do!

I know the attention will be on DD & FI (as it should be!!) but I'm older the FMIL and Idon't want to look dowdy/matronly next to her!!

jessa1228 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:376ed79d-156c-4ced-acef-d94799ca816fPost:bb20e3fe-935f-4900-9ad5-856593df0de6">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess I'm way to worried that DD's FMIL wil look better at the wedding then I do! I know the attention will be on DD & FI (as it should be!!) but I'm older the FMIL and Idon't want to look dowdy/matronly next to her!!
Posted by bridalmomma[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Someone at work told me the other day that after the bride & groom, the MOB is the next "biggest attraction" so to speak. That probably just makes you more nervous, sorry. :-/ I've avoided telling my mom that for the very same reason.
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saracowan · March 2012

I confess that I've spent the whole week thinking of reasons why really, I'm totally allowed to open and use the first wedding gift we received (GORGEOUS bedding and sheets from Pottery Barn) but I think my ethics and logic are winning out...I haven't opened it and probably won't.

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