MOH

trucksrforgirls · January 2013

Help please!!!!!

freebread03 · January 2013

You need to start saying "No" immediately. All of the extras that she is requiring are just that-extras, and you are perfectly within your right to say "Bride, unfortunately that is out of my budget right now so I will plan to take care of my own hair/makeup." "Bride, unfortunately I really can't take any more time off of work--you know I have multiple projects going on and its just too much for me to be away so much. I'm sure you understand." You should have put a limit on how many she can invite to the shower, "Bride, we can afford to host 20 people at the shower, please let me know who you would like to invite." As for the bachelorette, I think everyone can pay their own way, with you and the other BM picking up expenses for the bride (and others will likely chip in too).

There is nothing wrong with saying no to these ridiculous requests--you just need to do it. The bride is way out of line in expecting you to pay for these things, take time off of work, etc.

jennylee813 · January 2013

I agree with PP. I'm like you, OP, and can't imagine asking someone to do these things. I'd have to have a conversation with her about it and hope that she understands. If not, I'd tell her that I'd be delighted to attend as a guest.

misssunshine17 · January 2013

Seriously, put your foot down. Don't enable this girl. If she throws a fit, drop out of the wedding and save yourself from her craziness.

cnf2013 · January 2013

Helllll no. Put a stop to that ish immediately. She's got bridezilla brain and is seriously crossing into batshitcrazy territory.

I'd feel like a horrible person asking any of that from my girls. I feel bad enough as it is that they won't take any money from me for my parties and I know they're over spending.

B2Z728 · January 2013

You absolutely need to put your foot down. Say it politely as possible that these things that she's "requiring" are not within your budget and that you do not have the vacation time to do these extra things. Don't let her or anyone else in the bridal party who may be able to do these things, bully you into agreeing to it in the end. If she really insists, step down from being MOH and say you'd feel more comfortable being a guest at the wedding instead.

As for the bachelorette party, I do not think it your responsibility to pay for anyone else, other than chipping in for the bride. The understanding in my group of friends for bachelorette parties is that we all split the brides expenses and pay for ourselves. My MOH really wanted us to have a limo for the night, but she paid for it herself and didn't require anything from the other girls. It was her gift to me, which unnecessary, but something she really wanted to do.

TheVirginians · January 2013

My daughter was told to show up at 6:00 am with $200.00 for hair and makeup for her friend's 1:00 pm wedding. My daughter said no, I'll do my own. The bride ended up paying for her. No is a powerful and appropriate word.

Pookieson · January 2013

Agree with every PP on here

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