In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_the-stress-is-really-kicking-in-now-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:a69a67c2-bd36-473e-a39b-2cd9f9fc9f45Post:9358070d-a83c-4bf9-9838-6f4fea14fa55">Re: The stress is really kicking in now---VENT</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: The stress is really kicking in now---VENT : But, you admit that this is something most brides think of...obviously you dont expect everyone to do this but, I should have explained myself better - - f<strong>or example, we invited Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith (Not Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith and Family) but they RSVP-ed for themselves plus their four adult children</strong>. My post was out of frustration. Posted by rachael7183[/QUOTE]
then you need to call them & explain that the invite was only for Mr. & Mrs. Bob Smith...because of seating purposes we could not invite jane, john, jim and joy.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_the-stress-is-really-kicking-in-now-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:a69a67c2-bd36-473e-a39b-2cd9f9fc9f45Post:bafc1f45-952c-467b-bcd9-5555d63f6612">Re: The stress is really kicking in now---VENT</a>: [QUOTE]FYI...I am not the only person in the world that goes by this rule of thumb! :) <a href="http://www.yoursmartmoneymoves.com/2012/04/27/how-much-do-i-give-for-a-wedding-gift/" rel="nofollow">http://www.yoursmartmoneymoves.com/2012/04/27/how-much-do-i-give-for-a-wedding-gift/</a> Posted by rachael7183[/QUOTE]
I'm not meaning to jump on the bandwagon with the whole "your guest aren't required to give gifts; you can't expect them to cover their plate" because I understand that was not the topic of you post (and I agree that it can be frustrating when guests assume they can bring anyone when you didn't intend that and have a budget to keep).
But - in this article you quoted, I would say that most people go by the first rule of thumb the author mentions: <strong><em>"Make a gesture that makes sense if you are close to the couple, and if you aren’t, don’t feel bad if you don’t do something more than a small gift from their registry." </em></strong>
And not to be rude, but you didn't invite them to the wedding. You may have whatever reason for not inviting them, but if they're not close enough to be invited, they may not consider you close enough for a "cover the plate" gift.
Re: The stress is really kicking in now---VENT
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The stress is really kicking in now---VENT : But, you admit that this is something most brides think of...obviously you dont expect everyone to do this but, I should have explained myself better - - f<strong>or example, we invited Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith (Not Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith and Family) but they RSVP-ed for themselves plus their four adult children</strong>. My post was out of frustration.
Posted by rachael7183[/QUOTE]
then you need to call them & explain that the invite was only for Mr. & Mrs. Bob Smith...because of seating purposes we could not invite jane, john, jim and joy.
[QUOTE]FYI...I am not the only person in the world that goes by this rule of thumb! :) <a href="http://www.yoursmartmoneymoves.com/2012/04/27/how-much-do-i-give-for-a-wedding-gift/" rel="nofollow">http://www.yoursmartmoneymoves.com/2012/04/27/how-much-do-i-give-for-a-wedding-gift/</a>
Posted by rachael7183[/QUOTE]
I'm not meaning to jump on the bandwagon with the whole "your guest aren't required to give gifts; you can't expect them to cover their plate" because I understand that was not the topic of you post (and I agree that it can be frustrating when guests assume they can bring anyone when you didn't intend that and have a budget to keep).
But - in this article you quoted, I would say that most people go by the first rule of thumb the author mentions: <strong><em>"Make a gesture that makes sense if you are close to the couple, and if you aren’t, don’t feel bad if you don’t do something more than a small gift from their registry." </em></strong>
And not to be rude, but you didn't invite them to the wedding. You may have whatever reason for not inviting them, but if they're not close enough to be invited, they may not consider you close enough for a "cover the plate" gift.