New Bride Here :)

jenuine86 · April 2012

Guess I've had "the knot" account for ages and never thought to go on the forums! haha!
Just wanted to introduce myself!

My name is Jen. My HUSBAND and I are were married this last January 5th (our 4 year anniversary) at the Seattle Municipal Courthouse. It was very intimate, just my father and two close friends.. we asked our photographer to photograph the ceremony (instead of doing engagement photos) and my cousin video taped the ceremony as well, which we will be playing during our September "wedding". We are really excited to celebrate with 60 of our nearest and dearest! We didn't get to say our personal vows in the courthouse, so we'll be reciting them at our September wedding. We thought it would be great to have them scripted onto a nice paper in which we'll sign (it will resemble a certificate) to frame or put in our memory book later. Time's running up, I get my dress back next week and I'm so excited!
How is everyone else doing?

jenuine86 · April 2012

Oh yes, I know the difference! But it's not a vow renewal, we didn't exchange vows

It is a "celebration of marriage" according to my invites. We are still doing a ceremony as well.. It will be nice to be able to say the things we didn't get to say before

Forgive me, I use the term "wedding" loosely on the boards to describe the event, but I figure we're all brides here

Avion22 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:8e24be9e-41d4-431d-9d95-df4002863ebd">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh yes, I know the difference! But it's not a vow renewal, we didn't exchange vows ;) It is a "celebration of marriage" according to my invites. We are still doing a ceremony as well.. It will be nice to be able to say the things we didn't get to say before :) Forgive me, I use the term "wedding" loosely on the boards to describe the event, but I figure we're all brides here ;)
Posted by jenuine86[/QUOTE]

<div>I assume you said "I do" at the courthouse? That is a vow. It's still a vow renewal. </div><div>
</div><div>I know we're getting into semantics here. Just realize that terminology means a lot on here, and some people find it offensive when people refer to having a "real" wedding following their courthouse wedding (like a courthouse wedding is "fake"), or refer to themselves as brides when really they are newlyweds. </div><div>
</div><div>What you have planned sounds lovely. </div>

ChristineNB · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:8e24be9e-41d4-431d-9d95-df4002863ebd">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh yes, I know the difference! But it's not a vow renewal, we didn't exchange vows ;) It is a "celebration of marriage" according to my invites. We are still doing a ceremony as well.. It will be nice to be able to say the things we didn't get to say before :) Forgive me, I use the term "wedding" loosely on the boards to describe the event, but I figure we're all brides here ;)
Posted by jenuine86[/QUOTE]
Just because you didn't get to say the vows you and your husband wrote doesn't make the courthouse marriage any less real. You said vows, you both agreed to marriage, so you had a wedding ceremony. As previous posters have said, I would focus on a vow renewal where you could say the vows that you wanted originally.

rlavach · April 2012

Like PP said, by repeating whatever vows were spoken at the courthouse, or even giving an affirmative 'I do' you did your vows, even if it wasn't the ones you wrote out. You are married now, so you're not really a bride. You're a newlywed. Nothing wrong with that, just not the same. As others said, a vow renewal is a beautiful event and I'm sure you will enjoy it.

MyNameIsNot · April 2012

Hello and welcome. Congratulations on the recent marriage and upcoming renewal/celebration!

FYI, this board doesn't get a lot of chatty traffic. Check out some of the other board if you are looking for a place to "hang out" and chat with other women about weddings and non-wedding things.

reinaroo · April 2012

SERIOUSLY LADIES. GET THE HELL OVER YOURSELVES. SHE IS A BRIDE
AND CAN HAVE A WEDDING, VOW-RENEWAL - OR MURDER-MYSTERY WEDDING CEREMONY.. YOU know why????? BECAUSE ITS HER LIFE. Shove it (bunch of overbearing hags)

amydave227 · April 2012

you are all being petty and crazy she can call it what ever she wants....get over your selves..its HER day not yours....cant wait to see pics of you WEDDING

judiffer · April 2012

Yeah seriously, who the heck do you think you are, coming on here, calling yourself a bride, saying you're having a wedding when you're already married. Get over yourself. And wear some polka dots.

kriskwillits · April 2012

Wow, you ladies are so shallow. She is a bride just as you are all nasty vicious bores. Congrats Jenuine 86

jwill000 · April 2012

Welcome! I am sorry everyone is being mean. As you can see, a lot of people here don't get laid that often.

HeartDuckyyy · April 2012

I think your wedding will be beautiful!

I hope you enjoy every moment of your day and all these nasty bitchy brides need to shut the hell up. Their is no reason to be mean. Congratulations on your big day and I hope everything goes well

and WW is so much better than this!!

rlavach · April 2012

What the heck is going on in this post? Moderator??

OBX2011 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:f7ac6315-63f1-4af9-99d5-308d8961c810">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]you are all being petty and crazy she can call it what ever she wants....get over your selves..its HER day not yours....<strong>cant wait to see pics of you WEDDING
</strong>Posted by amydave227[/QUOTE]

Just like I saw pics of yours with your WP's FIRST & LAST names for the entire world to see??

Real smart.

Knottie1443721062 · April 2012

I'm sure your WEDDING will be beautiful and you will be a beautiful BRIDE! Don't listen to the negativity that some people post. They post the same negative stuff on a lot of posts. Call it whatever you want! It is your day! Congratulations!

OBX2011 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:faba0d77-1ef1-4af7-8359-b6d7953fc511">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]What the heck is going on in this post? Moderator??
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

I haven't seen her around lately, but went to the Mods board about this one ;)

Bbyckes--don't mean to be stepping on your toes btw, just haven't seen you lately

OBX2011 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:3ee12e78-0378-4576-9308-7a97d0e9ae59">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]I think your wedding will be beautiful! :) I hope you enjoy every moment of your day and all these nasty bitchy brides need to shut the hell up. Their is no reason to be mean. Congratulations on your big day and I hope everything goes well ;) and WW is so much better than this!!
Posted by HeartDuckyyy[/QUOTE]

rlavach · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:564d4ff5-d0cd-4354-a3d8-9ef26623b1a1">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New Bride Here :) : I haven't seen her around lately, but went to the Mods board about this one ;) Bbyckes--don't mean to be stepping on your toes btw, just haven't seen you lately
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]
Thank you. I haven't seen her on here either. It seriously looks like the OP made like 5 sn's just to defend/fight herself...wouldn't be the first time.

okiediva · April 2012

The OP did that? That's INSANE...Like having two weddings!!!

OBX2011 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:99364d9e-67ef-45ed-9d75-bbb808a8f9a2">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New Bride Here :) : Thank you. I haven't seen her on here either. It seriously looks like the OP made like 5 sn's just to <strong>defend/fight herself</strong>...wouldn't be the first time.
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

I am now picturing someone having an argument with themselves.....awesome! ;)

MyNameIsNot · April 2012

If this is the OP, she's seriously wackadoodle.

I think it is really just an invasion from WW. Some people are delusional. A vow renewal is a wedding just like my cat barks.

rlavach · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:2fe7258a-d93c-4a01-a012-6717c8eaaff7">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]If this is the OP, she's seriously wackadoodle. <strong> I think it is really just an invasion from WW.</strong> Some people are delusional. A vow renewal is a wedding just like my cat barks.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
I thought the same thing. Those chicks are an interesting bunch.<div>
</div><div>OBX, I've actually seen someone fight themselves. It was comical & sad at the same time...</div>

kriskwillits · April 2012

What's sad here is that even though her views of a wedding and a bride differ from most on here, no one has taken the time to say, "Hey, that's kinda cool, It's different from what we usually see and hear, but hey, this is her life, her dream and let's all support her in making this thing happen." Really Ladies?!?! Since when did grown ass women decide that hostility and vulgar, disgusting behavior was the way of a true "woman or lady"? Seriously, She asked how everyone was doing, she was polite, she gave some fun details and you are all on her ass like flies on stink. This makes me sad for her and for you. You looked at this and laughed, did you once think about the woman behind this post and her feelings? If she can't call this a "Wedding" and you say she has to call it a "vow renewal" you must not have really read her post. I caught it, she said PERSONAL VOWS, that means that they created them, not the robot vows that are read out of a book that you hear at 98% of weddings. This is horrible. And to any other women who have been on this site and experienced this kind of horrible and rude behavior, I am so sorry, I apologize on their behalf.

jenuine86 · April 2012

Wow, not trying to cause WWIII, just introducing myself!! But as another poster said, maybe this isn't the right board? I just thought since the main topic was "customs and traditions" that it would be interesting for a non-traditional bride like myself.. but I could try the Chit Chat board?

kriskwillits · April 2012

And personally, criticize me all you want, say what you must to feel better about yourself. But I too belong to WW and the women there are seriously friendly, I am not saying that women here are not, because some are, but people never respond this way at WW, they are genuinely understanding of how another bride feels and the stress and emotions that she has going on. So say what you will about my post, I was trying to be polite in saying what I had to say and Women who supported her in this, thank you for being so decent, It's women like you who help our gender to be knows as something other than crabby old bitches.

kriskwillits · April 2012

No War, just some petty women going nuts!! Best wishes and best of luck to you and yours. I think you will be a beautiful BRIDE at your WEDDING.

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:9f31ece2-1540-434a-aae5-2d7b306d2a6e">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow, not trying to cause WWIII, just introducing myself!! But as another poster said, maybe this isn't the right board? I just thought since the main topic was "customs and traditions" that it would be interesting for a non-traditional bride like myself.. but I could try the Chit Chat board?
Posted by jenuine86[/QUOTE]

jenuine86 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:772eb4df-4366-4772-aa81-54235be49456">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New Bride Here :) : I am now picturing someone having an argument with themselves.....awesome! ;)
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]
I assure you, I'm no gullum ;)
Plus, I don't feel there's anything to "defend".. I already said I use the term loosely. It shouldn't be offensive to anyone.

jennh516 · April 2012

Wow. This board is the #1 reason I would much rather got to WW. The Knot is full of a bunch of stuck up brats. P.S. Love the experiment. Totally proved what everyone was saying about this crappy website

MyNameIsNot · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:e428c1d8-bf7f-4ee3-a620-ed304e20f909">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]What's sad here is that even though her views of a wedding and a bride differ from most on here, no one has taken the time to say, "Hey, that's kinda cool, It's different from what we usually see and hear, but hey, this is her life, her dream and let's all support her in making this thing happen." Really Ladies?!?! <strong>Since when did grown ass women decide that hostility and vulgar, disgusting behavior was the way of a true "woman or lady"?</strong> Seriously, She asked how everyone was doing, she was polite, she gave some fun details and you are all on her ass like flies on stink. This makes me sad for her and for you. You looked at this and laughed, did you once think about the woman behind this post and her feelings? If she can't call this a "Wedding" and you say she has to call it a "vow renewal" you must not have really read her post. I caught it, she said PERSONAL VOWS, that means that they created them, not the robot vows that are read out of a book that you hear at 98% of weddings. This is horrible. And to any other women who have been on this site and experienced this kind of horrible and rude behavior, I am so sorry, I apologize on their behalf.
Posted by kriskwillits[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Every single display of "vulgar, disgusting behavior" was from you and the other trolls invading this board late in the post. </div><div>
</div><div>Please re-read the posts from the regulars responding to OP. If you would take off your hate colored glasses, you would see that people say hello, congratulate her on the vow renewal, and ask her about it. Many of the women here elope or JOP by choice, and people are sensitive when others say that it isn't a real wedding. </div><div>
</div><div>Perhaps you only see what you want to see. Or more likely, it appears that you are simply trying to pick a fight and accusing bad behavior that simply isn't there. Now that is sad.

</div>

kriskwillits · April 2012

Ok sweetheart tell yourself what you must!! ROFLMAO I apologize to people for being treated poorly and you say that <em>I </em>am Vulgar? Sounds good to me, tell yourself what you have to so you can sleep at night.

<strong>For the record, this was one of the best experiments I have seen. I applaud you for the creativity. I will be deleting my account here and using my WW only. Yahoo, This is sad when no one steps in to smooth out these situations. At WW, Christina steps in and says hi from time to time and she takes care of us making sure that all women are pleasant as they can be given whatever discussion there is at any point in time. All I have to say is I am glad I am not face to face with all of you rude little things, your mouths would be eating my fist just to put your asses back in place. I'm done!! Have a great day!!!!!<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /></strong>

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:49f8ba7e-e097-4ebc-b3a6-58e918d86ce0">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New Bride Here :) : Every single display of "vulgar, disgusting behavior" was from you and the other trolls invading this board late in the post. Please re-read the posts from the regulars responding to OP. If you would take off your hate colored glasses, you would see that people say hello, congratulate her on the vow renewal, and ask her about it. Many of the women here elope or JOP by choice, and people are sensitive when others say that it isn't a real wedding. Perhaps you only see what you want to see. Or more likely, it appears that you are simply trying to pick a fight and accusing bad behavior that simply isn't there. Now that is sad.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

MyNameIsNot · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_new-bride-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:6a921ad8-2feb-48e3-8c60-629b324bda36Post:91cce9a2-3094-4375-a299-3fc19f00034f">Re: New Bride Here :)</a>:
[QUOTE]And personally, criticize me all you want, say what you must to feel better about yourself. But I too belong to WW and the women there are seriously friendly, I am not saying that women here are not, because some are, but people never respond this way at WW, they are genuinely understanding of how another bride feels and the stress and emotions that she has going on. So say what you will about my post, I was trying to be polite in saying what I had to say and Women who supported her in this, thank you for being so decent,<strong> It's women like you who help our gender to be knows as something other than crabby old bitches.</strong>
Posted by kriskwillits[/QUOTE]

<div>Is this an example of your friendly behavior? </div><div>
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