Goofy thing you discovered after you got married...

Tula214 · December 2010

I really thought I was the only person that could NOT get out of the shower until I'm dry. FI gets the floor SOAKING wet, and I freak out. I can't even walk in there to use the toilet if the floor isn't dry. I'm trying to compromise on this.

I feel like a lot of these quirks are just "a man thing," though I hate to steriotype. I also go around picking up clothes. Especially his underwear in the bathroom.

flapper2011 · December 2010

It's encouraging to know that certain traits do seem common among men. :-P

vllbabe688 · December 2010

So many of the PP sound like my FI haha!
- Takes off his socks on the couch and throws them in the middle of the living room
- Leaves empty soda cans on every horizontal surface
- Leaves cabinet doors open in the kitchen
- Eats at the computer or on the couch and leaves his dirty dishes on the floor next to him
- Takes off his clothes and leaves them on the floor RIGHT NEXT TO THE HAMPER
- Literally chucks his empty gatorade bottle over his shoulder when he finishes it!!

Eh well... I pick my battles and annoying as this stuff is it's so not worth fighting about lol!

n75nva · December 2010

Not married yet but we've been living together for almost 2 years.

He leaves cupboard doors open. Walks around the house with his shoes on (I keep telling him, when he starts mopping the floor is when he can walk around with his shoes on). Leaves his dishes on the table with food or bones still on it - and if I don't clean it up, it will be there for days! And the weirdest thing so far - he takes his shirt off when he poops.

But he cleans the cats litter most of the time, I hate doing the dishes so he does them (ok so he only does them 3 times a week, but at least I don't have to do them!), he does the handy work around the house, he fixes my computer! He says he only tolerates that cats because they live in the same house, but I know he loves them because I catch him snuggling them and talking to them! And most importantly - he puts up with me!!

landra310s · December 2010

I've been living with my Fi for 2 1/2 years. He leaves clothes everywhere, leaves empty dirty glasses everywhere, never throws anything away... even mail... thinks that someone will hunt through our trash and get all kinds of vital information from him so he burns everything outside in the summer.. ie leaving lg trashbags of his crap the rest of the year. NEVER puts the toilet seat down, let alone be able to direct the stream appropriately! His ONLY job is to clean the bathroom because he is the one that dirties it.. well his definition of cleaning the bathroom is cleaning the toilet inside.. not the outside splatter, wiping off the sink with windex NOT bathroom antibacterial wipes.. and that's it. I'm told the shower doesn't need to be cleaned because soap from the showers washes the inside (so i clean that). He uses a TON of soap or anything for that matter when he uses it.. body wash, toothpaste..etc. I have never seen anyone in my life go through those large body washes every couple weeks. Which is why I get a pink soap scum ring in the tub so quickly. Which he says isn't from him because his soap isn't pink. Gotta love it. Plus the floor never needs to be washed or cleaned! I'm sure there's a bit more I could add but the last one is leaving little crumpled up pieces of papertowel everywhere. Even though the trash is right next to him. BUT I love him! I'll deal with it, took a lot to get use to the toilet though, definitely fell in a lot when he first moved in.

Holly&Alex18 · December 2010

Not married yet, but live together... he leaves the dishwasher open all the time. Once I was standing at the sink (which is right beside the dishwasher) and backed up into the open door. Inevitably, I fell, but luckily I was able to maneuver around and not land on the open door. No major injuries- just a few bruises, but the fiance definitely tries harder to remember to close it. He is also really bad about leaving cabinets and drawers open. Sounds like he's like most of the others. Not a deal-breaker!

svetanton · December 2010

Ketchup...

I once baked fresh potatoes with garlic and herbs, olive oil, and mushrooms, it was so delicious and the aroma was intoxicating... My brother in law came over for lunch and just poured liters of ketchup all over it, killing the aroma and the taste at once. He LOVES ketchup.

As for my fiancée habits... He sounds just like the majority of men - throws his clothes everywhere around the house, hardly ever makes the bed, leaves empty cups and glasses all over the place, does not have any matching pair of socks, and will resist to throw the old socks out and buy the news ones, because "these are still good and I like them". Keeps hell of a lot of papers everywhere, including his wallet - tickets, checks, programs, little notes etc. - and never ever throws any of them away:"What if I need this later?"

Oh, and he is absolutely helpless in the kitchen - the most he can do is use microwave oven to warm up a meal, or prepare a cup of tea.

We've been living together for two and a half years now, and we've learnt to deal with each other.

aeryn85 · December 2010

My FI has some rather cute quirks. He straighten anything that is in a pile so it is perfectly square. He doesn't realize he is doing it until I point it out. I will intentionally make messy piles or move things out of line to see how long before he straightens it. Also if we go on trip he will still pack his own bag. For some reason we can't share. When he is nervous or frustrated, he will pick at his eyebrows. Sometimes I swear he has ADD but I am sure that is a male thing.

kriss1985 · December 2010

Wow.. so apparently instead of my fiance being that way I am that way! My fiance and i have been roomates since the beginning, lived in a house with friends in college and he was one of them So i have know all of his quirks.
His are:

-complains about me leaving stuff everywhere (which i do), he leaves cups and cans around.. and we have a little one.. He's learning tho.
-he sleeps in a cold room, and i like a nice warm temperature..
-does not do laundry, or help clean our room.. sigh.. we're trying to do this.
-will not cook :P
-and he's most definitely a mommas boy. can irritate me (his mom does everything for him)- but thats ok. she doesnt mind.
Ahh I think it would be hard to deal with but we are living with his parents. (its quite nice.

But really with the things he doesnt do, he is the greatest man i have ever known. I know im difficult to live with-ie: i'm very messy, and sometimes don't notice. But we're both working on our quirks :P

KSelwyn · December 2010

My partner and I are not married yet, nor have we lived together. We will be living separately until after the wedding. However, I have only ever had male room-mates. So these complaints about socks having holes in them, dishes being left around the house and seats being left up don't really phase me. I don't care what his socks look like, because they are HIS socks. I don't want him telling me what socks I need to wear. If he doesn't expect me to raise the toilet seat when I am done, I won't expect him to put it back down. If these small trivial things, these arbitrary expectations are really bothering you...talk to your partner about them...not just us. Communication, understanding, empathy and respect are all vital in making a relationship as enjoyable and efficient as possible. Also, not many of these things sound "goofy" or "quirky", they just sound like petty, bitter complaints.

"Quirky"/"Goofy" traits my partner has:
-He makes really cute "merrr" noises when he is really sleepy.
-One of his nose hairs grows slightly faster than the rest. (He noticed this long before I did. Haha.)
-He hates it when I get stressed about cooking, so he finds subtle ways of helping without making me feel like I failed.
-He likes it when I am 'big spoon', even though he has a much larger build than I do.
-He tried more for body shots when I box, because he's worried he'll give me a concussion.
-He enjoys leaving the last bite of dessert for me, because I have an insatiable sweet-tooth.
-He can instantly tell by the look on my face when I need to be cheered up and he always starts with a kiss on the forehead.

OuachitaTrixie · December 2010

He is either physically or psychologically incapable of "seeing" messes. Last night as I was washing dishes (usually his job, because he is able to "recognize" dirty dishes) he just kept staring at me from behind and shuffling his feet. The problem was that he knew that I was cleaning, and the good man that he is he knew that he should be helping, but he could not because I took the one job he knew needed to be done. He couldn't "see" the laundry that needed to be hung up, or the floor that needed swept, or the dust on the furniture.

Unfortunately, although he wants to help I can't actually ask for help verbally without making him upset about having to "work after he just got off work." Luckily, I have figured out this little gem: if I put a "to do" list on the fridge he will do almost everything on the list without me saying a word. I never get through the first item on the list before he's finished the rest of the list. It may not always be to my liking, but hey, I can "touch up" any jobs that particularly need it.

OuachitaTrixie · December 2010

oh, and he believes that measuring "cups" are "cups" and belong with the drinking glasses or the wine(!) glasses. I have to check both spots if I'm cooking.

cradford22 · December 2010

Well my fiance just moved into his own place and I have been staying with him over the holidays since I am a student. And, I`m not sure if anyone else noticed this but I guess since he`s a guy: he has no organization or cleanliness! All of his clothes are scattered and he leaves pizza boxes and soda cans in towers around the apartment...he also refuses to buy any nice furniture so everything is still in or on a box or scattered. I guess it`s a guy thing!?

BluValkyrie · December 2010

He has a tendancy to get so focused on something, he forgets to do stuff, or stops listening. I know it's learn behavior, since that was pretty much the ONLY way he could deal with his Mom, and he feels HORRIBLE when he does it to me.

His big thing is going into the bedroom, turning on the light, then leaving and forgetting to turn off the light. I found a way to counter act it though. We made a deal; he forgets to turn the bedroom light off, I get to pinch his nipples. So far, it has worked very well.

i3rooke · December 2010

We are not married yet, but we live together. The weirdest things I have noticed are..

He leaves glasses everywhere, and is perfectly happy to pile up the dishes for me to do (No Dishwasher)

He puts holes in socks and still thinks they are acceptable

He is a mechanic and sometimes does not clean his hands as well as he should, so needless to say he leaves fingerprints on light switches, the fridge, walls, and anything else he feels like touching.

I have noticed a lot about myself too.

I leave cabinet doors open and drawers, I sleep in and forget to make the bed, and when I get home from work I am often too lazy to put away my work stuff.

Surprisingly though, our apartment is rather clean and only partially dangerous =P

keriola · December 2010

my husband wakes up every night around two am and goes and makes a pitcher of koolaide, every morning when i get up there is a new color of koolaide sitting on the counter

lucinda_marie9 · December 2010

Well, I'm glad I'm not the only one! Needless to say...I'm not perfect either. I've been known to have my piles...I have done this all my life. The funny thing is that I know where everything is. That is one thing that drives me nuts because he always asks me where things are. I'm great at naming three different places that he leaves his keys b/c I know his habbits and I'm always right. Then he accuses me that I put them there on purpose lol!

I wash all the dishes and clothes, make all the iced tea and food, and clean the whole apartment. He leaves his clothes everywhere and I'm starting to get him to understand not to put his wet towels in the laundry basket. I'm the one guilty of leaving half filled water bottles everywhere but he will leave his spit bottles for his chewing habit around. He is really good about putting the toilet seat down but won't close the shower curtain when he is done in the shower. I do wish he would shower when he gets home from his second job at a pizza shop b/c he will just change his clothes and hop into bed...eww! He has the job to help pay for the wedding so I guess I can't complain too much! =P

Aprilsoontobemhire · December 2010

My FI is so "OCD" about his dresser drawers. Example ; I just throw all of myunder garments into one drawer. (including undershirts) Then I've got one for my pj's. He's got like six drawers. One for each thing like socks , underwear & boxers , one for his under shirts , one for his BELTS even. Love him to death but when I put up the clothes he wigs

It's livable! He also will drink out of a glass & leave it sitting next to the sofa , then forget about it ... and so when he gets up to walk he usually breaks the glass. Which is WHY I've replaced all of our glasses with plastic

He ALSO doesn't put the dishes in the dishwasher LOL..it's alright because I'm strict about that.

BugsNut · December 2010

My FI doesn't wear socks to bed but he also picks at his nails A LOT absentmindedly too, even when he's driving he'll do it! I swat his hand and tell him to quit it!

bpphoto785 · December 2010

We’re not married yet, but have been living together for about 2 ½ years. I was so happy to read FI does a lot of the stuff everyone else’s does.

When he empties the dishwasher he puts stuff away in the most random places. He leaves his shoes in the middle of the entry way. He leaves clothes, socks, slippers, etc. in front of the couch. He leaves wrappers wherever he opens them. When he brings in the mail he doesn’t put it in the mail thing on our wall, he just throws it on the bar. He leaves his clothes in the laundry room, sometimes for weeks. He puts dishes in the sink instead of the dishwasher. We moved into a new apartment about 3 months ago and he still hasn’t unpacked most of his stuff, he just takes stuff out as he needs it. I keep telling him he’s causing me psychological damage by not unpacking!

but I love him anyways :-)

cbabe0216 · December 2010

FI and I have lived together about a year and a half now, but I spent plenty of time there before I moved in. Everytime I make a pot of anything I have to make sure to be the one to put it away otherwise the whole pot goes in the fridge and he reheats the whole thing when he wants any. I have acquired a lot of small one serving size containers since I moved in! He also never finishes a soda, there are always half cans all over. Though he has realized I bite my fingernails and he has to swat my hand or just give me a dirty look to remind me it grosses him out! I agree with a lot of the comments... how did they get along before us? Somehow he now doesn't know how to do laundry at all, or how to put things away. Though he teases me because I put his clothes away and then mine stay in the laundry basket for at least a week! There are definite joys about getting to learn all the quirks and figuring out what is worth dealing with and what you can just handle!

cbabe0216 · December 2010

Oh I forgot a strange one... he goes through 3-4 pairs of socks a day. How? I don't know! I thought getting him slippers would help, but he has to wear socks with those too!

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