In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sunday-night-weddings-please-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2231ddd3-7148-4645-9cc0-4287defe94fbPost:c88b45af-a211-4d39-a68c-3c33883e9194">Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it</a>: [QUOTE]So...a vacation, like people are taking off work? Yep, still the same. Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>Yes, sucrets, they are talking off work (the ones who are not retired or stay at home moms) for the sheer horror of an all expenses paid vacation. None of them had issues with talking time off work or as I said there would have been no destination wedding, because it was very important to us that this small group of family and close friends be able to go.</div><div> </div><div>The problem with large odd-timed weddings is not that people have to take off work, it is that some people have a hard time getting that time off. We knew no one in our group did, so we decided to subject them to the horror of an all expenses paid trip.</div><div> </div><div>A "little" different than having to show up at work at 8:00 am, or beg for the Monday off after a Sunday night wedding in town.</div><div> </div><div>No matter how many times you say it is the same, it just is not.</div><div> </div>
Why do you not get this? If you didn't open your mouth (keyboard) and judge someone else for their Sunday wedding, then no one would have cared.
I don't care that your situation is "different" because it's really not. You could explain it all you want, but the facts are still there that you're both getting married on a 'work night'.
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Hey did you guys know that she was paying all expenses for her guests to come to her wedding in Vegas? At least that's what I got from reading between the lines.
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I think this is actually comical. There really is a place where the "snarky" board = the "haters" board sometimes. But that's ok, I figure if you can't take the heat stay out of the kitchen and all those good old cliches.
What the freak do I have to be "jealous" of? Weird.
There is a BIG difference between taking a few guests on a trip, and knowing the time off work is okay for the ones who need it and putting 150 people in that position when you do not even know their work circumstances.
The stupidity of it all, just not getting that.
As to "done", I meant I was done with my discussion with CEW, made no promises on others. Now I am done with the whole mess.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sunday-night-weddings-please-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2231ddd3-7148-4645-9cc0-4287defe94fbPost:4d0d47ff-315e-4c13-8f79-f95944fb4b12">Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : "Back peddling" how? By explaining how my situation is different? It is legitimately different. Message is the same from first post to last <strong>(and this will be my last on the topic) </strong>if you can avoid a Sunday evening, particularly a late evening wedding-please do! Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]As to "done", I meant I was done with my discussion with CEW, made no promises on others. Now I am done with the whole mess. Hate on. Freaks. Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
Ummmm....lol Don't really know what to say except if it inconvenience's people to go to a sunday wedding then I guess they shouldn't go. We are having a Sunday wedding and no it wasn't to save money, it is because that is when our 10 year anniversary falls. If people can't come because it falls on a Sunday then so be it...immediate family and good friends I know will be there. I obviously don't have a problem with Sunday weddings:)
And I would like to add that a sunday night wedding is pretty much the same thing as a weekday night wedding. The majority of people will have to work the next day...same thing.
I agree with OP, Sunday night wedding sucks. But so would Mon-Thurs, Friday I would say is not so bad, as long as it is in the evening and not before 5pm.
I'm getting married on a sunday night in November too, its not 7pm but the reception will be at 5 to 10. I don't think its unreasonable. It is cheaper but thats not why we're doing it. It was the only available time that weekend my Officiant could do it since he was already booked the friday and saturday before. It just seemed to work out. A lot of our guests are OOT too even though its the sunday before thanksgiving no one we've talked to is complaining. I totally think monday night wedding is worse cause its in the work week. I think People with kids on a schedule can make an exception one night of the week for a friends WEDDING. but thats just me, and i dont like to complain.
I'm getting married on a sunday, but were taking into mind it is a sunday night and trying not that have it too late. Ceremony at 4, Reception at 5:30-10. And then an afterparty into the early morning with all of our close friends!
I totally hopped onto this post late, but even so... It's making me a wee bit sad.
Our wedding is on a Sunday night, both for financial reasons (I'm fresh outta college and the FI is in college) but also because it's the only day during that timeframe our venue of choice was available. Plus, it's a destination wedding for our families and airfare is cheaper on certain days. (We're getting married in MN; my family is from MD, his is from ND).
I think a 3-day weekend would be fun, when a wedding is concerned. And we're hosting a brunch the next day. --I'm not ungrateful that people put their lives on hold for our big day. It can be a pain, but we're family!
I'm new here but man I love the snarky boards. It's called a snarky brides board for a reason and yet people come here looking for rainbows and butterflies...Ah some people's ignorance. Anyway just wanted to say you guys are a breath of fresh air in a world where people are routinely told 'its your day go ahead and act like a spoiled brat, never mind the fact that you think your adult enough to get married.'
To the OP if she's still lurking here...Destination weddings are a pain anyway so your giving me a vacation...big whoop is that going to help pay the bills when I miss work to go to your wedding? If it won't then its the same as a sunday night wedding when people would have to miss work or go in late monday. Missing work is missing work no matter what the circumstances. Either way the person is losing money and either way the person who is going to go shouldn't compain about it because its your CHOICE to go. You care enough about the bride or groom or both to go and see them joined in marriage which means you should care enough not to whine and complain about missing work( I personally would love to have an oppurtunity to miss work but to each their own). Especially when you are doing the same thing( I know free vacation...Yay i suppose, though if its not of a destination of my choosing and a time of my choosing I don't see how its a vacation for me, its just something I'm going to go to)
A couple of notes here that I thought were worth making in spite of the fact that I said repeatedly I was done with it. I should not say that because sometimes I just have to speak up!
First, Luswen I am sorry this thread made you sad. What I decided about this whole "wedding day/time" issue after a lot of thought is that you should do whatever works for you while taking your guests into consideration. That is actually going to vary for everyone. Getting married on Sunday may be exactly what you need to do if everyone you know works in the food and beverage industry, for example. Or maybe you just decide that although you are inviting 200 people with different occupations and work situations, whoever comes, comes.
Next Jenni, yes there is a big rap against destination weddings. Our own involves a very small, close crowd and the frankly a big part of the reason we are paying the often referenced tab for the trip is the inconvenience to even these people of coming. A lot of consideration of guests went into how we planned this DW out. As to having it on a Monday, the thing with a DW is that people are virtually always taking some time off of work regardless of the day of the week. It is a trip/vacation and if someone offered me an all expenses paid to a DW, I would jump at it and so I think would 90% of people. Absolutely NO ONE in our little group of 15 is in a position of not getting paid for lost work time because they went to this wedding. That is just ridiculous, who the bleep would GO if that were the case?
Ironically, my friend decided to do the wedding on a Friday night instead. A lot of people in her family work in stuff where they need to be at work on 7-3 shifts and Mondays off are a big problem. So, she is doing Friday at 5:30 and still saving money on her venue.
So, yeah I will admit I was not entirely right in my original post (you know me, Fred Flinstone would admire my "backpeddling" skills!) It was my snapshot reaction to a Sunday night wedding, which could actually work out fine for some people. I still maintain however, that I am not "doing the same thing", and my point in mentioning the paying for the guests repeatedly on the DW is that we ARE taking them and their needs into consideration-beyond, I might add paying for their travel. If you can say the same about your wedding, go for whatever time, day, whatever you like. Yes, you can say the hell with them and they will show up if they like but be prepared for some bad blood around that if you are talking close friends and relatives.
Last of all, while I did myself call some people around this board "haters" and "freaks" - and I am sorry I stooped to the level of some, can we call a cease and desist on name calling on the Snarky Board? Name calling is not snarky it is just immature and nasty. It does not make your point, it just makes you sound like the high school mean girls.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sunday-night-weddings-please-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2231ddd3-7148-4645-9cc0-4287defe94fbPost:7fb40612-dcb7-4d4c-b866-db00462db209">Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it</a>: [QUOTE]I agree with Lenore. You nasty bitches need to stop with the name calling. Posted by NikkiFyve[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sunday-night-weddings-please-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2231ddd3-7148-4645-9cc0-4287defe94fbPost:81acf6d1-b652-4817-8321-e40a70b6f7cc">Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : Wait Cew, I thought that poster was NikkiFyve. I mean, it's been a whole week, shouldn't we all have TOTALLY FORGOTTEN they're the same person by now? Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
Well, I spent most of last week watching Golden Girls reruns, staring into a really shiny thing and drooling, so lucky for her, not enough happened to replace the memories of the gigantic trainwreck that was momokubiak.
Lenore, I find it funny that you justify people missing work, because you are paying for their vaction. It really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things, they still have to miss a couple days of work, still going to get a weak payday if they are not taking any paid vaction time. I don't think you realize how much more work you are putting your guest through for your wedding, then a Sunday night bride does.
Whats the worse that can happen for a Sunday wedding? They miss a day of work? Anyone who has to fly there is going to be a close realitve, while all the people who are attending your wedding will have to take multiple days off work, catch two flights, pay baggage fees twice, and really, have a vacation that centers around YOU.
You obviously did not read my post, where I in fact did amend my opinion of Sunday weddings.
We completely took our guests needs into consideration in our destination wedding. If you are doing the same for your Sunday wedding, go for it. Or don;t take their needs into consideration and deal with your pissed off family and close friends, your choice.
I repeat, also that there are no "weak paydays" among the small crowd for my destination wedding. Everyone is getting a full paycheck, is retired, or is a stay at home mom. No one in my crowd would go if their income were suffering.
I personally would vote for a free trip rather than just having to take a week day off if I were the guest. Maybe you hate free trips, don't know. Some people are privileged enough in their lives to not even consider that a perk.
Sunday wedding...holiday the next day though and Thanksgiving weekend.. eeek......Broke the wedding rules ..hehe but I only did it for the(what I think is cool) 10/10/10 date. So far most of my guest don't mind
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sunday-night-weddings-please-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2231ddd3-7148-4645-9cc0-4287defe94fbPost:381403bb-005e-4de5-8e59-177810b97294">Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it</a>: [QUOTE]You obviously did not read my post, where I in fact did amend my opinion of Sunday weddings. <strong>We completely took our guests needs into consideration in our destination wedding.</strong> If you are doing the same for your Sunday wedding, go for it. Or don;t take their needs into consideration and deal with your pissed off family and close friends, your choice. I repeat, also that there are no "weak paydays" among the small crowd for my destination wedding. Everyone is getting a full paycheck, is retired, or is a stay at home mom. No one in my crowd would go if their income were suffering. <strong>I personally would vote for a free trip rather than just having to take a week day off if I were the guest.</strong> Maybe you hate free trips, don't know. Some people are privileged enough in their lives to not even consider that a perk. Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
Personally? I dislike airports, standing in line at check in, waiting to board a plane, being in a airplane, then waiting to get off and picked up, as opposed to getting in a car and doing things at my own pace. This is me though, I don't really consider destination weddings as a vacation for anyone, even if they are paid for. Not saying that their is anything wrong with them, but that its still a wedding, not a vaction.
you are all lucky you dont have to work on "columbus day" it's not a paid holiday / off work holiday in "my circle" of blue collar workers. thank you Luckyme for pointing this out.
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Lenore, I thought about a DW in Scotland, but when we worked out airfare, hotel, dresses, and food cost, it would just be cheaper to get married 12 hours away in New Jersey. DW are really nice and if I had more resources and a father who wasn't afraid of fly, I would deffinately do it. Good luck!
Thanks, I think it is going to be a great time but yes, if people are looking to save money and hassle my advice would be do not assume a DW is your best option!
I'm with the first woman who replied--people getting married on a Monday definitely shouldn't throw stones! I'm flat broke (student going to med school, fiance in PA school), but we figured out a cheap way to do Saturday night in June!
As far as I'm concerned, the people you REALLY want at your wedding will figure out a way to be there, even if it's inconvenient. We chose a Saturday next year because it's really important to us to have everyone there (big families, lots of friends and coworkers/fellow students)...but I'm not going to pass judgment on anyone who chooses an inconvenient time for their wedding. It's not easy to plan, and everyone has their reasons for planning it the way they do.
If you plan your wedding in such a way that it makes it difficult (or even impossible) for those closest to you to attend, well...there's always an excuse for future and more intimate celebrations!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_sunday-night-weddings-please-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2231ddd3-7148-4645-9cc0-4287defe94fbPost:c8689e6c-6e7c-441c-9a02-7a7548c6a136">Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it</a>: [QUOTE]I'm with the first woman who replied--people getting married on a Monday definitely shouldn't throw stones! I'm flat broke (student going to med school, fiance in PA school), but we figured out a cheap way to do Saturday night in June! As far as I'm concerned, the people you REALLY want at your wedding will figure out a way to be there, even if it's inconvenient. We chose a Saturday next year because it's really important to us to have everyone there (big families, lots of friends and coworkers/fellow students)...but I'm not going to pass judgment on anyone who chooses an inconvenient time for their wedding. It's not easy to plan, and everyone has their reasons for planning it the way they do. If you plan your wedding in such a way that it makes it difficult (or even impossible) for those closest to you to attend, well...there's always an excuse for future and more intimate celebrations! Posted by riverjib[/QUOTE]
<div>If you read the 12 million subsequent posts, you would see we have been there and done all of this, including and particularly the destination Monday VS. the at home Sunday.</div><div>I have been guilty of this more than once myself, but I think it good when people read more of the thread, not just a post or two before they reply. Reading the posts towards the end is particularly important.</div>
I'm having a Sunday wedding. More than half of the guests will be from out of town, and everyone is coming without any problems. Monday wedding is a terrible idea.
People who are marrying on a Sunday should not throw stones! lol! Like I said, we have been there and back and done with all of this Modified my own opinion of Sunday weddings, talked a lot about small guest list destination weddings. Read the thread....
Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it
[QUOTE]So...a vacation, like people are taking off work? Yep, still the same.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yes, sucrets, they are talking off work (the ones who are not retired or stay at home moms) for the sheer horror of an all expenses paid vacation. None of them had issues with talking time off work or as I said there would have been no destination wedding, because it was very important to us that this small group of family and close friends be able to go.</div><div>
</div><div>The problem with large odd-timed weddings is not that people have to take off work, it is that some people have a hard time getting that time off. We knew no one in our group did, so we decided to subject them to the horror of an all expenses paid trip.</div><div>
</div><div>A "little" different than having to show up at work at 8:00 am, or beg for the Monday off after a Sunday night wedding in town.</div><div>
</div><div>No matter how many times you say it is the same, it just is not.</div><div>
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I don't care that your situation is "different" because it's really not. You could explain it all you want, but the facts are still there that you're both getting married on a 'work night'.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : "Back peddling" how? By explaining how my situation is different? It is legitimately different. Message is the same from first post to last <strong>(and this will be my last on the topic) </strong>if you can avoid a Sunday evening, particularly a late evening wedding-please do!
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]As to "done", I meant I was done with my discussion with CEW, made no promises on others. Now I am done with the whole mess. Hate on. Freaks.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
You're hilarious, and an idiot. Have a good day.
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And I would like to add that a sunday night wedding is pretty much the same thing as a weekday night wedding. The majority of people will have to work the next day...same thing.
Our wedding is on a Sunday night, both for financial reasons (I'm fresh outta college and the FI is in college) but also because it's the only day during that timeframe our venue of choice was available. Plus, it's a destination wedding for our families and airfare is cheaper on certain days. (We're getting married in MN; my family is from MD, his is from ND).
I think a 3-day weekend would be fun, when a wedding is concerned. And we're hosting a brunch the next day.
To the OP if she's still lurking here...Destination weddings are a pain anyway so your giving me a vacation...big whoop is that going to help pay the bills when I miss work to go to your wedding? If it won't then its the same as a sunday night wedding when people would have to miss work or go in late monday. Missing work is missing work no matter what the circumstances. Either way the person is losing money and either way the person who is going to go shouldn't compain about it because its your CHOICE to go. You care enough about the bride or groom or both to go and see them joined in marriage which means you should care enough not to whine and complain about missing work( I personally would love to have an oppurtunity to miss work but to each their own). Especially when you are doing the same thing( I know free vacation...Yay i suppose, though if its not of a destination of my choosing and a time of my choosing I don't see how its a vacation for me, its just something I'm going to go to)
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[QUOTE]I agree with Lenore. You nasty bitches need to stop with the name calling.
Posted by NikkiFyve[/QUOTE]
Oh Momokubiak. You're such a charmer.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Night Weddings-Please Don't Do it : Wait Cew, I thought that poster was NikkiFyve. I mean, it's been a whole week, shouldn't we all have TOTALLY FORGOTTEN they're the same person by now?
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
Well, I spent most of last week watching Golden Girls reruns, staring into a really shiny thing and drooling, so lucky for her, not enough happened to replace the memories of the gigantic trainwreck that was momokubiak.
Whats the worse that can happen for a Sunday wedding? They miss a day of work? Anyone who has to fly there is going to be a close realitve, while all the people who are attending your wedding will have to take multiple days off work, catch two flights, pay baggage fees twice, and really, have a vacation that centers around YOU.
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eeek......Broke the wedding rules ..hehe but I only did it for the(what I think is cool) 10/10/10 date.
So far most of my guest don't mind
[QUOTE]You obviously did not read my post, where I in fact did amend my opinion of Sunday weddings. <strong>We completely took our guests needs into consideration in our destination wedding.</strong> If you are doing the same for your Sunday wedding, go for it. Or don;t take their needs into consideration and deal with your pissed off family and close friends, your choice. I repeat, also that there are no "weak paydays" among the small crowd for my destination wedding. Everyone is getting a full paycheck, is retired, or is a stay at home mom. No one in my crowd would go if their income were suffering. <strong>I personally would vote for a free trip rather than just having to take a week day off if I were the guest.</strong> Maybe you hate free trips, don't know. Some people are privileged enough in their lives to not even consider that a perk.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
Personally? I dislike airports, standing in line at check in, waiting to board a plane, being in a airplane, then waiting to get off and picked up, as opposed to getting in a car and doing things at my own pace. This is me though, I don't really consider destination weddings as a vacation for anyone, even if they are paid for. Not saying that their is anything wrong with them, but that its still a wedding, not a vaction.
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As far as I'm concerned, the people you REALLY want at your wedding will figure out a way to be there, even if it's inconvenient. We chose a Saturday next year because it's really important to us to have everyone there (big families, lots of friends and coworkers/fellow students)...but I'm not going to pass judgment on anyone who chooses an inconvenient time for their wedding. It's not easy to plan, and everyone has their reasons for planning it the way they do.
If you plan your wedding in such a way that it makes it difficult (or even impossible) for those closest to you to attend, well...there's always an excuse for future and more intimate celebrations!
[QUOTE]I'm with the first woman who replied--people getting married on a Monday definitely shouldn't throw stones! I'm flat broke (student going to med school, fiance in PA school), but we figured out a cheap way to do Saturday night in June! As far as I'm concerned, the people you REALLY want at your wedding will figure out a way to be there, even if it's inconvenient. We chose a Saturday next year because it's really important to us to have everyone there (big families, lots of friends and coworkers/fellow students)...but I'm not going to pass judgment on anyone who chooses an inconvenient time for their wedding. It's not easy to plan, and everyone has their reasons for planning it the way they do. If you plan your wedding in such a way that it makes it difficult (or even impossible) for those closest to you to attend, well...there's always an excuse for future and more intimate celebrations!
Posted by riverjib[/QUOTE]
<div>If you read the 12 million subsequent posts, you would see we have been there and done all of this, including and particularly the destination Monday VS. the at home Sunday.</div><div>I have been guilty of this more than once myself, but I think it good when people read more of the thread, not just a post or two before they reply. Reading the posts towards the end is particularly important.</div>
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