We have 6" of snow and ice on the ground, and I have a Honda Civic. Meaning, I'm not even attempting to go anywhere until oh, around April. Tomorrow is Manda's 18th birthday, and both her friend dinner and our dinner out for her were ruined, or at least postponed until we can get out and have a re-do.
She spent Fri. and last night at her friend Carrie's house, and I found out this morning that Carrie's power went out in the middle of the night and, instead of her mom bringing them to my house, they went to another friend's house whose mother is NEVER home (she's so far up her boyfriend's ass she's completely forgotten she has a daughter to take care of), so they were alone, without adults, in a snow/ice storm... I was not happy.
Today she tells me she's spending the night with Carson, and all her friends are throwing her a sledding party there. I cannot even possibly begin to describe Carson's mother without writing a book, so I'll leave it at this: If she was the absolute last person I could leave my kid with on earth, I'd sacrifice my daughter to save her from that trashy hell. She's been busted multiple times for underage drinking parties (but gets out of it every fucking time, thanks to this stupid small town and its politics), she's had sex with strangers in her mini-van, she's miserably failed as a mother 2.5 times (I have hope for Carson, the only one not an adult yet, but it ain't lookin good for her, either)... I could go on and on.
Suffice to say, Manda has NEVER been allowed to go to Carson's house, so I can't figure out why 1. She'd think it's ok now and 2. She'd think she could tell me where she's going instead of asking.
I told her even if the weather was perfect, she'd not be going to Carson's at any time for any reason, and she wasn't going anywhere tonight with the low being in the teens and all the roads a frozen sheet of ice. I told her around noon today to get all her friends together and I'd figure out a way to get them here for the night and they could celebrate her birthday here. Her response: "I'd never make my friends suffer through a night at our stupid house. You've ruined my birthday, and now I'm going to be completely alone. I hope you are happy."
WTF? She's in her room, alone, texting like mad for hours. One part of me feels guilty because she is, in fact, alone on her birthday, but the other part of me says she did this to herself and there's no way I should have allowed her to go to that woman's house. I'm wondering if I should have just trusted her and let her go, but every single time there's been a party at that woman's house, she's allowed underage drinking. Tonight would have been no different, and I just am not prepared to put my kid in that environment. Even if her license does read that she's an adult as of tomorrow.
Sorry so long, but I needed to vent. You can flame me, it won't be half as bad as my kid ignoring me and drowning in self-pity.