Backstory: I posted a few months back about how I felt like an asshole for being irritated with my cousin--she got engaged 6 months after me, then scheduled her wedding about 2 weeks before mine. Not that she was "stealing my thunder", but we have an aunt and uncle in Florida that we rarely see, and they most likely will not fly up here twice in one month. My grandmother passed away in April, and my FI and I got very to close to my aunt and uncle when they came up for the funeral and to help my mom with my grandma's estate, etc. They are such great people, and we told them we planned on getting married june 2012 (we weren't engaged yet), and they told us they look forward to coming, but we didn't send out save the dates, and oviosuly our invites will probably arrive after hers, etc.
Yeah, least of my worries now. My cousin came over last night for a party my parents were having, and while talking wedding stuff, I asked if she had gotten her dress yet. It got SILENT. Apparently, she got the exact same dress as me, everyone had already found out earlier but didn't tell me. I tried to smile and act like it wasn't a big deal, but I was dying inside. I showed her my dress when she came over in december to show me her ring! I even told her the designer. She said that she didn't remember, which I can understand. I'm sure the last thing on her mind when she was dress shopping was "wait a minute, this looks like my cousins dress". I know I wouldn't be thinking about anything but how I look and feel in the dress.
She said she was going to take care of it, apparently she just ordered the dress and said she will call the bridal shop monday and see if they can cancel it. If not, she said she knows a great seamstress who can alter the shape of the dress. Well, maybe I'm a bitch, but if it's the same dress, even a different shape, I'm going to have to get a new dress. We look alike, same height/weight/body shape, both of us have long brown curly hair. It's going to be obvious, especially 2 weeks apart, with the majority of the same people at both weddings. I know I would notice it. I saved $ for over a year to get the dress of my dreams, and now it's likely gone to shitt. My mom feels awful, and said she would help pay for a new dress, but my parents are paying for the whole wedding, and have offered to help FI and I with 1/2 of our down payment on a house. They're doing more than I ever dreamed of already. I've been looking all over oncewed, preowned wedding dresses, craigslist, here, etc, just in case I need to get a new dress, but I want my dress.
I really hope this doesn't sound whiny or bitchy...I am just feeling deflated and crushed. I'm sure it wasn't on purpose, but I just never even imagined this would happen to me, so I have no idea how to deal. Has this happened to anyone else here? what ended up happening?