How do you know it's the right dress?

AVasyuta · December 2011

If you aren't finding anything in a store you like, go on etsy.com. I found a dress that is handmade and looks like it will be "me" more than anything a big designer could do. Sometimes the dress someone makes by hand just for the joy of sewing proves to be right.

mixnmatch372 · December 2011

I started my dress search by looking online & made a list of "favorites." When I went to the bridal salon, I pulled these "favorites" & tried all of them on. They were all beautiful, but just weren't me or what I wanted. During the process, my bridal consultant pulled a dress that she thought was a good combination of two of my "favorites." When she brought it to me, I didn't like the visual appearance of the dress & continued trying on other dresses I "liked" more. When I no longer had any more of my "favorites" to try on, I apprehensively put on my consultant's pick & walked out to show my family. At first, I could only see the back of the dress & it took my breath away...I even told my future mother-in-law that she would LOVE the back of the dress. I knew, just from seeing how beautiful the back of the gown was, that it was "the one." In the end, I chose the dress that I had harshly judged, just by the way it looked on the hanger. Nevertheless, I'm thankful my consultant was able to read me & help me toward finding my dream dress. You can't always judge a gown on how it looks on someone else or how it hangs on the rack because you may end up walking away from your perfect dress.

hippoellelove · January 2012

I am not a dress up kind of person... but I knew it was the dress for me when I put it on and did not want to take it off. I could dance and sit and twirl comfortably in it. However, the biggest factor for me was that when I closed my eyes I could picture myself walking down the asile in that very dress I had on and I could see my future husband smiling. I didn't see that with any other dress i put on.

[Deleted User] · January 2012

I go dress shopping next week. I have no idea what to expect. One thing that I can tell you is that sometimes brides tend to make a bigger deal or issue out of something than what it actually is. Your wedding gown should be something that you can imagine yourself walking down the aisle in. However, you don't have to cry or feel some "special" emotion. It's ok, everyone is different, and things like this affect women in different ways.
Think of your gown like your future husband, you're not still looking around for another one, because you know that your fiance is great for you. So you can't go around searching and searching for the 'perfect gown', you'll drive yourself crazy. As a balance though, you shouldn't settle for something that you just don't like.

Tarra+Trav · January 2012

I had the similar situation. I thought for sure I wanted a big ball gown dress. I figured it was the only time in my life I would get that fairytale dress. I tried on a handful at a local bridal shop and there were a few we all liked but nothing that made us all jump for joy. A couple weeks later I went to DB. I told her I wanted something romantic/vintage that would look good in our country theme wedding and that I liked ball gown style and sweetheart neckline. The first one she brought me was beautiful. I loved it. Everyone else was staring at the next dress though and from the hanger I already hated. They insisted it would look better on me. As I am very hour glass shaped (40-30-38) the ball gown shape really wasn't that flattering bc it added to the width on my hips. My mom, sister and grandmother insisted I try it and as I was getting in to it my mind slowly started going from "this is a waste of time" to "hmm.. maybe I could like this..." I got in front of a mirror and was done. I did get a little teary eyed when my sister started putting veils and accessories to match on me (and she was crying), but mostly I just DID NOT want to take it off. By the way, the dress is strapless, A line and not a sweetheart neckline. It's perfect though. Lace and hand beaded from top to bottom. The perfect combonation of vintage romance and country girl. The exact opposite of what I thought I wanted, and I couldn't be happier with me choice! My fiance is going to LOVE it

Megoeg478 · January 2012

I agree with previous posters, SYTTD does present a pretty unrealistic view of what the dress shopping process is for most wives-to-be! When I tried a dress on at Macy's, I knew it was different, but I wasn't "sure" at first. I'd just struck out over a dozen times at other stores, i wasn't used to seeing things I legitimately liked. I had never had a clear picture of exactly what I wanted in a dress, but I knew things that I liked, and I stood there slowly realizing that this dress had each of the things I'd liked from every dress I'd ever looked at. I still wasn't completely convinced. A woman who was shopping at the Macy's (and happened to be a seamstress) came over and began looking at the dress, explaining to me how even though it was a sample it was extremely well made and barely ever touched. When I heard that the price was reduced from what was originally double our budget to a third of our budget, I was shocked. That, combined with my own gut, the reasurance from "my fairy seamstress godmother," (never saw her again) and my mom's smile, confirmed for me that it was okay for me to go ahead and choose the dress.

Sometimes I think we're afraid to take the leap because we're afraid we'll see something else or that we'll make the wrong decision. But hey, we did a good job picking the guy, who says we don't have judgement just as good when it comes to clothing?

-Meg (grr, my user name is supposed to be "MegPeg478...darn spelling errors!)

texbex123 · January 2012

I had an idea of what I wanted. But when I found the exact dress, I knew it. I felt beautiful and confident. My mom and friends said I "lit up" in it, unlike the other dresses.

hazenall · January 2012

HI! My mom & sister flew in (from my hometown) for one weekend and so the pressure was on... 3 days, 9 appts...about 75 dresses. I wish I was kidding.

I had the opposite problem with my mom. She made several jokes about needing an onion to get any tears (she's not the gushy type... like me). So, the Say Yes to the Dress "cry" test wasn't going to be my trigger. I REALLY liked many dresses - beautiful, looked great, I felt good, but was lost and overwhelmed...so many styles, cuts, materails, "foo-foo/sprinkles".

Day 2, 1st appt (appt 5 in the series). After a 10 hour day of tulle, sequins, pearls, lace the previous day... I put on my first dress of the day. The dressing room had no mirror so I came out and my mom and sister saw me before I did. They gasped, jaws dropped, speechless (this is unheard of for those two!). I saw myself...pretty darn good. I couldn't quite put my finger on it but it was different. After looking every which way at myself, I found myself excitely saying, "Phil is going to die when he sees me in this!". I then realized that I had been in about 40 dresses the day before and not once did I really think how he would react to any of them... my comment was natural, and I said it without thinking. All along I thought of how dresses would move down the aisle, if the breeze would effect it, could I dance... etc...

I kept the other appts but, while beautiful, none of the rest made me really feel like that. For me, it was when I knew he was going to love it...without having to think about it.

If all else fails, just remember that if YOU feel great in the dress, you cannot go wrong. Your confidence is what will make you shine, not the garment.

BEST OF LUCK!

Davrey12 · January 2012

I haven't purchased my dress, yet. The one I love costs more than I wanted to spend. My sister and my dad (who's paying for it!) both said that if that's my dress, then that's my dress. I've been hesitant, and looking at others, just to be sure, since it's such a huge decision, but I keep coming back to the same one. I'm choosing it because I know my groom will like me in it, and because it's the only dress I felt nervous in, and my mom and sister cried when I put the veil on with it. That's how I knew!

allie1988 · January 2012

I tried on probably 30 different dresses and I even went in with a picture of the dress I thought I was buying but then when I tried my dress on...I could not stop smiling. I loved everything about it. It was about the fourth dress I tried on and after I took it off and kept trying dress after dress every time i went into the dressing room I kept looking at it and even when I had another one on I was thinking about that one. If you find a dress you love and can not stop smiling when you have it on and would kick someone in the head if they tried to take it off of you...It's probably the one :-)

bcd · January 2012

I went dress shopping with my daughter, she seen a dress and said MoM"thats the dress" and i said oh no i could not wear that, i am not a flower person, but i tried it on after trying on 3 others, and that was the dress. i was wowed me when i put it on. So i guess what am i am saying is if it wows you, buy it.

girlazn1 · January 2012

I went dress shopping today for my nov 2012 wedding and tried on about 10 I thought a few looked great on me but my consultant said that she thought my reactions to the dress were none of my favorite im a quiet somewhat shy and i went alone this time it still hasnt sank in yet hopefully i'll have better luck next time

designbyheart · January 2012

When I went out for dress shopping, I had a general idea of what I wanted, a picture from a magazine... I took my moh(sister) to each place & began describing to the clerks to help me find that dress or one like it... She was incharge of pictures...We tried on a bunch, finally the day I had some of the other BM with me as well was the day we found that dress from the magazine & another that better fit my descriptions of what I wanted.. I tried the more descriptive dress on first & one of my bridesmaids said, "omg Jenny, this dress has everything you've described to us." well I was still anxious to try on the dress from the magazine that I over looked the details... So I took the dress off & tried on the other... Being a size 14 I was stunned that the one from the magazine looked great on my body.. I was like this is the dress ... Until I looked at the pictures & realized how much better the other dress looked on me & how much more of the details stood out on film (remember you will have many pictures on your big day). The descriptive dress did have everything I had wanted in my wedding dress & flattered me from all around where as the dress from the magazine looked fine but made me look like I had rubbery boobs, & had a bustle that you couldn't see in the picture that was unflattering... So after another week of tring on dresses I realized that I continued to compare the other dresses to the descriptive dress so I went in & finally ordered the dress... I did have a little doubt after ordering too but it soon passed & I realized that I had made the right choice for me... My best advice to you is bring a camera, some really close friends that know you & take pics from every angle & look at the Picts before deciding .... Because let's face it.. No one wants to walk down the aisle with breasts that look rubbery..lol Good Luck Finding Your Dress!!!!

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